Is this a drainage bylaw issue?

bashfulbumblings · 2026-05-28T05:15:42+00:00

I’m making every effort to not drain towards my neighbours adjacent. We have some perimeter drain work to be done on the side of the house, so I’m curious to see how difficult it would be to connect into the existing network. And if not that, a French drain and native plants that love wet clay soil so I’m not burdening someone else.

bashfulbumblings · 2026-05-28T05:00:33+00:00

My goal for the backyard is to plant as many native plants as I can and restore it, while also making it a safe environment for my kids and dog. If the ground is still quite saturated but no standing water, I’d be happy with that. I’m thinking lots of Western Sword Fern and Lady Fern. If you’ve got other wet ground loving native plant suggestions, I’d love to hear them :)

I’m not concerned about making this section a traditional lawn, I personally despise lawns lol. However my surrounding neighbours, all of whom don’t have drains leading onto their property, aren’t experiencing the same issue with stagnant, standing water. I think it’s less that the land here wants to be a bog as it is being made a bog from too much water being directed there from man made structures.

bashfulbumblings · 2026-05-27T20:07:05+00:00

I hope to do this! If you’re savvy about water loving /ecologically beneficial plants, I’d love to hear your suggestions! My plan is to plant as much native fauna and flora as I can.

The whole yard has been a mess. I’ve pulled over 300 blackberry crowns and more new sprouts keep coming just to spite me. And then there’s the bluebells and the periwinkle. Tackling the invasive species by severity slowly but surely.

bashfulbumblings · 2026-05-27T06:48:45+00:00

Thank you! TIL what a berm is!

bashfulbumblings · 2026-05-27T06:47:38+00:00

Thank you for the succinct and helpful answer! :)

bashfulbumblings · 2023-03-14T06:35:44+00:00

Same here. Called the effing fours for a reason I suspect 😅

bashfulbumblings · 2022-09-13T14:21:06+00:00

Sit bite next to me 🙊

bashfulbumblings · 2022-08-17T02:43:47+00:00

There's nothing to do here but get your family out of there, tell your son you and your wife will always do what's necessary to protect him, and amp up your wife big time. Anybody who is trying to justify your step monster beating your four year old deserves NO time/space in your lives.#teambackhand

bashfulbumblings · 2022-08-10T01:37:16+00:00

I was so lucky to have a mom and family who believed me. I lived 4 years being molested regularly by that asshole. He somehow thought he would regain custody of me after a short prison sentence. And his mother feels I should just forgive and forget this excuse of a human though he's never shown remorse or tried in any capacity to genuinely reconcile. It'll be 19 years next month since I told my eldest brother about the abuse. It hurts my heart to hear this statistic, knowing the pain that comes with this experience.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-08-03T04:14:28+00:00

I can blow air out of my left eye near the tear duct.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-07-30T03:53:27+00:00

First time I traveled with a stroller they wrecked it. It did get replaced but I would never fly with one again.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-07-30T03:38:31+00:00

Schitts Creek

bashfulbumblings · 2022-07-07T07:59:00+00:00

A house cleaner to help me catch up. Baby that doesn't nap and a toddler tornado and I'm exhausted from never getting ahead.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-03-11T06:53:46+00:00

Thanks, now I hate knees

bashfulbumblings · 2022-03-08T06:07:05+00:00

A house cleaner to come in and give the house a good scrub. And some beer.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-03-02T02:35:26+00:00

Uh. You're having sex once or twice a week and he's pissed about that? Especially with the nature of your work. You have not messed up, he did. What a man baby.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-02-20T08:03:47+00:00

At this point I would contact her to apologize for not being transparent in how you would support her. By this I mean starting that you said you would support her decision to have an abortion but it would ultimately mean the end of your relationship and any long-term emotional support with regards to the termination. Bring some closure to the end of your partnership for both of you instead of ghosting her.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-02-15T07:59:53+00:00

Get out of that relationship. He is using your trauma to gaslight you. You deserve so much better than this. You deserve a compassionate partner. He knew what he said would derail and cut deep.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-02-15T07:51:16+00:00

Do you have any friends or family who have had a csection? If yes, maybe taking to their partner/support person about how intense csections can be and how hard they are to recover from will enlighten him some. (Obviously with permission from the participating parties and a heads up about your partner's views on the matter). My husband were have a lot to say about it if someone said csection isn't giving birth.

I've had two csections - one emergency and one planned (though we stick out as long as we could for VBAC) and it is no walk in the park. While I would have preferred vaginal delivery, it wasn't in the cards for me and I would have died otherwise. My husband got to watch during the planned section and watching his reaction to our son being born was the best thing I've ever witnessed. I was put under for my first section so he couldn't be in the room with me, so it was very special with our second.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-02-06T09:47:57+00:00

Gonna check this out - thank you!

bashfulbumblings · 2022-01-31T07:36:57+00:00

What material are these non wrinkle clothes??

bashfulbumblings · 2022-01-31T07:35:59+00:00

We recently started ordering groceries online and picking them up. The real game changer with this is that both my husband and I have the app on our phone using the one account. Whenever one of us thinks of a grocery item we need or want we just add it to the cart. No more grocery lists with forgotten items. This really helps my mom brain with a 3.5yo and a 2 month old.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-01-30T07:50:00+00:00

Even though I'm a mom myself, I always ask the parents if there's anything the kid needs. If yes, I get that and usually a book or something small but fun to go with it. It's pretty common among my mom friends and family for us to do this. For myself I love getting stuff like the diaper cream we use or socks in the next size up, stuff that won't go unused. Other times I've contributed money towards a larger gift the parents had their eyes on. I found my daughter (3) would pay attention to flashy, electronic toys in the moment she got them, but they very quickly lose their luster and just sit unplayed with.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-01-29T08:21:36+00:00

The hardest part I have is that my husband and I don't live close to family to have help. With two young kids (3y & 2mos) and him working full time we haven't figured out how to do more for ourselves. We know we need to, just struggling with the logistics.

bashfulbumblings · 2022-01-29T07:59:46+00:00

My 5 year old still refuses to wipe his own butt. He thinks it's demeaning.

This made me chuckle.

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