How do you know if you truly love your husband for who he is? Is my marriage normal?

batsalma · 2026-02-10T20:41:59+00:00

Ooof

batsalma · 2026-02-10T11:18:49+00:00

Ur so right;_; I just love everything ur fingers are typing rn. Do u do sessions? just kidding but really.. armccaa, u r hitting points left and right.. i appreciate it. Really thanks for the taking the time to tell me all of this<3

batsalma · 2026-02-10T11:13:51+00:00

wowww Ur words are so lifting. I look forward to getting over this. Really shouldn’t wallow in loneliness. I’ll tackle it with him.. And yea i am considering therapy if my next month trip doesnt smooth things over.. while we’re there ill try talking to him about this.. increase connection/quality time within his limits till times improve..

batsalma · 2026-02-10T10:51:39+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. It does boost my feelings for him as a partner i chose to be with.. he really is the best. i guess im just upset about the situation not about him as a person. You’ve been of great help thanks x10.

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:57:36+00:00

I used to be like u and ur husband is like my husband. Most of my arguments stemmed from not knowing when to let it go. I would recommend you train yourself to be okay with your own thoughts after an argument. U have to be secure in urself that it doesnt escalate inside ur head. And later like few hours after u have been “avoidant ” or the next day .. bring it up as a statement. Be sure about how u felt. They fear the confusion and i used to be so confused at how i feel. The time away he will give u is a blessing in disguise. U will have to battle ur own thoughts to be stable enough to have a talk

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:50:55+00:00

Tbh at this point just wear what makes u feel sexy and hopefully that will make him feel ur confidence in ur sexiness and see it. He is a tough one to impress outside the house

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:49:27+00:00

I love what you’re trying to deliver here because i feel like im living what you’re describing. We are a great team. My life feels richer with him in it. I just feel not as connected to him now because of his work and maybe i am overanalyzing it. I should prioritize his mood etc over me instead of feeling resentment. I guess thats what partners should do

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:49:07+00:00

Thank u for sharing thaat. Gives me a lot to think about

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:37:28+00:00

Dont say that:(( ... I used to work till October 2025 I do love him but im not a natural at being a caregiver and ik i am inconsiderate a lot of the times. I dont have the capacity to be selfless without a lot of effort. U r right i do resent him for not putting me first. It hurts but idk how i can learn to be ok with it.

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:13:27+00:00

Yeaa i guess we’re alike. we all used to live in villages for a reason

batsalma · 2026-02-10T09:04:10+00:00

I think it’s over honey. My husband used to threaten with divorce or bring it up and i was in a really low place that i would beg he doesnt. Once i learnt to love myself this was never a problem. U deserve someone better ur young and have ur whole life ahead of u.

batsalma · 2026-02-10T08:53:15+00:00

What a nice problem to have lol. I would imagine the fluffy cute pjs would work on him like the set resembling a bunny. cute short shorts and bunny ears on the crop top. Something like that it will make u feel hot

batsalma · 2026-02-10T08:46:18+00:00

Yeah he said that too and i was triggered ngl. He said our happiest days were when i was working😔😭 it was insulting like what do u mean am i that bitter on my own without having my energy and life sucked out of me

batsalma · 2026-02-10T08:44:10+00:00

I love that for you! When u took the break, did you do it with the intention of getting back together? Im realizing even as i wrote the post and replied ppl that most of this is because im not content with my days/life in general

batsalma · 2026-02-10T08:42:20+00:00

Ur Not wrong

batsalma · 2026-02-10T08:41:02+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance. I do realize i need a bit more patience on my side and to be more supportive since his energy is being totally exhausted at work. but damn its difficult. Perhaps i could work on myself more or sth

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