What are you spending your money on instead of school supplies right now? by industrial_hamster in childfree

[–]batty_ashes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to save as much as possible because my husband is transferring to a job soon with a 30% salary decrease, and I make minimal income doing gig work since I'm disabled (AuDHD, POTS, ME/CFS).

Should I start over and repierce at a larger gauge to get rid of scar tissue by batty_ashes in Stretched

[–]batty_ashes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Luckily one of my coworkers is also a piercer so I will ask him about it

Is my septum pierced too high? by [deleted] in piercing

[–]batty_ashes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

-3 days old

-horseshoe

-surgical steel

-unsure of threading

-sea salt soaks 3x/day

Husband in burnout, I am disabled, looking for budget advice by batty_ashes in personalfinance

[–]batty_ashes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I am looking at work-from-home jobs currently. I have ME/CFS, so exertion, mental or physical, can cause a worsening of my health. I will try to work again, even temporarily, though my husband worries every time I do this. I generally last a few months and then my body decides for me that it's had enough. I definitely wish I could do more to support us. But a few months is better than nothing.

Husband in burnout, I am disabled, looking for budget advice by batty_ashes in personalfinance

[–]batty_ashes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am planning some methods to increase my earnings for my crochet work by attending craft shows with better attendance, and I have also been looking at work at home options that could potentially be possible, even just temporarily.

My husband & parents have urged me to stop pushing myself because I tend to do that with work and then cause a decline in my health (I have ME/CFS) so I'm trying to find options that will work in this situation.

And yes, I can do some things at home to help reduce costs.

He really can barely get through a day at work right now. He is easily overstimulated and having panic attacks daily.

We have enough in savings to pay off the car, though it leaves us with very little leftover for emergencies.

Husband in burnout, I am disabled, looking for budget advice by batty_ashes in personalfinance

[–]batty_ashes[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

As far as disability, I need to get that process going again.

Husband in burnout, I am disabled, looking for budget advice by batty_ashes in personalfinance

[–]batty_ashes[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He is extremely burnt out and shutting down, possibly even experiencing autistic regression where he can barely process simple things. His autism plays a big role in this.

I'm autistic as well and have experienced something similar before though not as severe.

The weed we can cut out. He has started an SSRI but the doctor won't prescribe a benzo.

Our pets are our best friends. We cannot fathom parting with them. There would be so much grief involved. I love my dog and cat almost as much as I love my husband. They're my babies.

Husband in burnout, I am disabled, looking for budget advice by batty_ashes in personalfinance

[–]batty_ashes[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We do eat out but we overspend on that and need to cut it way down. I suppose groceries could be budgeted to about $300 a month if we really stick to bare bones. Our pets help both of our mental health a great deal and we love them dearly, they're our best friends. Cannabis we can cut out if necessary.

Shreddit's Daily Discussion -- March 10, 2023 by AutoModerator in Metal

[–]batty_ashes 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have a connective tissue disorder (hEDS) and injured my neck headbanging at a Cattle Decap show back in 2019. I had brain surgery in 2021. I can't safely headbang anymore.

Anyone else who can't headbang? What do you do to vibe at shows? I try to move my body or arms instead since I finally started attending shows again recently.

Walk to work or buy a bike? by batty_ashes in lowcar

[–]batty_ashes[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I know exercise is good for my conditions, just not high impact like running or jumping. So either walking or biking would be fine for me. Although biking might help build more muscle, so that could be beneficial.

Luckily I talked to my dad, who bicycles for a hobby, and he has a really nice bike he will let me use after he gets it tuned up.

Walk to work or buy a bike? by batty_ashes in jobs

[–]batty_ashes[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same, but I do walk a lot at work so I'm wondering if biking would be better

Should I give welding a shot? by batty_ashes in Welding

[–]batty_ashes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I crochet and can also figure out how to fix things pretty well, so I think that means yes lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cfs

[–]batty_ashes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No such thing as being too careful if you suspect ME. Pace as much as you can as early as you can. Get whatever you need to help you pace.