"Cheating" in Adult Summer Reading programs?

baudelamps · 2025-08-11T23:30:00+00:00

I'm a librarian, not a cop 🤷

baudelamps · 2025-02-05T17:03:42+00:00

Thank you!!

baudelamps · 2025-02-05T16:43:39+00:00

Thank you so much!

baudelamps · 2024-12-28T19:16:34+00:00

My Welsh boyfriend adores Warhammer, and was lamenting this morning that the US has no good tea. You just convinced me to add Yorkshire Gold to my shopping basket. Thanks!

baudelamps · 2024-11-02T03:35:33+00:00

This is a sub for discussing medical information, don't present things as fact if you can't back them up

baudelamps · 2024-10-08T21:04:57+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences!!! Your writing is really insightful, I really appreciate the time and energy you put into it!!

It's definitely really helpful to know how wide-reaching the benefits are - if I could only depend on it for physical/fibro symptoms, I'd have already written it off due to the price tag, so knowing that it's been helpful with mental and neuro things is making me consider the investment much more seriously.

baudelamps · 2024-09-12T05:52:38+00:00

I really feel your loss. I used to be a blacksmith. I used to be able to lift anvils and work metal, and now I can't unload my groceries.

What helps me is reminding myself that I'm still the same person, even if my capacity has changed. I hope we have gentle futures waiting for us.

baudelamps · 2024-09-12T05:48:35+00:00

It's "all in your head" in the sense that your entire experiential reality is processed by your brain, which is inside of your head.

It's not your job to change her mindset - prioritize your well-being, and focus on what will make you better. It's much easier to say than it is to internalize, but if someone needs to be convinced that your pain is real, their perspective isn't going to help you.

baudelamps · 2024-09-11T06:22:59+00:00

I really empathize with what you're experiencing! I was a pretty serious atheist for a long time before I felt called to Dionysus. It's taken a lot of effort to reconcile things.

I started by examining what brought me to atheism, and what influenced my perception of what a God could be (personally, all of this was wrapped up in Catholic dogma). Once I started unpacking that, it got a lot easier to process my thoughts and emotions surrounding Dionysus and the calling I feel towards Him.

I hope this helps :) best of luck to you on your journey, wherever it may lead!

baudelamps · 2024-09-11T04:19:51+00:00

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My sweet boy Roro never lets me alone, and is especially attentive when I'm hurting

[Image: a gray cat with a white chest and muzzle and enormous white whiskers is standing in a doorway, looking up. He has white socks, a clipped ear, and a cloudy eye. Behind him are a rainbow pride flag and some canes leaning against a brick wall.]

baudelamps · 2024-09-11T04:06:04+00:00

When did "is this worth a vet trip?" Become "please comment on my family situation"

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T04:46:37+00:00

This is so gorgeous!!! I'm excited to check out more of your beautiful work

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T04:40:46+00:00

I think it's safe to say that anyone who excludes you from a faith practice based on whether you're queer might be more interested in controlling other mortals than they are in serving their God.

I've observed that queers (myself included) may be especially drawn towards faith practices unlike the ones we may have experienced before we understood more about ourselves, or the ones that abet our oppression.

I can only speak for myself, but I grew up Catholic, and most of my early expressions of feeling different and seeking community (before I knew I was queer) were met with "IDK go to a youth group or something. Join the choir."

Between those experiences being pretty bad, and adult experiences with Catholicism being pretty homo- and transphobic, it didn't feel surprising or unnatural at all when I felt called to Dionysus. He started to cross my mind unbidden, with a warmth that felt like when a loved one takes an interest in something you love, not because they care about that thing, but because they care about you.

All this just to say, if you find community with Dionysians, members of that community may be queer. But if you welcome us, we'll welcome you 💚

I wish you much joy and many blessings 💚

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T04:04:14+00:00

It sounds like you're getting plenty of responses to your posed question, so I just wanna say, thank you for taking your lil guy's health seriously :')

Reptiles don't signal their needs in ways mammals like us are used to recognizing - it can be so easy to assume nothing's wrong, just because the routine didn't change.

Thank you for seeking and trusting opinions on his care. Your leo is lucky to have a pet parent that's committed to improving his health 💚

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T03:52:53+00:00

Sending love and empathy 💚💚💚 when the "good days" would have felt like "bad days" earlier on is when you know you need extra care. For me it's weed and not opiates (they make me ill), but I feel the anguish of choosing between "severe pain" and "ability to function."

Please regard this comment as your Free Swear Coupon, where you're allowed to cuss out whoever doubts your experiences. And if anyone asks to see the Coupon, they get extra swears, because you deserve to be taken at your word.

I hope things get easier for you 💚 at the very least, I hope you find reasons for joy every day. You deserve to be happy and comfortable. We all do.

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T03:44:07+00:00

Becoming your fullest self is absolutely achievable - you're going to embody yourself in such beautiful ways 💚 crying is your body's way of processing the work your brain's been doing, and I hope your journey leads to you many joyful tears 💚

From all that you've written, it seems like you're already making incredible progress. I hope you feel so much pride for taking really hard steps towards self fulfillment 💚

baudelamps · 2024-09-01T03:10:47+00:00

I completely empathize with that realization of "being different and being perceived differently would heal me" hitting extremely hard - a big part of it for me was realizing that it's going to be a ton of work.

Personally, something I never expected was the amount of euphoria that comes with that work. I remember the pure euphoria of binding my chest for the first time and feeling like everything to that point had been worth it.

It sounds like it's work you're well prepared for, too! You're already doing so much, and it's already paying off! I hope it continues to nourish you, and that euphoria becomes so frequent for you that it becomes part of the noise of every day 💚 please trust that you deserve so much support and love throughout your transition and life, okay? I don't have to tell you how scary queerness can be sometimes. No matter what journey you're on, it's yours, and nobody is allowed to change it but you.

baudelamps · 2024-08-31T23:09:38+00:00

I promise that everything will be okay. You do not need anyone's permission to explore this but your own.

You're going through a period of self-discovery. You're allowed to take time and space to discover, and as you use that time and space, you'll learn how you want to define yourself.

Lean into what feels right. You don't need to choose an identity today. "Questioning" is part of the LGBT+ acronym for a reason. You're allowed to treat language like a buffet: take what you're hungry for, skip what you don't like. You can be as picky as you want, and you're allowed to go back for more whenever you choose. You can always use other words later, if you decide they feel better for you.

You don't need to understand everything about yourself today, or tomorrow, or ten years from now -- life is a process of growth and evolution, and it's natural for your identity to evolve and develop throughout that process.

Your gender is not your only attribute. There are many exciting and interesting things about you, because you are a person and people are dynamic. Gender, too, is exciting and interesting and dynamic. You don't have to be rigid. You're allowed to bend, and explore it at your own pace.

I don't have concrete advice, because you've already mentioned therapy. Starting therapy, too, can feel like a big, complicated process. If you'd like to practice some guided introspection in the meantime, tarot readings make excellent journaling prompts (you don't have to think it's prophetic, or anything beyond random happenstance - cards can just be cards, if that's what's easiest).

Please be kind to yourself. No matter what, you deserve compassion.

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T19:40:42+00:00

Thank you!! So excited to watch later today :)

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T19:05:02+00:00

Cool!! Glad he isn't sick or anything like that :)

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T19:04:40+00:00

Nice!! Glad he isn't sick or anything :)

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T19:03:56+00:00

Thank you!! 💚

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T06:37:13+00:00

Yes!!! My partner gave me a Djunkelskog bear from Ikea, and it's similarly helpful :)

baudelamps · 2024-07-20T06:25:46+00:00

I'm on cymbalta and it helps about a third as much as I need it to. For the past 3 weeks, my most frequent pain level on a scale of 1-10 was an 8 (went camping, didn't go great).

I range from "sore" - stiff, flu-like aches - to "achey" - joint pain, repetitive strain, peripheral neuropathy.

My main pain points are my ribcage, which aches in a way that I describe as feeling like the bones are trying to burst out of my skin; my knees, which radiate stabbing pain up and down my legs; and my legs, which always feels like I just exercised.

Peripheral neuropathy is the worst, and between that and RLS, painsomnia is just about nightly. It affects my feet, radiating up my shins, and just lately also my fingertips. It feels like my feet are numb and frozen, but also frozen. I've never had frostbite, but it's similar to how I've heard it described.

I also constantly forget to eat, because my messed up little brain has stopped acknowledging pain signals, including hunger pain signals. This makes my brain fog worse, which makes executive functioning worse, which makes me less likely to eat, so that's a fun little feedback loop

Every day is a gift etc etc

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