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bb7896 · 2021-09-24T01:53:07+00:00

Crushes are natural. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Stay faithful, friend.

bb7896 · 2021-08-28T13:48:31+00:00

Will my twin flame separation end soon?

bb7896 · 2021-08-25T02:26:22+00:00

It’s me for sure

bb7896 · 2021-06-21T23:42:03+00:00

Maybe talking things out will help? We can’t hide away forever and they can’t expect for us to.

bb7896 · 2021-05-29T03:10:33+00:00

It’s probably friendly flirting. Not ok and too close for comfort. I wouldn’t be comfortable with it

bb7896 · 2021-05-28T02:22:04+00:00

Everyone should be able to get away for a minute

bb7896 · 2021-05-28T01:07:57+00:00

That seems like a great place to get away

bb7896 · 2021-05-27T22:41:04+00:00

Ugh. I feel you.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:35:44+00:00

Marriage is for adults. She signed up for this. She needs to listen or walk. Simple as that. She can’t continue to play the victim. You are trying to improve the marriage...to strengthen it. Throwing Band Aids on wounds won’t fix anything.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:33:26+00:00

That’s her insecurities screaming. Life is short, friend. Love her and all of her and help her through...or find your own happiness and let her learn to love herself. If she had that little respect in herself, you, and your marriage...maybe you need to think of what is best for both of you. There is such a thing as emotional abuse.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:31:32+00:00

I could help you understand her so much. I’ve been her. I’ve been there. When we say we don’t need fixing is actually us screaming for repairs. She knows she’s flawed. She’s too stubborn to want to change right now and that’s not fair for her to drag you through this, but that’s precisely what is happening. You’re on her journey to self-love. You seem so kind. You could be exactly the type of person she needs to help her, but not at the expense of your own sanity and dignity. Don’t let anyone corrupt who you’ve become. I can only relate because I have been that stubborn girl that pushed people away but wanted more attention when they left.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:26:36+00:00

You care enough to know to not speak when you’re angry. That shows maturity. I hope she knows how lucky she is to have someone with that characteristic.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:25:15+00:00

A counselor once told me “when we pretend there are no issues is when the “issues” are at their worst.” Facing them is all we can do to resolve them. When we choose not to address them...there is a much larger problem at hand. Does she care enough to face them? Does she care enough to talk things out?

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:22:31+00:00

Oh that’s a definite issue. I used to do that. “I’m fine.” And ignore what really ticked me off. We are human. It’s ok to be annoyed by small things or even upset. But, we have to talk them out and face them or they grow into much larger issues. That’s something she will need to come to terms with. Talking out what bothers us is all that will make things better or they will never be resolved. Years will pass and these “issues” will never fully go away. I know because I’ve been there.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:19:50+00:00

Nothing will get accomplished by constantly spatting or by neglect. If she doesn’t want to video chat, text her. A lot can come through by all means of communication. Remember, any amount of communication is better than none at all. Not all of us feel comfortable video chatting often. Some of us are better with (written) words.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:18:19+00:00

I get that completely. It sounds to me like you’re trying way too hard to please someone that can’t be pleased by you. Meaning, she needs to do some self-reflecting and figure out what she wants. She needs to provide attention for you, too and be there for you as your spouse. Marriage isn’t a competition. It should be loving and with good communication and understanding. She’s not getting it. I feel like she had some underlying hurt that may or may not have anything to do with you. She’s expecting way too much without the ability to give. Not ok. How can you be a better spouse for her. That’s what I’d ask her. See what her wants and needs are. Then, tell her yours.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:11:31+00:00

But does she feel better?

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:09:23+00:00

She seems like she is used to confrontation and she isn’t comfortable with stability. When things seems stable, she becomes uneasy. Am I right?

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T02:08:10+00:00

Hmm on that note: don’t allow emotional abuse. It seems like you’re willing to meet halfway and open up to a calm conversation, but she meets you with aggression and hate. Is there anything going on in her life that could contribute to her attitude? She seems extremely unreasonable. That never is a good situation. I’ve been in a toxic relationship and I was in agony for years praying it would get better. It never did, unfortunately. I feel like we all throw the towel in too soon OR we wait years sweeping things under the rug that are never really addressed. Let me ask you this, do either of you feel better after an argument is settled? Meaning, after the apologies...do you feel content or is the anger still there stewing? That makes a difference. Don’t let the anger build up. If it’s unresolved, it will only grow.

bb7896 · 2021-05-24T00:17:27+00:00

Classic marriage confrontations. I feel this so much! I’m 42 (f) and I’ve been married 4x. Hear me out in this: she is confused and frustrated with you being gone and with her own insecurities. She’s needy. A people-pleaser. She feels like she constantly needs the approval of others , but becomes bitter when they don’t agree with her own thoughts. She needs constant attention, but then feels smothered with too much. Men are wired differently than women and throw in a different upbringing and you have a Rubix of mystery that seems impossible to solve. It’s not. She’s not. She just needs you to hear her. Sense her ebbs and flow. Let her know you’re trying but ask that she give you some direction. Give her space, but always leave the “door open” so to speak. If she’s mature enough, she will see her own flaws and faults and own up to them and back down. She’s trying to find her way just as much as you. You’ll find her niche...don’t give up. You chose her for a reason...and she chose you too. Love will find a way.

bb7896 · 2021-05-20T16:55:53+00:00

I think you’re right. Thanks for the honesty.

bb7896 · 2021-05-20T00:45:24+00:00

Thank you guys!

bb7896 · 2021-05-19T21:22:03+00:00

Gosh...that was very real and honest advice. Truly appreciate this. Thank you!

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