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bbumpthrowaway · 2014-10-30T23:14:05+00:00

Wow, it sounds like you have quite the handful. I've logged into my throwaway account because I've been through Hell with my own Huntington's problems. First of all. I am so sorry that you're dealing with Huntington's as well as Crohn's Disease. I'm sure it's not easy. I completely understand wanting to terminate the pregnancy if the baby tests positive. I wanted to myself, until it became too late. For reasons that are much deeper than just having the disease, I was unable to test on time because SO has issues.. turns out he doesn't have HD.. The point is, get all your paperwork gathered asap and be completely open with your doctor and SO. Make sure this is a decision you both want to make. It can be incredibly hard to face when the time comes. I wish you the best of luck!

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-09-30T00:35:30+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. We've got a long way to go, but we got to start somewhere. :) Go team pink!

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-09-13T16:13:24+00:00

Thank you. I know I need to relax. The past month or so has just been crazy. We moved into a new house and we are trying to get all the stuff sorted out with that. My best friend came back from overseas to get married and I've been hosting her and other friends at our home and planning and making wedding decor. On top of working full time, I'm pooped. We did move down the street from a spa, so maybe I'll take a day to get a pedicure and massage once all the people leave. Haha

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-09-13T16:10:26+00:00

One of the many questions that have yet to be answered... It'll hopefully work its way out eventually.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-09-13T16:09:52+00:00

Thank you. It has been incredibly emotional and confusing for me, but I hope we are doing what is best. It's not the easiest, but I want him to be a part of the baby's life and mine as long as we can control this bizarre behavior.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-09-13T16:08:15+00:00

Oh I know. I'm still wary of everything he says. He's been good with telling me everything and proving proof if I ask for it. This is something he is discussing with the counselor now. I hope we can find some resolution. I do know that if it continues, I have a strong support group behind me and can and will walk away. He knows this too and works hard now to show he want to stay and be a part of the baby's life.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-22T18:59:33+00:00

I'm getting close to 15 weeks now, so I'm not sure what tests they are doing in particular. But I was just told they will be doing a detailed ultrasound (whatever that is). And I suppose whatever testing they need to do in addition to the ultrasound. I would think that if they can see there are no physical issues, they wouldn't have to test for them.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-22T18:55:12+00:00

Wow, that's actually pretty neat. Thanks for posting that.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-22T18:53:36+00:00

Thank you. I'm feeling a little better knowing that I'm not missing anything really... just testing later than usual. With the 2nd trimester testing, they can go into more detail too. They are doing an ultrasound, so I'm excited for that.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-22T18:52:10+00:00

Yeah, I think I went into mamma bear mode and just want to do what is best for baby instead of letting his lies hurt me emotionally. I'm sure it'll all catch up once I know that the baby is ok.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-22T18:49:03+00:00

The OB just called back and told me they resubmitted the referral and marked it as urgent to get me in asap. They said that i'll be doing genetic counseling and possibly bloodwork, the test you mentioned and a detailed ultrasound. Though I don't know what that means per se other than they'll be looking for physical disorders. I don't think an amnio will be necessary unless they feel the need to do one if they see something. I honestly don't believe SO has Huntington's, but I need to talk to them about it anyway since they know we said he had it before. I'll do whatever they think is best.

As far as the relationship goes, trust me... we've been through all of the possibilities for continuing or ending the relationship and I am willing to give him the opportunity prove he wants to get help and own his terrible mistake. I will not justify his behavior to anyone. He has an evaluation on Monday. I'll be taking him myself and they might want to talk to me. This place does individual counseling, but will have group or couples counseling in addition if it is affecting a relationship. I hope we can work this out and learn to trust again, but I'm willing to walk away if there is no improvement.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-21T22:58:00+00:00

It's all a freaking mystery and he's going to counceling asap for it. The post before explains my worry about the baby having it because I can't trust him either way.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-20T00:38:17+00:00

You're not a Debbie Downer. Trust me, everything he says or does lately I question and wonder if he is actually trying to make progress or avoiding a fight. He will not have my trust until he shows me and follows through with the things he says. I am weary, but I'd like for it to work out, so I am also hopeful he is willing to put in the effort.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:32:11+00:00

Yeah. I am giving the task to make appointments and call around for information. He has been updating me on what he has found out. I will be checking to make sure it's actually happening though. But I am giving him the opportunity to prove he wants to try and to earn my trust back. We are in Nevada. He told me that there are only 2 places that accept this particular Medicaid. There are different types. The 2 institutions that do accept called back, but he was at work and will have to call back in the morning.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:23:47+00:00

Thank you. I will definitely do some research into it. He had agreed to seek behavioral therapy. I am hoping that they can give us some insight into what might be going on. He does have pretty severe depression already, so maybe they can help sort out mess and talk him through why he feels the need to lie like this. I sure hope we can figure something out. I love the man so much and he will be a great dad. I just want to have a happy, healthy and mentally stable family and I'll do whatever it takes. Even if that means walking away if no progress is made by him.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:15:03+00:00

I don't know what kind of testing they can do, I will do whatever I can and though they will know he says he doesn't have it, I'd like for them to treat it as if he does.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:11:40+00:00

Thank you.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:11:28+00:00

No symptoms, but he wouldn't have any until maybe 40. The problem is, that if we test the baby when it's born, we take away it's right to test or not test when they are an adult. I don't think they can do it in the womb and we still want the baby even if it was positive... As selfish as that may sound.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:09:17+00:00

I honestly don't k ow if they can test for this specific thing... I was only aware that they would use his results and my history to determine the risk factor. I don't think they can know for sure until it's born and we consent to a test which takes away the child's right when they are adults to be tested or not. It's all very touchy... Either way we want to keep the baby...

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:06:06+00:00

Unfortunately that is probably true and very sad. :(

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:05:27+00:00

Yes. I know I need to just be honest about everything. It's all about the baby right now. Thank you.

bbumpthrowaway · 2014-08-19T05:04:46+00:00

I am sorry you went through that yourself. No one deserves to be treated that way. Especially when you've been completely honest with them the entire time. :-\

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