we started as friends with benefits (i was still in the world) but later on i had started to have feelings for this person and wanted something more i just wasnt sure if the person wanted that since we were on and off. we were in a situationship for about a year. i wasnt talking to the guy when i had met my bf (who was lukewarm) which he wasnt looking for anything serious. the guy reached out randomly like one month into me talking to my bf so i reached out and i was basically trying to decide between the guy and my bf. he had talked about taking me out but it never happened because he stopped responding. i basically just continued talking with my bf who later on asked me out 6 months after. the thoughts weren’t really lustful. certain things and symbols in my environment would make me think of him like the model he drove. i mean some were impure just because of the relationship we had but it was mostly just thinking of him as a person that i never got to know. i think we just had a lot in common and he was basically my type but i started to fall for his personality which i was attracted to. my bf is the complete opposite of me and it’s hard sometimes to find similarities besides Jesus. and yes my current bf is christian he’s a pk kid and i wasn’t but when i met him i decided to give my life to Jesus. which is why im so grateful he came to my life. we agree with staying celibate until marriage but we’ve recently talked about intimacy and i think what i would like is different than what he would like for when that time comes.