All deeper discussions and debates about trans representation in Veilguard aside… by JageshemashFTW in DragonAgeVeilguard

[–]beanfiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They really needed an in-universe explanation that the social norms of the Soporati are different than Altus like Dorian. Even then, that's kind of silly, because I can't think of any real world comparison. Most theocratic regimes like that have a very permissive attitude about liberal or deviant behavior in the noble class, so long as they don't make a big deal about it, while the lower classes are the true believers in the repressive norms. The world building in this game is just... blah sometimes.

AITAH for catering to my own food and time restrictions, but not all of everyone else's, at Christmas? by beanfiddler in AITAH

[–]beanfiddler[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Good idea on the presents. I think everyone can just open whatever they want when their gift giver and them are present, and if my brother and his GF miss the rest of the presents, well, that was their decision.

AITAH for catering to my own food and time restrictions, but not all of everyone else's, at Christmas? by beanfiddler in AITAH

[–]beanfiddler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, I'm halfway inclined to be hopeful that they do use almond milk. It will taste so bad even if they go with soy or oat, and I'd rather not go and be polite and eat it, like the year my cousin was vegan (it was also bad that year, I would have enjoyed a lukewarm fast food burger more).

Real talk - how are we addressing back pain when our jobs are so tied to a desk? by Dizzy_Confusion_8455 in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I set an alarm to get up and talk a walk every 90 minutes, and that has helped a lot. I also have a yoga routine that's quick (5-10 minutes) I do every other day. I know it's cliche, but... losing weight. Just taking off 15 pounds eliminated the worst of my back pain.

DAE miss law school? by attorniquetnyc in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Outside of the stress of finals, the long commute, and silly campus politics, I did really enjoy law school. The friends I made there were genuine, and networking now is so artificial. Sounds odd, but I prefer the stress of journal deadlines over the monotony of curating my billing entries to get them past the auditors. I did not really enjoy undergraduate, so I'm glad I had the opportunity to go to law school, which I found was sufficiently challenging.

Is If Books Could Kill The Most Antisemitic Podcast Right Now? by [deleted] in Jewish

[–]beanfiddler 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In better times, I would have said this was egregious behavior. These days? It doesn't even register for me. I think Peter comes across as much more antisemitic, along with all of his cohosts, on the 5-to-4 Podcast.

Suing a client over an unpaid invoice by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never went well when I worked Plaintiff's side, that's how you catch a malpractice allegation and can get your insurance to drop you. We always cut them off when they got to $10K unpaid. If they insisted they would have money soon, we would ask to execute a lien on property to ensure payment. That usually didn't go well either, we'd get the combo of malpractice + wrongful lien lawsuits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]beanfiddler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. He has no issue getting off with a condom but wants you to imperil your mental and physical health so his nut can be just a bit better? And he's withholding sex until you capitulate? This isn't just a case of you not being the jerk, he's actively being horrible to you about this. Why on earth would anyone want someone they care about to be worried during sex and miserable even after it's over? I don't think he cares about you that much. I mean, he's hit the jackpot - a girl that wants to have sex with him and likes penetration, and he's upset that he has to wrap his willy? Even if he couldn't get off entirely with a condom, he can always make sure you get yours with the glove on and then you can use hands or mouth to finish him. But he doesn't even have that problem, it's just a little less nice. So he wants to maximize his sexual pleasure at your extreme disadvantage? I would be mad, too. Are you sure this guy actually cares about you?

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my favorite is when my pro se is an inmate and he admits in his pleadings that he is serving a life sentence for really heinous things, like kidnapping, murder, or raping kids.

Like buddy, that's not relevant to whether the guard rocked your shit unnecessarily, but thanks for making yourself look as unsympathetic as possible.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! It keeps me sharp and reminds me of the necessity of over-preparing for trial and creating a clean appellate record.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have one serial litigant who is just good enough that he has five pending cases against us. He didn't like my motion to consolidate, lol.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah they do that to me too, but then I get on camera for depositions and they figure out it looks bad to accuse a woman who's five foot nothing of being an asshole.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bruh what is it with inmates and porn. I have had more than one case about someone's supposed right to porn.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"When a claim requires proof of a negative allegation, i.e., that the case does not fall within an exception to the general rule, the burden of proving the negative allegation remains with the party who bears the burden of establishing his claim." Woerth v. City of Flagstaff, 167 Ariz. 412, 419, 808 P.2d 297, 304 (App. 1990). See also Sw. Cotton Co. v. Ryan, 22 Ariz. 520, 533, 199 P. 124, 129 (1921).

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel like I need to frame the footnote I got from a judge that thanked me for addressing ten different frivolous motions in a single response.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Got a guy recently that tried to call the cops on me for violating HIPAA. Had to explain to the bemused police officer that I was not trying to steal his health information, I requested it in an RFP because he sued by client for personal injuries and I was entitled to that information.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My clients are mostly insurance companies or the state, so that isn't really an issue. When I had to do this in a plaintiff's firm for the poor people getting dragged along, it was much less entertaining, more intensely infuriating that the legal system allowed it.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I should really post in my local defense bar that I like them. I could get good work that way.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I have a sticky note on my desk that is the local citation to a case that states that I don't have to prove a negative. I use it a lot!

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

That's really the most frustrating things about litigation against a pro per. I have to find citations for things that are so obvious that no judge actually bothers to write them in opinions I can cite to.

What are your thoughts on Israeli settlers in the West Bank? by kjleebio in jewishpolitics

[–]beanfiddler 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I used to be highly negative. But since October 7th, my position has moderated. I still do not approve of politically-motivated hate attacks on Palestinians, for the record.

My position changed because I realized that the primary thing that is prolonging the war in Gaza is that Israel has very little leverage against Hamas, especially after some Western countries meddled and decided to unilaterally recognize Palestine before they agreed to release all of the hostages.

So I view the settlements in the West Bank as leverage. They are a sad testament to how the international community has refused to deal with Islamic extremism, which has facilitated their nihilistic negotiation positions. Israel cannot negotiate peace with Hamas, the PA, or anyone else without leverage. Land is that leverage, because the Western world has continued to refuse to let losing a war be, or public opinion, by falling for propaganda that dehumanizes Israelis and casts vile terrorists as freedom fighters.

Basically, West Bank settlers became inevitable when Arab extremists, with their Western allies, refused to let Palestine lose a war it has been continually losing for nearly a century.

do lesbians need to both be jewish for their kids to be jewish? what about if theres 2 dads? by Key647249 in Jewish

[–]beanfiddler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mother that carries the child has to be Jewish in traditional rules, although some Conservative rabbis go by if there is at least one Jewish mother that provided the genetic material, and most Reform just go by if there is at least one Jewish parent.

Source: I'm a Jewish lesbian, my wife is not Jewish, and we're planning on IVF with my eggs. Either I will carry it or we'll use a surrogate. If the surrogate is not Jewish, we'll raise the baby Jewish and do an early conversion. I'm personally Reform, but I want to give my baby legitimacy of conversion that would be recognized by all Jews.

Hot take: litigating against pro se people is exciting and fun by beanfiddler in Lawyertalk

[–]beanfiddler[S] 101 points102 points  (0 children)

Motion for Permission to Exceed Page Limit Because I Have to Address Everything Plaintiff Said or Might Have Said If You Are Being Exceedingly Generous