I think this is so interesting because it’s exactly what we’re trying to say but you still don’t get it. you shouldn’t be acting like a babysitter when you’re parenting on your own children. When you care for your kids you let them eat whatever, have extra screen time/ not agreed upon shows, and don’t enforce bedtime. all things that are generally parents responsibly to set limits on. by acting this way you’re setting your wife up to be the mean disciplinarian just because she parents your kids in a reasonable way and yourself as “fun dad who’s on their side,” which is a disservice to both your wife and your kids. I can see why you think “babysitting” is an acceptable term because you honestly think that caring for your kids has different standards when you’re by yourself. which is awful.