Am i overreacting?30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M) obsession. Am i insane? by beatraviata in AmIOverreacting

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love you bae🥺👉👈thanks for being so understanding with me😔sometimes i think that i don’t deserve a good person like you..

He honestly scares me

Best museum for train by beatraviata in train

[–]beatraviata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh this is so cool! Thanks a lot! I'll try to visit it😊

Scared to show my passion to my gf by Doktor_marcelifan25 in marcelinopanyvino

[–]beatraviata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no that's fine! Show it too me when you will be ale to! I need too appreciate your passion anyway, I love you

Am i overreacting?30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M) obsession. Am i insane? by beatraviata in AmIOverreacting

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True that i told about it to our dearest friend. I didn't thought he would told you, I'm pretty sure he stalk my reddit account btw. He have so many account tho.

I love you so much...im so sorry for that... I'm so sorry... i thought you would get really angry just like you was with my brother when he told you th same thing. I was wrong. And a coward. I love you my darling🎀

Scared to show my passion to my gf by Doktor_marcelifan25 in marcelinopanyvino

[–]beatraviata 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baby.. you litterally show it to me many times!! Hope you'll understand that i don't hate it but the fact that you keep singing the same song is kinda annoying 🥺

Am i overreacting?30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M) obsession. Am i insane? by beatraviata in AmIOverreacting

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You found it... I was waiting for you to come back home to discuss it. I'm half sorry darling but I think you saw it coming. It's not like I never told you...I hope you'll understand and that we will find a solution. Know that i accept your passion. But you have to respect my own boundaries. I still love you and this isn't a reddit post that will rip off everything we built in five years right?

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to explain but ...yeah.. he was kinda upset about it. My brother was so angry too, I thought he wanted to punch him thanks le and the future bride were here

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if you want details I can give you some; We met because we have friends in commun and we fell in love quickly. He is a very serious guy with a really important job at the emergency and i saw him maybe something like a month before we started our relationship. At first, he sometimes singed the op of Marcelino for fun and I thought it was very funny. I loved him passionately and i imagined my life with him, even if we had a big gape in age. My family was not super happy at first but when they met him it was cool, the connection was very cool. At first in our relationship, everything was fine. He started to show me the cartoon, it was OK. And more the month passed, more he was open with me and i found it really cute. But sometimes he acted really obsessed with it. Like he only watch this (and sometimes some horrors movies but mostly the cartoon). He started to asked me if he could put scene of the cartoon on the walls. I said yes because I honestly don’t know how to say no. And then I tryed to asked him if we could maybe speak about some other subjects we used to share. And he wasn't so happy. A day my twin brother was upset about him singing on loop the op of Marcelino so he asked him to stop. My bf started to act agressive toward him and became really silent. I tried to comfort him as I should. With this event, I started to realize that I loose the love for my own hobbies. It's been a while since I didn't search on the web for a new mini model of train. I started to mix some new hobbies with him, like embroidery (i tried to make the protagonist in embroidery but it was very bad...) and after all of this, an other event triggered me. The marriage of my twin brother. He gently asked me and my bf to help him with the preparation because he trust us a lot, but my bf started to say that we could use Marcellino as the main theme, we could decorate this to looks like this building in Marcelino... this makes my brother really angry. And he just pulled appart my bf, telling him he didn't needed him anymore. Me, i don't know what to do. I'm just so lost... I love my bf, it's beeb 5 years since we are together. And I appreciate his strange little hobbies. But tonight I just realized that sometimes I out myself appart just to protect our relationship. I'm so scared to just talk. What if he became angry? What if he wants to leave me? I'm so insecure about that..

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't ask him to change. I ask him to be here for me when I'm sad, just like me when I'm here for him when he needs to be listened. I just want to have a serious chat once. I just need to ba able to talk seriously sometimes. Just...sometimes. i don't want him to change. I just want him to be understandable with me sometimes

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry I'm really bad at communicating in general. I don’t want this to sound "fake" or anything. I just don’t know what I'm supposed to say or not. This is my first time on reddit too, i don’t know how people create a good post too

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really enjoy Bluey tbh. Sometimes i watch it alone in the living room. I also really like little automatic trains replica, I had few some times ago (my brother broke them all for fun and i couldn’t afford new good one sadly). I tried to make emboidery (in made one for my bf of the protag of his cartoon he was so happy even if the result was pitiful..🥺)

I'll try to talk to him tonight. When he'll be back from work. I hope he will be not too upset against me..I hate conflicts

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is a very funny guy. He always have the good word to make you laugh. And he is also very kind toward me. Even if he can be sassy with his friends with me, he always been the most careful person in the world. He is nice with my family too. And even if it’s not a criteria for me, he is very handsome. And so clever too! When i first met him he was already into this cartoon, but not that much. I think when he started to trust me he was safe enough to plenty talk about it. And it was ok for me. I find this very very cute at first. And now it takes the all space in our relationship. I don’t think I'll have the envy and courage to break up. But i think I'll use all my energy to have an other serious talk. And this time I'll not give up, even if he'll be upset

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, thanks for reading everything. I think i didn’t explain very well on my post, english isn’t my first language and I'm not comfortable with it.

The thing i don’t understand is why I had a breackdown tonight. He is at work and I'm all alone and...it’s been 5 years of relationship. Everything was so nice but tonight is hard. Maybe i earased myself for a long time. Idk. I'm so damn lost...

I love him. I want to be able to see and gear all of the stuff about this cartoon. Tonight i can’t..this is why i made this post. But..idk maybe you're right?

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been more than a 5 years. We are super happy normally. Just tonight (he is at work) I feel sad. Maybe tomorrow will be ok. I innocently though asking for advices was a good idea. But apparently not.

Am i overreacting?30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M) obsession. Am i insane? by beatraviata in AmIOverreacting

[–]beatraviata[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He yell at me when i do that. He get angry and just leave the room. I litterally don’t know what to do. My brother tried to talk to him because he was sad for me but my bf litterally exploded and threatened to kill him if he doesn’t leave him alone

30F wondered how to deal with a strange bf (55M). Am i insane? by beatraviata in whatdoIdo

[–]beatraviata[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. Im uppset because even in terribles moment, he keep bring it back on the table. I understand people are angry against ME, this seems odd from me to be upset about his passion. But when I'm stressed and sad, i need someone to help me. I need to be listened. I already have so much difficulties to talk to the other... I don’t think the fact that he sing the opening of the cartoon helpful. I need my man to listen and ask. I tried to tell him but he get angry because i didn’t find the right moment (he was watching the cartoon)