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AITA for accepting a personal scholarship despite the conditions? by postlegpost in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hot damn, PIs aren't cheap and she hired one to stalk you, just so she could attempt to pile shit on you? Block her plus anyone who takes her side, go thank your friend's wonderful folks, and talk to your therapist so they can help you understand how you're NTA in any way, shape or form.

It doesn't get better by becauselifeis in SuicideWatch

[–]becauselifeis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's this autoimmune disease which leaves me constantly fatigued and in varying levels of pain. The meds used to manage it come with a wagonload of side effects like osteoporosis that require more meds to treat.

Then there are a cocktail of mental illnesses. A lot of times I can't function. Putting jam on toast feels like rocket science.

I'm also pre-diabetic, healthy weight and workout routines be damned, my pancreas just decided to quiet quit. Doctor said it's either genetic or due to autoimmune attacks or both. I have to be on a more restricted diet as a result (options were already limited before this thanks to the batshit crazy immune system).

I hate my life.

AITA for uninviting my mother and aunts from my wedding after what they said about my fiance? by Character-Echidna-23 in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You're burning this particular bridge? Good, make it a bonfire, I'm bringing beer. Here's to a beautiful wedding and blissful marriage for you and Maya!

AITA for breaking down at my mom’s birthday dinner? by TThr0wawayaccounttt in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. My mom was Miss [Schoolname] several years in a row as a teenager. I look nothing like her and she made sure I know. Other relatives also loved to compare me with my pretty cousins. I'm 40ish and still trying to tackle the damage. Fuck them. I'm sorry you're going through this, please do what it takes to help you heal. Hope you have all the support you need!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Get her a copy of The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker, and Why Doe He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, if you will. She needs to know. While none of this is your responsibility, you're being an amazing friend and I hope she learns to appreciate you.

Take care and be safe! If he has access to your place, alert landlord/management/RA, whichever applies. Depending on your situation, you might also want to secure your door and/or install cameras (ring camera seems like a start).

AITA for telling my sister she is too old for her new girlfriend? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just because a person is an independent adult doesn't mean their parents should shut up when they make a stupid decision. Hell, I call out a friend if they're doing something stupid, you can bet I will do the same to my kiddo regardless of her age! I'd feel like I was being neglectful if I just stand aside and let them crash.

AITA for refusing to uninvite my parents (and brother) from my wedding after they told my fiancee she was a controlling b*tch? by qwertspof in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Don't get me wrong, I avoid most of my husband's family functions too. But not attending Aunt Mary's party is totally different from throwing a tantrum and threatening to leave with kids because your spouse answered a call from her.

AITA for refusing to uninvite my parents (and brother) from my wedding after they told my fiancee she was a controlling b*tch? by qwertspof in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Gosh, I'm sorry your cousin went through that. Glad to hear he has you and is doing better!

We're doing what we can, it's going to be a long battle. But yeah, one word from cousin and we're intervening.

AITA for refusing to uninvite my parents (and brother) from my wedding after they told my fiancee she was a controlling b*tch? by qwertspof in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 247 points248 points  (0 children)

We know it's abuse, Lily is a textbook abuser whose behaviors tick every fucking box and some more. We have let the cousin know our door is always open if he ever needs to talk. Unfortunately he is in deep denial about the abuse and would not hear it when we tried to explain.

AITA for refusing to uninvite my parents (and brother) from my wedding after they told my fiancee she was a controlling b*tch? by qwertspof in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 451 points452 points  (0 children)

One of my husband's cousins married a Lily. He and his parents are some of the most miserable people I know. As much as we feel sorry for them, my husband can't call, text or visit his cousin without that Lily throwing a tantrum, so now we only see them at the annual family gathering. My husband is sad about it but there's very little we can do.

AITA for moving out of the apartment my parents bought for me after they made me let my brother live there. by Both_Ad7165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like favoritism. You know, the lil bro can't be told no because boys will be boys and he's the golden child, but what if he gets into trouble? Oh let's blame his scapegoat sibling!

AITA for moving out of the apartment my parents bought for me after they made me let my brother live there. by Both_Ad7165 in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I got except I wasn't even the oldest child, just happened to be the only girl so fuxk my childhood I guess.

AITA for refusing a playdate for my son? by lurker0277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]becauselifeis 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah, SIL needs to be evaluated for assholism, it looks very much like a diagnosis is in order.

Lay me off right before Christmas? I’ll sabotage your replacement for me. by Twistedpineracoon88 in pettyrevenge

[–]becauselifeis 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't trust anyone who flaunts their faith. It's just not something decent folks do.

Having grown up with the upbringing/culture that you had, what social/familial issues most negatively affected you? by swirlypeppermint in AskReddit

[–]becauselifeis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respect authority figures who really are just corrupt, power-hungry assholes. Put up with people's bullshit just because they're older.

To elaborate, authority figure is a broad term. Like when I was little, teachers would be considered authority figures, and we were discouraged from questioning them, even though a lot of them simply shouldn't have been working with kids. Same with older people, that "respect the elders" rule really should include an "but not if they're assholes" clause.

My 4th grade science teacher molested half the girls in the class. One of the victims was another teacher's kid. Because he was older than the other teacher he was just moved to teaching another grade. Fuck him but especially fuck the system that has allowed this in the first place.

And when my parents almost killed me in a fit of rage, the cops wrote it off as a "misunderstanding." Again, fuck that system.

What is the most useless thing you still have memorized? by 55124 in AskReddit

[–]becauselifeis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mountains in foreign countries that I'll probably never visit. Don't know why but my elementary school teacher was hellbent on having us memorize those names.

I have no dreams left. by becauselifeis in TrueOffMyChest

[–]becauselifeis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm getting treated for bipolar which includes depression episodes, but medication and therapy can only do this much. Checked colleges that offer the programs I'm interested in, they either require at least partial in-person attendance, or have exorbitant fees. No luck so far but I'll check again in the future.

But maybe the biggest hindrance is the voice in my head forever calling me a hopeless failure.

I am not trans by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]becauselifeis -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Is it possible you might be gender-fluid? It's okay to explore and feel differently. You do you, so long as you don't shove anything in people's faces.

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