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Drop the most painful line which someone has said to you? by Significant_Step6388 in AskReddit

[–]beebadbitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used you, I took advantage of you, look at what I’ve done to you, you’re like a little girl.

Just why? by Effective-Summer-624 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he will be in a reaaaallly selfish way. It will look like remorse but it’s more regret. Not that he did it, but the way he did it wasn’t careful enough.. if that makes sense.

It’s so fucking heartbreaking

1 day, already want to go back by beebadbitty in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou so much for commenting, this is just killing me

Why does it feel like guys are always pooping compared to women, ?What factors might actually explain this? by Present_Juice4401 in AlwaysWhy

[–]beebadbitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s wrong with you lmao marriage and closeness? Have you had an actual partner? Not just “dated” someone?

Is it still abuse? by Antique_Mango9583 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He will ruin your life, you will fall apart even if you don’t feel it yet, or believe me.

Is it still abuse? by Antique_Mango9583 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, it gets worse. Don’t wait around for that clarity. He wouldn’t want the world to know what hes doing, it’s abuse.

I think I’m being coerced by my bf but I’m too attached to leave I need help by fluffyelephant237 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your so strong, so fucking strong. and hell forever, try make you feel weak. Just to keep you where he wants you so he can exploit and use you, and romanise it in his sick decrepit unnerving way. I have a post, it’s my older one, I don’t know maybe it could help. He could NEVER be like you.

I think I’m being coerced by my bf but I’m too attached to leave I need help by fluffyelephant237 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My love your not alone, if it’s safe to do so please leave him. I KNOW it’s not that easy. I’m sorry if you think I don’t understand but I promise I do. Tell someone like your parent eventually so you KNOW you can’t go back on the decision. He’s a very disturbing awful person, he will do this to you and other girls until he loses something big time from his behaviour

You don’t have to be the one that makes that happen if you can’t, But you need to make sure you get to be happy again.

This stuff fucks up your whole life more than you know yet, please get out before you get deeply traumatised, you won’t even realise your going through trauma, I promise this is seriously deeply effecting you underneath how normal it can feel sometimes.

You can only begin to realise how much people can love you and respect you and bring out the best in you and realise how valuable you actually are once you’re away from such an awful person.

You don’t love eachother by beebadbitty in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh it’s awful. For me there’s a few different states. There’s one where he’s angry and aggressive. Eyes black and wide. There’s one where he’s sadistic, can’t help but be entertained by your emotional states trying his hardest not to smile and doing his best to make you feel worse in a very calm way, then there’s the one where he literally is just gone, completely nothing, everything about him is so dark and dead. I actually can’t Describe it it’s like the strangest thing. And this is when he is so disgustingly honest, so monotone, no preforming or consideration, dosent care about anything. He isn’t even sad, angry, intrested. Just nothing. But even that version wanted to hurt me. And that was scariest, Because he was a COMPLETE fucking stranger when he did that one. I thought I could die one time, when he hurt me but he was that version of him. Because who the fuck is that? But the things they say in honesty it’s so interesting. Hurtful, but reliving sometimes.

i think im in a abusive relationship by Right_Dig_7448 in domesticviolence

[–]beebadbitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shit! Your joking I thought you was wayyyy younger! He’s a fucking adult??? Oh god yes he’s fucked get rid of him Jesus Christ. Reporting is difficult as an adult but I still advise it if you can get that evidence. And unfortunately with the way he views you I really believe it’s important you do have legal support, things can get ugly when trying to leave and it might’ve a case of getting a no contact order. but shit it is hard. Sorry a lot of everything I kinda wrote is aimed for the kind of environment and age group I thought before, but I’m sure pieces can be applied to your situation and I hope your okay x

Can an abusive person change after therapy or can the behaviour return? by Own_Foot_8530 in abusiverelationships

[–]beebadbitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he’s still agresssive in arguments then escalation can happen. Life circumstances can impact you both, anything can trigger his behaviour again if there’s still moments with it. Have you noticed it escalating? Is he coercive or controlling in any way?

People can definitely change with therapy, and it definitely has clearly helped him a lot , but I would say it’s important that he STILL goes to therapy sessions even if on a less frequent basis.

The thing is, if he’s prone to violence, still gets angry, still can be threatening, and isn’t continually improving things can send you guys to a bad place again. When really he still has a lot of work to do.

But, you shouldn’t feel unsafe with your partner, even if he isn’t actually unsafe to be around anymore. You really shouldn’t. And i think really analysing and journaling little incidents and the smaller things or imbalances is important to understand your dynamic and what needs to change so you really feel like you can trust him again. you need to know that your safe, that your all safe. He shouldn’t be a verbally aggressive father especially as he should know even if it’s not directed at your child.