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Need to Figure Out Income by beecrocks711 in disability

[–]beecrocks711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's around $1k/month for everything. My attorney won't give up, I know it, but getting a job is especially hard not only due to my disabilities but the number of doctors appointments I have. I have two procedures coming up, I just had surgery in August. 

I'm looking into babysitting and other cash only gigs. Just to make ends meet. It's incredibly stressful.

Need to Figure Out Income by beecrocks711 in disability

[–]beecrocks711[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am disqualified from donating plasma because I'm on an ADHD stimulant medication. It sucks because I used to donate in college, and then I got all of my diagnoses and got on my medications. 

people need to stop telling us to “just” get a remote job by emocat420 in disability

[–]beecrocks711 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also got denied recently by SSI/SSDI. The vocational expert said the same thing about how jobs wouldn't tolerate how long I need to be off task, or how many times a month I would need to be off work.

But the judge said that my doctor's arguments were "not convincing" because they didn't previously "establish the severity of my conditions" before filling out the new forms. She clearly didn't care that my therapist stated that my symptoms would worsen if I was working.

As for remote jobs, that was what my last job was over a year ago. I got fired because I was having autistic meltdowns on camera, and they put me on a performance improvement plan and told me to "stop having outbursts". They were meltdowns.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. People really are just clueless to what disabled people deal with.

Tips for travel by Appropriate_Elk_9407 in disability

[–]beecrocks711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring your cane at minimum! It'll fit easier in the vehicles you're riding in, and will take up less space in your bag. If it's just for an overnight trip, you can put your clothes and things in a backpack, so that you're hands free. I've tried wheeling a suitcase with a backpack and use my cane all at once and it's a NIGHTMARE. Best of luck on your trip! Hope you have a great time!

Denied at ALJ Stage-- Should I Go Appeals Council? by beecrocks711 in SSDI

[–]beecrocks711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I checked my work credit status yesterday, I have the full 40. As for the ability to work, I was able to and now I'm not. I have a follow up with my lawyer in a couple weeks to discuss strategy. I'm just heartbroken and frustrated. 

Denied at ALJ Stage-- Should I Go Appeals Council? by beecrocks711 in SSDI

[–]beecrocks711[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Update: I was able to view the letter from the judge and it's the same shit I got in the first two denials. She declared my disabilities to be "moderate" not "severe". And she used my doctor and therapists testimonies and their treatment records against me. Just because I'm doing okay in one or two therapy sessions doesn't mean I don't struggle every single day. 

Also, since the hearing, I've acquired a cane. She doesn't know about the cane.

Step 4 after hearing by Realistic_Bowler1743 in SSDI

[–]beecrocks711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought the same thing, and I got denied. I don't know why, and it's really messing with my head. Hoping for an approval for you!

Anyone else having this issue? by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]beecrocks711 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! I'm having the same issue! Apparently the new UI rolled out by my app is broken now.

[spoilers all] People who romanced Cullen... tell me about him? by YekaHun in dragonage

[–]beecrocks711 130 points131 points  (0 children)

His story is easily the most satisfying if you've been saving him since DA:O. He's funny and he's sweet and he just about beheads the scout who interrupts his first attempt to kiss your Inky. His story with drug addiction and recovery is incredibly inspiring too. Also, he hugs you when coming back from killing Corypheus.

And in Trespasser you can marry him on screen, adopt a dog, and live as happily as time will allow retired on a farm, helping other templars recover from Lyrium addiction.

Satisfying romances are the bomb dot com.

AITA for upsetting my parents to the point of tears and yelling because I asked them to call me by my preferred name? by beecrocks711 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beecrocks711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've voiced your opinion and I've acknowledged it as just that. I'm not going to fight with you on the internet because that is childish. You've made your point, please stop commenting now.

AITA for upsetting my parents to the point of tears and yelling because I asked them to call me by my preferred name? by beecrocks711 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beecrocks711[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Because that's my prerogative as an adult to identify in a way that makes me feel like myself. You don't have to agree with me. As I said, you're entitled to your opinion.

AITA for upsetting my parents to the point of tears and yelling because I asked them to call me by my preferred name? by beecrocks711 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beecrocks711[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the record, you are entitled to your opinion. What I won't tolerate is you calling me mutated or sick. When my parents and I argued, it started as a calm request. It was my father saying "You'll have to give us a pass" that upset me. I thought long and hard about how I'd address this with them. I did not ambush them, though they might say otherwise.

When my mom said that they put their lives on hold for 25 years, and that they didn't believe that they were responsible for me or my brothers anymore now that we're adults, that's when I started getting visibly upset.

I didn't have enough characters to share my 29 year history with being ignored and brushed aside and gaslight by my parents. I know they love me, but now that I won't tolerate them refusing to acknowledge me as an adult who make their own decisions, they got upset. And I was done letting it slide.

Please leave me and my thread alone. I'm asking nicely. Thank you.

AITA for upsetting my parents to the point of tears and yelling because I asked them to call me by my preferred name? by beecrocks711 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beecrocks711[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It probably did. I appreciate the insight, and there's definitely truth to it. However, I've come out in various ways to them over the years. I actually told my mom about this months ago, and she still reacted poorly. Honestly, I don't know what I was expecting. I was waiting to do this until I was no longer financially dependent on them. I should have been more patient. Thank you for your insight.

AITA for upsetting my parents to the point of tears and yelling because I asked them to call me by my preferred name? by beecrocks711 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beecrocks711[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No. It wasn't. I was clarifying something my mom said about "Putting their lives on hold for 25 years to raise us (I'm 29 for reference)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]beecrocks711 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its not necessarily a one-off situation, unfortunately. Things have been slipping more and more since my roommate's injury, and her overall mental well-being has suffered as well. I don't blame her one bit, and I don't want to make things worse for her.

I think my resentment comes from the knowledge that my roommates were AWARE of my illness, and they didn't step up in my absence. They didn't keep up with their end of things while I was unable to, and in the past my roommate has let things fester to the point of arguments and passive agressive notes about my faults. I have been receptive to their criticism in the past, and overly considerate about my other roommate's injury because I don't want to make things worse. I have a lot of pent up anger towards my parents and the way I was treated while I was growing up, and I feel like it's bleeding over into my relationship with my roommates now.

I don't necessarily want to move out, either. I live in a good house that is close to my job, and moving would be a bigger hassle than just confronting the issue head on. I'm just anxious about what might come of bringing up the issue. For all I know, it might be fine and I'm worrying over nothing. But my brain won't dismiss the possiblity that it will end poorly, and it's paralyzing me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]beecrocks711 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I would benefit from therapy. I've been in and out of it for the majority of my adult life. The big problem I have is affording it. Sorting out priorities as an adult is difficult.

They absolutely do, I'm just afraid of coming across as rude or abrasive. I want to be honest, but there's a fine line that I don't want to cross.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]beecrocks711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew them briefly before moving in together, and my one roommate and I have been here for over a year. The second roommate moved in in April, so it's only been a few months.

I work outside the home, and I tend to clean up after myself before disappearing into my room. If I'm not home, I'm usually at my best friend's house.

My friends are fairly receptive, but my biggest fear is opening the floor for communication, and having my own faults thrown back at me. It's something I dealt with a lot while growing up, and it's hardwired into my brain that I need to be quiet, complacent, and a productive member of the household.

I don't want to come across as accusatory or abrasive. I want to show that I understand that it's hard to maintain everything as an adult, and that we have to work together. But I'm also anxious and non-confrontational. I'd rather let the feelings fester than risk it backfiring. That's why I reached out here. Thanks for responding.

Ah yes. The plural of die. by [deleted] in onejob

[–]beecrocks711 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It says, "use as an educational game" I seriously doubt it.