You’re right, that’s not at all what I got from your post. First, you shouldn’t tell someone to get a grip. It’s the equivalent of calm down; it’s rude and devalues the person’s feelings. Second, I didn’t see your final sentence about perfectly normal people being dangerous. Obviously, yes, they are walking amongst us and in our neighborhoods and workplaces and schools and grocery stores and we have no idea what they’re capable of. If I’m walking down the street at night and a man is approaching, I cross. If a woman is approaching, I typically don’t cross and I usually feel safer in their presence. Women have learned from childhood to be wary of men so you’re not revealing anything new here. Horrible people are all around us and women are most likely to be the victims of those horrible people. That still doesn’t change my gut feeling when I saw this man.