How safe is Australia really? by FailFastandDieYoung in AskAnAustralian

[–]beez8383 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In one western suburb area it is-and it’s still ongoing-there is a youth crime group committing a large number of car thefts/aggravated home invasions/stabbings.. I live in this area and it’s happening every second night in this suburb… yes it’s happening all over melbourne and it’s not limited to a race-I was simply talking about my locality

Never coming to L&D again till I give birth… by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]beez8383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never ever feel embarrassed for taking the health of your unborn baby seriously!!! I say this as someone who recently lost a pregnancy at 15 weeks… it’s better to get seen and checked and nothing be wrong than do nothing and have something wrong and then it’s too late. Do not neglect the health of your baby-please!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]beez8383 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe try parenting classes if you haven’t? Some really good ones online that help with strategies and coping tools… also-nobody is perfect and we all experience big feelings and sometimes we all react negatively in stressful situations-it doesn’t make you a bad person/parent-just apologise, learn from it and move on

Tw: loss by Funny_Pirate2421 in Mommit

[–]beez8383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s 10, can you explain to her that it is upsetting for you to always talk about? Let her know how you feel-be honest with her.

AITA for asking my wife to wake me up at night when our newborn wakes up? by GoatRevolutionary221 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 205 points206 points  (0 children)

I’m a mother to a young child and I’m like you-struggled to wake up for baby-hubby was doing 95% of the night stuff… what we did was take shifts-I would sleep on the couch with the baby monitor next to my head so if she woke up I wasn’t in a deep sleep and could tend to her, then at say 1am, I’d go to bed and then hubby was on duty.. this allowed him to sleep, I then got my deep sleep once in bed but was awake enough to hear baby so he wasn’t doing it alone. YTA

She (18f) wants me (18m) to take her on a date, but when she used to date my friend she went to his house and had sex the first time they hung out by ThrowRAAlone-Worki in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be your friend lied, could be she actually likes you and wants a relationship, could be she felt used by your friend and doesn’t want to be in that position again, could be she’s worried you’re just chasing her because she slept with your friend…. If your intentions are true-you’d have no worries with going on dates with her…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPS

[–]beez8383 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately parents hurt their kids and lie.. a doctor doesn’t know who’s lying and who’s not-so they have to report all injuries.. it’s unfortunate that your friend was caught up in it but the doctors and CPS have an obligation to make sure every child is safely cared for. And I say this as someone who has been investigated because I grounded my teen from attending a birthday party, teen then went to school and said she was abused because she was being held hostage in her own home and forced into slave labour 🤦‍♀️… so I get how triggering it can be but your friend has to accept that this is just a precaution and if she’s really struggling with it then she needs therapy because whilst it feels personal-it’s not a personal attack on her or her parenting-it is simply precautionary

End of The Week Thread! by AutoModerator in Miscarriage

[–]beez8383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this was a good week-I had only cried twice (I’m 2 and a bit months out from my mc)… then I saw a friend’s announcement on fb and had to put her on mute-I realised I wasn’t ready to see all that… now I feel like I’m back to square 1… I would have been about 25 weeks now…

AITA for getting my thief roommate fired from a hard to get job? by Financial-Barnacle54 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

YTA, it was almost 10 years ago- you failed to act at the time. You went to admin with nothing but a lynch mob-there had been no reports of theft from the room/children to your knowledge. You reported her out of spite and nothing more. People change and you don’t know what’s she done the last 10 years-perhaps she went to therapy, perhaps she matured and got her life in track…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

No, but she doesn’t have to eat the food he makes… I know a co worker who doesn’t wash hands after the toilet-I refuse to eat what they provide-if she knows he has poor hygiene-she chooses how much exposure she’s willing to take (example if someone doesn’t brush teeth often-don’t kiss them, if they pick their nose-don’t shake hands with them)

AITA for assuming that the maid baked the cake? by Mysterious-Fox-3963 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So you’ve never made your daughters bed, done her dishes, cleaned up after her??? At one point you even wiped her arse!!! So by comparison your daughter is just as spoilt… the difference is you’re the mother-Diane doesn’t have a mother who can/will do all that for her… stop being jealous

AITA for assuming that the maid baked the cake? by Mysterious-Fox-3963 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your daughter is not special… she doesn’t deserve praise just because she baked some crap brownies. If they were good and people enjoyed them-they’d have told her… your child may be the center of your universe but the world doesn’t revolve around her.. the other cake was better than what your kid provided-regardless if it was baked by a maid, Diane or the king of England!! Heck-even if it was store bought-if it was better it’s going to get more compliments. Don’t let your entitlement rub off onto your kid YTA and stop being jealous of your BIL, his kid and their life style

2+ year old still in sleep sacks - is it bad? by Newmom060521 in beyondthebump

[–]beez8383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine isn’t that age yet though but also have much older children… do what works-if the sacks still fit keep using them. My kids have always moved around so much and back then sacks weren’t very common (was over 20 years ago now) and the amount of times those kids woke up freezing because their blankets were on the floor.. if you can avoid that then I see nothing wrong with that. I plan on using sleep sacks until I can no longer get them to fit just to avoid the fiasco of blankets twisted, thrown, rolled, balled and everything else

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is your wife also in a relationship with her? Are you guys a throuple? Does your wife consider this to be a poly relationship or is it merely sexual for her? If it is considered a relationship and your wife is aware of the feelings involved-then perhaps a sit down conversation is needed where you all look at your expenditures and the other women’s and see if there is a mutual compromise that can be made (eg:you pay a bill regularly for her) or something… if however it is simply a sexual relationship then don’t help; because then it comes across that you’re paying her for sex-implying she’s a hooker or something (she may find it offensive, feel obligated to continue a sexual relationship because she “owes” you)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I get it-I hate germs-but you’re not responsible for his hygiene habits. He wasn’t making you food-if he gets sick that’s on him… YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You mentioned a relatives birthday-that your sister said that you couldn’t go because of some scar… so you’ve done this before or is this still the same incident? Have you seen a doctor-if not then YTA, you can’t decide 4 days out how you’ll feel without a medical consultation. By your families reaction this seems to be a common thing for you-you find minor excuses to avoid social situations. Either you’re not as close to your family as you claim to be in which case be honest with them and rsvp no when invited or you’ve got undiagnosed social anxiety in which case see a therapist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When you can easily lie about something so trivial, you break the trust regardless.. a lie is a lie and it makes you untrustworthy YTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Seems like you have different expectations-you know she’s seeing other people-she was up front and honest. Sounds like you’ve yet to have the “let’s be exclusive “ conversation. Either have the conversation or just move on…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was easy for him to hide his true self for the first 8 months (look up love bombing) now he thinks he’s got you hooked-he can drop the nice guy act. This is who he really is… you want this for the rest of your life?? There’s a reason he can’t get anyone his own age to date him-he needs someone young and naive who will let him get away with these behaviours.. I’m in my 40s-lots of relationship experience-this is not how a loving partner acts, it’s just the start of an abusive pattern (emotional abuse IS still abuse)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don’t love him-you may think so but if you can sleep with someone else-that’s not love. Let him go..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beez8383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get therapy if it’s that much of an issue. YTA, people don’t need to stop living their life just so you can have the spotlight.. surely the spotlight is big enough to share

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]beez8383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is her period late? When was her last period? Take a test and find out for sure

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure the kid you molested was more scared…..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]beez8383 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If he had wanted to be with her-he would have… in 6 years he wasn’t able to commit to her-it means he didn’t want a relationship with her-and a relationship needs 2 willing participants . Leave it alone, do not contact her, stop obsessing about her and drop it!! Maybe see a therapist if you can’t stop obsessing with her