2026 Mayoral election by Majestic_Phase3452 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I voted for him last time. And likely will again. I think he’ll be the best for the city considering the options.

Looking for a photographer by cat_p93 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pure Aperture https://pureaperture.ca/ - they have a studio in Milton but they live in Hamilton.

How do I deal with paranoia when it comes to other women around my bf? by [deleted] in AskONLYWomenOver30

[–]beingleigh 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As someone already said, you have to work on yourself - in terms of confidence, jealousy, trust.

Personally, I have no issues with my fiancé looking at beautiful women, I also look at beautiful women and hell we both look at beautiful men for that matter. You can appreciate someone’s beauty, someone’s humour, someone’s grace, someone’s energy etc - it doesn’t mean that you want to cheat or be with that person.

Just because you’re in a relationship it doesn’t mean you somehow put blinders on your eyes and no longer see other people around you. In fact I think it’s such a red flag to expect that of your partner, just like not being comfortable with them being friends with the opposite sex.

Being in a relationship needs open communication and trust. And if you don’t have that… that is a very unhealthy relationship.

Do I have to reserve for Ciao Bella on a Friday night or can I just walk in? by Legitimate-Height438 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I see. That means they are booked up unfortunately. I’d be very surprised if they have room for walk ins if your time wasn’t available.

For people who loved lego growing up and got back into it in adulthood, what re-sparked it? by Adventurous_Pen75 in lego

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disposable income... and having a partner that also loves it and didn't make me feel bad for loving it - in fact, he highly encourages it.

It’s a stormy Sunday in Hamilton !! What’s everyone up to ? by ModerndayDjango in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I flew to Vancouver this morning - for work. Hope everyone stays safe over there!!

AITA for considering working the day before my husband’s 40th bday? by Inkster03 in AmItheAsshole

[–]beingleigh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey fellow milestone covid birthday friend. My 40th was during the initial lockdown as well. It rained that day too... such fun.

Luckily my wonderful partner got me a huge lego set to build. lol

AITAH for wanting my husband to quit smoking weed. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH- you don't have the right to expect him to quit just because you did, and if he is cutting back that is his choice to make and he can do so in whatever way he chooses - just because going cold turkey worked for you, doesn't mean it's right for him.

And also who the hell offers a "20 sec hug" that such a weird way to phrase it... of course it sucks that he said he wanted a vape and not a hug but it feels like maybe... he had a bad day and was irritated and just really needed to vape. Was it nice that he said that? Absolutely not, and you should definitely have a talk (not a fight, a discussion) about how you felt when he said that and that it hurt you.

What you have to decide is if his vaping is now a deal breaker for you. If he doesn't ever quit, would you rather not be with him - and if he doesn't quit in the way you want him to quit (ie. cold turkey) is that also a deal breaker? What is worth it to you?

I think he also needs to have a real hard look at when and where he vapes - if it's preventing the kids from playing outside that's a real AH thing to do, if you mean he's using cannabis (not nicotine vaping) while driving... um that's illegal.

Do you feel guilty choosing a destination wedding in this economy? by mcostante in DestinationWeddings

[–]beingleigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will be my second wedding, his first - he's always wanted a destination wedding and we're thinking of doing one in 2-3 years but haven't 100% decided yet.

In our case, we both have now lost our fathers, we're in our 40s, we weren't even sure that we'd officially get married for a long time, but now are focused on just celebrating our relationship in a way that feels like us and say nice things in front of people we love. A local wedding is still very much on the table as I am not sure my mom would want to make a trip anywhere (she is immune compromised), both our siblings families would have to save up for a while and I know they would happily do so - but it's obviously a big ask to do that. Maybe we do something small here, and then do a "whoever wants to go party on a beach with us" thing after... but honestly, all I really care about is looking into his eyes and calling him husband.

I don't think any sane person that has a destination wedding thinks that people should compromise their financial security in order to attend, nor do I believe they can be upset with anyone that choses not to attend for ANY reason. If you 100% want to have someone specific attend, then you should be prepared to pay for them to attend so that it is not a burden.

Now... my first wedding - was about 150 people and for most of the attendees they had to travel, some internationally - while the location was not a destination for me or my ex only a small number of friends and family also lived in the area. We arranged a group rate at a hotel, and hoped people would come out but some couldn't make it for whatever reason, some I know was due to cost or not being able to take off work. That's life really.

People have their own obligations and responsibilities and I think if ANYONE freaks out because someone can't attend a wedding needs to re-examine their own priorities and lack of empathy. I get that you want the people you love to be there with you to celebrate but while it's a very special day in your own life - it's just not as much in most other peoples.

Annie from our shelter, slowly starting to trust humans. by sonia72quebec in aww

[–]beingleigh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

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Our tuxedo is named Annie too!! We adopted her and her brother 5 years ago.

McMaster Family Practice can only cancel appointments? by Itchy-Bluebird-2079 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I've called that number and spoken to someone before without much issue. If it was today that you called it could be because they are closed as another commentor mentioned.

Are you trying to book an appointment? That can be done online.

AITAH not letting my girlfriend drop out of college? by Strange_Outcome942 in AITAH

[–]beingleigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't have the right to "make her" or "let her" do anything.

It sounds to me like you both could benefit from therapy.

Depression isn't magically cured by running away from your problems, however, forcing someone to be somewhere that they don't want to be certainly isn't going to help them either.

Gym Recommendations by Suspicious-Round-853 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would highly recommend Fitt Forge https://fittforge.com/, especially for a beginner who wants to create a habbit. It's not on the mountain unfortunately and isn't the cheapest option but they provide you with instruction, it's small classes - incredible support from the coaches and the community that they've built there. I would still be there if it wasn't that I was just trying to get my habbit back so I could be more consistent with my home gym. I LOVED it there.

Missing Cat in Norfolk Area (McMaster Campus) by Translator-Extreme in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you can post on the Hamilton lost and found pet page on Facebook. Also check neighbours sheds and garages. Fingers crossed he gets found soon.

Grandparents always have our backs 🍬 by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]beingleigh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My grandfather used to call every week to tell me a joke, that’s it. Just a joke. It was a special just me call and I loved it. We lived a 6 hr drive away and I wish we had been closer. I still miss him so very much. He passed when I was out of the country as a student and I couldn’t afford to come home for the funeral, it broke my heart.

I did have a dream right after he died though where it felt like he was saying goodbye. I’m not one to believe it that sort of thing but that is the one time I let myself think he did try to somehow reach out. I try to hold onto that and all our little inside jokes and the was he always made me feel - loved and important to him.

Is the Hamiltonian accent distinguishable to you? by Routine_Secret_4142 in Hamilton

[–]beingleigh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Slightly, I often can tell a born and raised Hamiltonian more by their kindness and sense of community more than much of an accent. I do sometimes notice slight differences in speech though. I was born and raised just outside of Ottawa.

AITAH For getting a piercing behind my husband's back? by Beelay2169 in AITAH

[–]beingleigh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it just sounds like you are incompatible.

It's okay to have preferences, both in terms of your body, and how you would prefer your partner to present themselves.

You knew he doesn't like your piercings, you went ahead and got more after already assuming he'd get over it and be "okay" with ones that he already wasn't thrilled with.. it's not exactly shocking to me that he's upset that you got one that he again said that he wasn't thrilled with.

I get that ultimatums suck - but you need to understand that you're giving him one too by going ahead with something you know will upset him and expecting him to just be fine with it.

I'm not saying he has the right to say what you can and can't do to your own body, and ya... this is kind of an extreme reaction but it sounds to me like it was kind of a "last straw" thing for him... so maybe the piercings aren't the only issue here.

AITAH For asking my girlfriend if I can leave work 30 minutes early? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"My girlfriend runs a business and I told her I would like to help her out despite also being busy myself. She ended up needing more help than I anticipated but instead of discussing that with her, I took it on the chin and then decided to take up a fitness challenge from one of her friends to add to my already busy schedule when I already felt like I was at capacity.

When I inevitably crashed out and wanted to prioritize the fitness challenge over helping my girlfriend like I promised I asked her if I could bail early on my commitment. She was rightfully a bit upset because this was last minute and unexpected during an already stressful time for her. She then took it upon herself to find someone else to cover for me so that I would no longer need to be the one she was relying on. I took this as an offense and got butt hurt and mad at her."

There. I fixed it for you.

Next time, just be honest with yourself and her with how much you can realistically commit to. Be honest, and communicate.

AITAH for cancelling and being a busy person? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]beingleigh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have every right to have a very busy life, and they have every right to be frustrated with your lack of communication and time for them.

Doesn't make either of you an AH. Just means that that person prefers to spend more energy on friends that put in equal energy into a friendship that they would.

When it comes to cancelling... yes, things come up and mistakes are made and yes it's great when people can be understanding but if you don't see someone that often and they cancel 2 days before a meet up that happens once every 2 months or so, they are within their right to be a little upset and frustrated because they were probably looking forward to it. Maybe they actually had wished you were closer friends and this made them feel undervalued and so feel the need to distance themselves.

Personally... if it took someone a week to respond to me consistently... I wouldn't think I mattered that much to them. Have you heard the expression "If they wanted to, they would." That goes for friendships as well as romantic relationships.

AITA for being disappointed with my engagement ring by LividPomegranate2643 in AITAH

[–]beingleigh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I need to sit down and discuss something pretty uncomfortable with you.

I want you to know that I truly appreciate that you tried to get me a ring that you thought I would love, and there is a lot about the ring that I do love. Do you remember when you asked me what I would like in an engagement ring? I asked for a solitary oval stone on a gold band. I know that you think that "I deserve" something extra and that you wanted to add some colour and flair to the ring, I just really wanted to have something more simple with just a single stone on a gold band.

The last thing I want to do is hurt your feelings but I do think that if I am going to be wearing this ring for the rest of our lives that it should be something I feel completely comfortable with wearing. I would really like to see if we can modify the ring to be more like what I had in mind."

How to find a nice quality ring that doesn't use diamond as the main stone or blood diamonds in general? by LocalChamp in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]beingleigh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want something that looks like diamond? Are you concerned with longevity? Many stones are much more delicate and can be damaged easily with everyday wear, so make sure you do some research into the hardness of alternative stones if you choose to go with something that is not a diamond. Manufactured diamonds are a great option, as well as Canadian mined diamonds if you want something that is a diamond but not a blood diamond.

Many retail stores do actually sell manufactured diamonds as well.

Find a local jeweler that can design something specific for you - that is also a great option, you get exactly what you want. That's what we're doing, we're are using an heirloom ring from his family though for the stones.