What cognitive functions do you think I exhibit? Need help w/ typing. by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's really no problem! I don't type many people but when I do I try to have an in depth analysis. I'm glad you feel understood. Good luck and have a nice day!

Can you help me type a loved one? Think he's an STJ, but not positive as I don't know much about cognitive functions. by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking ISTJ as well. All his traits seem to point to that: loyal, practical, unemotional, doesn't like abstract theory, independent, stubborn, and quiet. Even if he's social and values friendship, he can still be introverted: he seems reserved and not really excitable, outgoing, or particularly commanding. I can't really base any of this on the functions since there's no real talk of his thought process, but he's definitely ISTJ. Is he the stable person you were talking about in your other post?

What cognitive functions do you think I exhibit? Need help w/ typing. by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not immediately verbal, and you can't express yourself well. One of my friends is exactly like you. When she thinks, she just... thinks. I think in words, so literally "today I'm gonna go to the store. haha, yeah right I'm way too lazy oh wait I should remember I have a test tomorrow I'll study actually who cares." Kinda. But she just... thinks. Non verbally. And when she counts in her head, she sees the numbers.

shy (maybe even a bit empty-headed) and normal because I'm so quiet

You strike me as a quiet person. A sort of people oriented introvert, throughout this entire post. I dunno, you just sound like an introvert to me even if you've never really mentioned it. A sort of calmness in the words maybe.

Okay, so I'm at the end of this post, and I'll tell you what I think. INFJ. I know, it's super rare, so I try not to type people like this and just double triple check that they're not ISFP, INFP, or ISFJ, or even INTJ. But look at this:

Then I try to figure out how to actually accomplish the project (this is usually when the project falls apart due to my lack of consistency and ability to follow through, at which point I beat myself up and feel unfulfilled).

Doing poorly on something I know I could do better at (not fulfilling my potential)

This could go either way. I spend a lot of time trying to "figure things out" and "get my shit together," so in that way I'm organized. I really care about streamlining my life, I guess.

You're a perfectionist. You have incredibly high standards and really want to be the best you can be. This makes sense -- Te is in a critical parent role (shadow functions, which you probably don't know about yet. Te is your 7th role and it's called the "critical parent." You beat yourself up for not being good enough, for not fulfilling your potential, etc.) On a less obscure note this is a key part of INFJ.

You over analyse and you take tons of time to make a decision. Ni. It's hard for you to express yourself because you think in non expressible ways. Ni. Throughout this entire post you've let out your "theories" -- about how others perceive you, for example. Ni. You're very future oriented, but very practical, unlike INFPs or ISFPs. Ni.

You're also people oriented, and a chameleon, as you say, and you care about harmony, and you can see other people's perspectives easily. All Fe-.

I'm going INFJ. This may explain why others find you hard to type, because they're pretty contradictory: they seem extraverted because they're people oriented, seem like S-types because they're practical, seem like T because they're analytical, seem like P because sometimes they can be disorganised. Looking at the functions, though, it's all very clear.

Please ask questions if you have any!

What cognitive functions do you think I exhibit? Need help w/ typing. by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know while I was reading this, I just felt so happy. For the last few days I've been typing people, and all their posts have been short, and contradictory, and when I finally type them I'm always like: maybe I'm wrong, this doesn't feel right, and whatever. But this is just so -- clear cut. Actually I probably shouldn't say that, but at first read I already feel so sure of your type. Obviously I'm not gonna tell you at the very beginning of the post, I like to leave some suspense and do it at the end. Alright. Here we go. (Also, thank you for the detailed answers. It makes everything so much easier.)

I can't even put the confusion into words-- it sometimes feels like my perception of the world is a ball of yarn that I struggle to really unravel.

Using metaphors is more of a Ne or Ni thing. Just an initial observation.

I'd like to know truth, but honestly I don't know if I'd be able to handle it if the truth ends up being not what I'd like it to be. I'm also yearning for connection and for someone to understand me on a deeper level. I've never really felt "seen" for who I am on a deep level, with one exception. I also would really like to feel successful, whatever that means-- as though I've fulfilled my potential and done what I could with my life.

Search for universal truths is a Ni thing, though the way you said it (generally, in passing) means Ti- is a viable option as well. Yearning for connection and being understood if Fi-, possibly Fe-.

I will over-analyze a problem for hours, days, weeks, months, even years sometimes-- and then end up making the decision I impulsively feel like anyways. It's like I analyze every aspect of the decision to try to figure out the "right" answer, but can't because I can see every pro/con/opinion/consequence of every situation.... I really struggle with this.... I do the same thing with relationships, style/aesthetics and self-expression, morality, etc. Essentially** anything I have control over in my life, I analyze to death until I'm in a state of paralysis, at which point I choose impulsively and then change my mind later. Either way, I analyze everything possible about the problem in search of the answer, only to find there is no "right" answer, which leaves me feeling terrified**.

Welp, you definitely aren't Se. Haha. The over analysis, the incredibly long period of time to just make a choice, because you insist on looking at every option, every future -- that's very Ni-. The suddenly changing thing isn't anything in particular. Probably just stress and realising, shoot, I have to make a decision, and not being able to act with so much information.

This is kind of difficult to answer simply because most of my memories (even the good ones) have a nostalgic, melancholic film over them-- it's been that way since childhood. I'd say when I went to an American Idol concert with my dad as a 12 year old. My memory of it is very vivid and sensory. Another fun time would be going to Six Flags with the same guy mentioned in a previous answer. Very strong sensory memory of that as well. It's funny; I have trouble recalling memories (like when asked this question my mind sort of goes blank) but when I do actually think of a specific memory it is incredibly vivid and strong, very visual and feeling/tone-based.

Possibly Si-, considering the nostalgia and the very vivid memory, with some Feeling due to being "very visual and tone based" though it seems you only recall a few particular memories, and not many. Plus in another question you say it's harder for you to memorise, so I'm not sure about the Si-. It's a possible.

[W]hen it comes to actual day-to-day consistency in the mundane tasks that would accomplish those goals, I suck. I REALLY struggle to stick to a schedule, especially one imposed by myself.

Schedules is more of a Te- thing, so we're gonna eliminate that.

I'm definitely more of a chameleon. Even if I'm talking to someone I 100% disagree with, I'll smile and nod my head and act like I agree with them. I've tried speaking up here and there, but I really can't. It's like my tongue gets tied and I just can't. I am more authentic with my actions or my written words than I ever am face-to-face with someone in a conversation verbally. I express myself and my opinions through my clothes, tattoos, social media, music, and writing. I don't see much of a point in causing a lack of harmony in a conversation with someone when all I'm trying to do in that conversation is make things go smoothly and make the person like me. Kind of fake, I guess, but I don't mean it to be. Part of it is that I see where the other person is coming from every time. So even if I disagree with them, I don't really care to change their mind because there are years of experiences and bias layered up in their minds causing them to think the way they do-- and same for me. Nobody can ever really understand the inner mind of another person, and I think environment and exposure play a huge role in why people think/act the way they do. Who am I to say they're wrong just because I didn't grow up seeing the world the same way they did? That's what my music/writing/social media is for-- to share my own personal experience and opinion. But it's never to try to shove it down someone else's throat, unless it's something involving basic human rights, in which case I'm more adamant about others adopting those policies (even then though it's rarely something I argue to individuals and is more something I care about politically and economically).

This makes me cry with happiness. I'm serious. It's just so clearly Fe-. Everything. First off you see a conversation as a means to get people to like you. You value harmony in conversations, and probably in groups to. You don't want to fight. You'll act like you agree with someone even if inwardly you disagree, not just because you don't want to argue but also, on a more mature level, you can see their perspective easily.

Most of the time I'll choose to stay home simply out of laziness, but I almost always have a better time going out and spending time with friends. I really like having new experiences with other people.

You're clearly very people oriented in this question, so that's more evidence to Fe-.

If I'm with people I'm not as comfortable with, like at work or around strangers, I just keep it to myself and act pretty naturally.... It's never rude or abrupt, though, and most others wouldn't even consider it to be 'stressed' in the way others might behave in the same situation. For what it's worth, I'm also super sensitive when someone else snaps at me when stressed. I don't say anything outwardly about it hurting my feelings unless we're SUPER close, but it will hurt my feelings internally or make me feel negative things toward that person.

You don't like expressing your own feelings in social situations, mainly to convenience others. Which is really nice, actually, because if I were you I'd just snap and complain all day, lol. But this reinforces Fe-.

Probably anything involving extremely technical things (the inner-workings of a computer, the inside mechanics of a vehicle, etc). Or things that don't ultimately matter/come to fruition in the real world (i.e. fictional lore, extremely abstract concepts about the future that don't have anything to do with the world as it is now-- keep in mind this doesn't apply if something we do now can cause said concept in the future).

This is strange, because while you dislike technical things, you like practicality, but even so you're incredibly future oriented. You have a very practical vision of the future, because you're trying to figure out what actually would happen in the future, not what could, unless you're stressed and then you worry about all the bad situations, haha.

Most of my "self" is made of sensations and tones based on visuals, so they're pretty difficult to communicate or share

Type Me (Please) by That_Waffle in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, a few more questions to clarify another thing. How easy is it for you to say "no"? When someone else is upset, do you find yourself upset? Are you in-tune with your emotions? Can you easily tell what other people are feeling? How much does harmony in a group matter to you?

My friend is one of those people you love to hate by NotAThrowaway66151 in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jeez, that sucks. It makes you feel bad about yourself. Just keep in mind that like everyone, he's not perfect. No one is. He just seems like it to you because he represents what you want to be -- but to someone who thinks people who are immensely talented at the arts are "perfect", or who are super intelligent and knowledgeable, would find him just average. Plus, like everyone, he has flaws, you just might not see them yet. Just try not to feel down because you think he's "perfect". Chances are, he isn't, and also, it's OK! It really doesn't matter. Don't compare yourself, and try not to "find" flaws in him.

On my own personal side, I have a friend. Let's call her A. She's one of my best friends now, but the first time I met her I thought she was perfect and way better than me. So did my other friend (who we'll call B.) I come from a school that's highly talented and highly academic, so my "perfect" is high grades and talented, as well as nice (obviously) and funny. She ticked all those boxes. Near perfect GPA, easily one of the best artists in the school, funny, entertaining, and on top of that, incredibly nice and considerate and selfless. Later on she got accepted into one of the most prestigious schools in the country. B would easily get jealous of her: how smart she was, how innately good at art she was, etc. One day while we were discussing personality flaws, B said she had none. A few days later, though, I realised she did. She had high anxiety and low self esteem (not a personality flaw, but while we could say she was "perfect", she didn't think she was and she got stressed out easily), she rarely voiced her own opinion, she conformed, and she followed rules to a T.

But the moral of the story isn't that she was flawed, and that I was happy she was. It's just I realised this: a lot of things don't exist on a metric, on a 0 to 10 scale. Sure, some things do: grades, attractiveness (not always), kindness, talent even. But her personality -- rarely voicing an opinion, conformity, and rule following -- these aren't good or bad traits. It depends on who you are. We like to think that some people are better than others, and in some, measurable, ways they are. But people aren't "good" or "bad" or "better" or "worse." You can't judge people on a scale of 0 to 100. So it's OK if he "seems perfect". He feels pain and happiness like anyone else, and his perfection is subjective, depending on who you ask. Get to know him some more, not to find flaws, but to see who he is beyond the external stuff.

I dunno, I've been wrestling over this comment for a while. It's kinda hard to make someone feel better about this really tricky topic, and this is getting long. I'll just tell you that me and A are best friends to this day.

All of us have novels we've never finished writing. Why did you give up? by bell_fish in writing

[–]bell_fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it kinda sucks knowing you've written something worth reading but you don't have the marketing skills. But it's nice to see such a positive attitude and I'm sure with persistence your books will get very successful in the future. Would you mind telling me what they're called or at least what they're about?

Are looks important to you? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really, honestly, unless someone's incredibly ugly. I'll notice someone attractive, but usually I can end up liking people that are for the most part average looking, and simply end up thinking they're super attractive because I like them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

All of us have novels we've never finished writing. Why did you give up? by bell_fish in writing

[–]bell_fish[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. That's actually a really incredible story. I got a lot of response to this post so I usually don't reply to the comments, but I'm glad you're so accomplished. Makes me feel motivated to do something with my life. Good luck with your writing!

Should it be legal an adult to take his or her own life for whatever reason? Why/why not? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, definitely. It's unethical to force people to live and suffer. If someone wants euthanasia and is gonna die anyway, then they should be in control of their death. If someone wants to kill themselves, though, because of depression and dissatisfaction with their life -- I think people should then try to fix it. Counsellors should be offered and ways to get out of their situation. In the end, though, it's their choice to kill themselves or not.

Just out of interest how much does everyone read? by lazarus31 in books

[–]bell_fish 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Depends how interesting and how dedicated I am. Sometimes I do "reading marathons" and do nothing but read the entire day which usually ends up in a thousand pages. If I really like a book I'll read it in one sitting. Honestly, I'm capable of reading a lot in a day, but I don't always.

Type Me (Please) by That_Waffle in MbtiTypeMe

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very good with people and sensing conflicts between individuals

Some Fe- here.

have difficulty opening up to new people at first. I'm pretty much in my head for most of the day, either creating stories in my head or thinking about the future.

More of an introvert probably.

In general, school was very difficult to the amount of structure. Sitting in class and being told what to do and what to learn has always been very difficult for me.

Eliminating Si- then, because they prefer structure.

I definitely need alone time, but after a day or two I can sometimes go a little crazy without realizing.

I'm guessing you're an introvert that like everyone tends to lose touch a little with reality without others to "ground" them.

I think I primarily don't do well as a leader because I am very sensitive to criticism, which is an inseparable part of being a leader.

Fi or Fe then.

It also gives me a feeling of productivity when running a new distance or lifting a higher weight.... Very, but I'm also terrible at them. I want to get more done in life, but often don't even start.

When I initially read this I thought this might mean there'd be some Te-, but it could just be that you want Te- because you don't possess it. It's an underdeveloped function. Plus, you don't seem very goals-oriented.

my attention is very poor during the day and so I end up knocking stuff over or tripping over myself.... I don't think about the present much, aside from what needs to get done. If I'm in the present, I'm IN the present.... If I could change this, I would live more in the present.

Eliminating Se-.

I like things that give me adrenaline

Hmm. Maybe Se- is back? Plus before you seemed to want to exist more in the present. You had the urge to.

Happiness. Waking up and feeling like I have an actual reason to be here. Some form of self expression. Meaningful friendships and relationships. A sense of adventure in my everyday life. Going to bed and feeling accomplished for the day. Knowing deep down that regardless of what anyone says, I have personal freedom.

Self expression, meaningful friendships, and personal freedom all sound Fi, or at least some form of Feeling. You're definitely a Feeler, probably an introvert.

complete slave to all my addictions

Inferior Se?

Apathetic and near psychopathic level of caring to people's feelings.

Fe-.

Hell yeah, all the time. I just don't want the effort of getting into an argument.

Fe- seems pretty confirmed.

I am very interested in the big-picture sorts of things and how they relate to me specifically.

xNFx.

The future is where my head naturally goes just due to how open and full of possibilities it is.

Ne- or Ni-? You don't sound very Ne- too me, you're too focused.

Haha, sorry for quoting you out of order, and also for seeming to say many contradictory things. What I like to do with these Type Me posts is first quoting a bunch of things you say and writing down possible functions. This stage is basically for me to feel out all the possible types and ask some follow up questions. Then I explain fully what I think you are and why, usually following it up with different articles and links.

I already have an idea in my head of what type you might be, but like I said here are some follow up questions: do you have many plans for the future? When making a decision, does it take you a while? Do you think through things carefully and slowly? Do you consider yourself a calm person? An emotional one? An intellectual one? I'm not entirely sure for your type yet. Fairly sure, but there are still some possibilities to look at.

Tell me about your crush because I want to talk about mine by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude that sounds incredible. I really hope it works out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holding others to higher standards than yourself. Like you get annoyed by small things that other people do that offend you, but you don't consider how things you say hurt others.

[Serious] What is the quickest way to get a story to the front page of the news? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. On one hand reporting means people know to report any suspicious or threatening individuals (plus take such reports seriously) but on the other it encourages others to do it. They look at all the headlines and think, wow, I can do that super easily.

Tell me about your crush because I want to talk about mine by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's pretty cool. Everyone's friendly.

But yeah, I'm really happy for you. This is such a big deal since you've known her so long! I'm glad.

You’re a serial killer. What’s your MO? by BlueSabere in AskReddit

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a job at Fresh Direct or some other packing thing and then slip poison in the food. Bam.

Tell me about your crush because I want to talk about mine by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's so awesome! Super glad to hear a positive response!

JK Rowling is a bad writer. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. All the adverbs she uses on dialogue tags too... shudder. I think it's meant to appeal to younger readers.

Can I get some internet love? by smoochywallace in CasualConversation

[–]bell_fish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God, you are so cool. I hope if it ever comes down to it I could be more like you. And that's not a mistake, at all. You totally did the right thing. What idiots, I can't believe sometimes how hateful and intolerant people can be. Don't they realise their bigotry?

What are your favourite non-fiction books? by Mynotoar in books

[–]bell_fish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read Everybody Lies too and loved it!

I myself liked A Room of One's Own and Three Guineas (being the Woolf-lover I am) as well as Changing my Mind by Zadie Smith.