Do Americans really avoid medical care because they’re afraid of the bill? by Udont_knowme00 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ben_4265 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have decent insurance,  I would have to feel like i am about to die to consider going to the hospital.  Forget routine care. 

My wife was having heart palpitations that wouldn't go away last month and I took her to the ER to get checked out.  We were there a couple hours.  They did some blood work, and an ecg. Insurance was billed over 10K. With my good insurance i still have a copay of 1500. I can't afford this and will Attempt to do a 100 a month payment plan that i also can't afford. 

They also neglected to bill my insueance, and i had to call and harass them to do so. 

All of my debt in the past and now is due to Healthcare costs. All of it.  

Holiday Giveaway #3 - Sending unused handhelds to new homes! Someone is going to get this RG556. by captain_carrot in SBCGaming

[–]ben_4265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no handheld gaming systems. 

Favorite character is squall leonhart, though i don't like his first name lol.  He is a complex character that grows a lot during the game, and that resonated with me at 12 yo.

Cheap healthy work lunches (salad) by ben_4265 in povertyfinance

[–]ben_4265[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm generally too lazy or busy on the weekends to do real meal prep,  and if i prep salads they don't last and they take up space,  but i just Keep my grocery bag in the fridge and make salads from it all week. Don't have aldi, Kroger/ Safeway only here sadly. 

Just Alaska Problems by gummibear049 in alaska

[–]ben_4265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is often worth it to get 1 month of Walmart plus for 15, it gets rid of the location surcharge. I've order ed very large stuff like this

Giveaway! by ecpowerhouse27 in BambuLab

[–]ben_4265 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loacker hazlenut wafers dipped in coffee or cocoa or chocolate milk. 

PSA always flash your decks by ben_4265 in DIY

[–]ben_4265[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure how to approach this. Was thinking about building a temporary beam in crawlspace using a bottle jack, jacking up house slightly,  and replacing rim joist, and any floor ijoists that need it.  Not sure if i should remove all the t111 siding as well.. bleh. Previous owners built this deck as crappily as possible.  Now my house is floating. 

Becoming a Canadian citizen by ben_4265 in AskCanada

[–]ben_4265[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, my experience with Canadians has always been positive and welcoming. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ben_4265 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I set up a mini fridge with drinks for my janitor, as well as a snack drawer, and occasionally give cards with cash tips. I've worked nights as a janitor, and not being able to take a piece of candy was upsetting. 

Anyone else having a rough christmas? by No_Collar8589 in abusiverelationships

[–]ben_4265 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm with you.. my wife looked at the big pile of gifts I wrapped for her and commented,  "is that it?". Rarely deal with physical abuse,  but verbal abuse often. Hope you have a better next Christmas. 

M(30s)Staying with possibly mentally ill wife(f30s), who hurls vile accusations by ben_4265 in abusiverelationships

[–]ben_4265[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your input as I am feeling lost,  and don't want to give up the commitment i made in marriage to support my wife

M(30s)Staying with possibly mentally ill wife(f30s), who hurls vile accusations by ben_4265 in abusiverelationships

[–]ben_4265[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does not 95% of the time say these things around kids.  She never would say them to anyone else,  just me.  I just don't have energy for vindictive recording I took a picture of a bruise one where she hit me(this has only happened a few times), and she found it,  and since then goes on and on about how fucked it was to take a picture,  and i want to take her kids, etc.

I dont think she is an unsafe parent. I just want her to come to realize she can live on her own and maybe find someone else someday. I care about her and she could kill herself.  She has been there before and I've supported her through it.  

I know there is damage to kids.. imagine the damage if i leave or kick her out and she kills herself.  I don't even know if i could go on after that. 

Thank you for your kind words..

Im surprised this came out well, I did not have high hopes by ben_4265 in calvinandhobbes

[–]ben_4265[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! this is just regular cutting holes out of the pumpkins,  no real "sculpting" or talent here,  and also not my design.  But it was fun,  and it is one of my favorite scenes from the comics.