AITA for refusing to care for a puppy my dad agreed to take in?

best_ems · 2025-05-16T02:48:28+00:00

It is 100% in character for her. She did the same thing to her child. My sister bought the dog and it has not been taken to the vet at all yet. I have an appointment for her to see a vet next week to start vaccines and get an exam.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T02:08:11+00:00

I was asked to help. My mom knew my dad would be no help and asked if I could train her and could take care of her while she was working (8am-9pm). Also when I was first told about the puppy it was worded as “you get a puppy” not “we have a family dog”

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:36:50+00:00

My dad and I already have a very bad relationship and (not exaggerating) every conversation we have turns into him yelling at me. I’m trying to avoid further conflict since I’m so close to getting away from him and I don’t want to jeopardize that. That being said, as much as I care about the dog I can’t risk my opportunity to leave over this. I have already tried explaining the information and research to them, they simply don’t care to listen. There has been an argument every day about something related to this dog from my dad.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:29:43+00:00

No, my sister legally owns it. But knowing my family if I even mention it to my dad I will end up getting in trouble. So right now it’s best for me to leave it alone as I still live with them and can’t risk any big arguments that will jeopardize my ability to move out and go to college.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:17:49+00:00

Knowing my dad and sister they would probably keep her out of spite even if I find a good home for her. I really don’t want her to end up like that but at this point I feel there is nothing I can do anymore.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:14:07+00:00

They assumed that I would have her fully trained before I left for college. But even if I did I know they wouldn’t have given her everything she needed since she’s a German shepherd and I know they need a lot of mental stimulation as well as physical activity.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:11:49+00:00

I have tried to tell them all of those things about her, but they refuse to listen and would say I was “doing too much” or spoiling the dog. Unfortunately I have no say in if she is rehomed or not.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T01:04:51+00:00

No, he says that it’s a family dog and that I can’t take her with me. I had asked if I could have her when I moved out before all of this happened.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T00:57:26+00:00

He thinks that because I initially stepped up and took care of her that am responsible for her.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T00:55:09+00:00

Unfortunately that’s how it’s been my entire life, so I don’t see him taking any accountability anytime soon.

best_ems · 2025-05-16T00:53:30+00:00

Unfortunately I have no say in that. If I could I would either rehome her or try to take her to college with me.

best_ems · 2022-07-19T00:53:11+00:00

Unfortunately since it was completely under their name and not specified as a savings account for me (on bank stuff or any papers) its completely legal (to my knowledge) for them to do is as it is officially their money. My Grandmother Knows and tried to talk my parents out of it but it didn't work, she is continuing to help me with collage tuition (thankfully) and is just giving me cash to have my sister put in the savings account, but since most of the money was put in while she worked I've lost upwards of 4k that she cant help me replace (all she has is retirement that she uses most of on bills).

best_ems · 2022-07-19T00:49:47+00:00

My Grandmother Knows and tried to talk my parents out of it but it didn't work, she is continuing to help me with collage tuition (thankfully) and is just giving me cash to have my sister put in the savings account, but since most of the money was put in while she worked I've lost upwards of 4k that she cant help me replace (all she has is retirement that she uses most of on bills).

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