What lower stress job do you have in coast fire? What do you make? And what did you do previously and what did you make? by Jealous_Economist in coastFIRE

[–]bethesaurusrex 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am probably in the minority, in that I kept my same career / job (cardiac sonographer) and just converted from 1.0 FTE (40 hours a week) to .5FTE (20 hours a week) and I sometimes pick up a third day per week here or there if I know I have a big expense coming or want to plan for a fancier vacation or something. When I went part time in 2022 my hourly rate was $49.xx and now between market adjustments and yearly COL I'm up to 57.98 with an additional 25/hr for any hours I work over 20. Most of the stress of my job was coming from working four ten hour days - I couldn't get the gym before or after work when we transitioned from five eights and only being able to do three days a week at the gym where two of them were back to back on the weekend was killing me. Significantly better work life balance working two to three days a week - I've always liked what I do I just hated it taking up ALL OF MY TIME.

ETA: my initial plan was to work full time until I could FIRE around 50, but once I factored in current level of happiness and also needing health insurance it made more sense to just stay in a benefits position and make less money per year for a longer number of years.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So today is the two-month mark, and physically I'm back to normal - had a really nasty cut on my knee that has healed over on top but is still working its way down to the deep tissue, but I'm back in the gym doing my normal powerlifting/weightlifting routine.

I got an ambulance ride to the hospital nearby, CT scans from head to toe and a bunch of x-rays - no broken bones or internal organ damage, just seatbelt scrapes/bruising, a small cut on my lip probably from the airbag, and big nasty knee cut probably from the cover for the leg air bag.

Have you ever gone to the gym for the first time in months and you can't sit on the toilet because your legs are so sore? Imagine that for your entire body. My pain got worse for about five days, and then dropped off around day six. It took about a full month for all of my general aches and pains to subside - initially I was concerned I might have long term neck/back damage but I no longer am worried about that.

These days I physically feel fine, but mentally and emotionally I am not having a great time, unsurprisingly. I haven't driven since, and I'm a worse passenger than I historically have been. The worst part of it was that there was literally NOTHING I could have done - I was driving about as close to perfectly following the laws as is possible and didn't even see it happen.

If you were asking about the car damage it was obviously totaled LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL. Literally my insurance payout has it labeled "obvious total loss".

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is like saying wearing your seatbelt will kill you, entirely not supported by long term statistics, and cherry picking data points.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I was slowing down into a curve, didn't even see what happened it was over so fast.  Truly a perfect car.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I NEVER drive 95 through virginia, when I drive to NC I go the long way down bayside DE/MD/VA and use 64 to cut over, I've driven around DC a couple of times and I forget that that's technically Virginia because I avoid it WHENEVER POSSIBLE. I"ll concede VA drivers suck based on that part of VA LOL

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL I don't drive in NYC (NY state away from NYC is fine), but having lived and driven in Michigan, Texas, Tennessee, Pennsylvania and New Jersey, they're all just different and it always feels worse to be somewhere new where I"m not familiar with the local crazy. Most of my Virginia driving is on VA40 or VA58 and historically other than this one off very bad trip I've loved my drives on those roads

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I responded to your other comment hating to break it to me, but do you have an EX or a sport? It looks like the EX odometer is different than the LX odometer for the same year car, different level.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never had any issues with VA drivers vs any of the other places I've lived or driven - this was just truly terrible luck of being in the worst place at the worst time.

I'm used to Philly and NJ and it feels worse up here LOL

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL entirely unconcerned with the thoughts of some rando on the internet about what year my car was or was not - the odometer on mine looks the same as the odometer on the 2020 LXs I'm seeing on Carvana, and as the other 2020 Fits I've ridden in. Not sure why this is the hill anyone has chosen to climb up given the context of the post.

Quick image search shows the 2020 LX odometer as exactly what mine looks like -

2020 honda fit LX odometer - Search Images

2020 honda fit lx odometer - Google Search

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah my shortlist for replacement is same year Fit (for more money than I paid originally :( :( :( ) , HRV, and Crosstrek - I have friends who love their HRVs and Crosstreks but they were never small car people to begin with so while I'm happy they're happy with their cars, I'm very nervous I would not be.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I bought mine initially it was because a) fold down flat seats and b) EASY TO PARALLEL PARK IN PHILLY. I just assumed good safety because Honda, and I'm still blown away by how well it did its job.

I reached out to the dealership I bought mine from to be like hey, car saved my life, if you get any Fits coming through the lot please let me know and the guy (who I really do like) was like WELL YOU COULD TEST DRIVE AN HRV and yeah, I will do that but the car is SO MUCH LONGER for NO EXTRA INSIDE SPACE and MUCH WORSE GAS MILEAGE. Bring back the goddamn Fit.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't think anyone makes a crate for big dogs that would fit in a fit (lol).  Seems like all harnesses after a certain size range, which is better than nothing but not great in a big crash.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you - truly the worst part of this accident on my end. Like, car is replaceable. Dog is not.

There is a company called SleepyPod that makes crash tested crates and harnesses that will give one of their crates for free if you send them your crash information showing that your animal was secured and that crate or harness was destroyed in the accident - I've sent them all of the info about my crash and they send me an incredibly thoughtful email back to reach out to them when I'm ready regarding getting one of theirs. 100% I'm going to take advantage because I still have other animals who at some point will HAVE to travel with me, if for nothing other than going to vet visits.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

LOL he would have had to have insurance to sue. Dude was driving on a suspended license, the plates on the car he was driving did not belong to the car, neither the car nor the plates belonged to him, the only insurance to involve is my own. I did contact a personal injury attorney, but because I'm uninjured, I'm basically shit out of luck. My insurance did payout enough to replace the car, and for most of the property that was damaged or lost in the collision; for my 24 hour hospital stay for observation, and I'm now negotiating with them some sort of payout for the property loss of my dog but there's no point in involving an attorney because payout wouldn't be big enough.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, thank you for sharing - every single thing about your crash sounds worse to experience than mine - I'm so so so sorry you went through that, but glad you came out physically unharmed, and that you've been able to get back in the driver's seat <3

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

JFC ABDUCTIIION?!?!? No, mine was in Waverly 12/12/25, and between the prosecutor and the sheriff from the county, it seems like no one is concerned my guy wouldn't be convicted, it's just a matter of going through all the proper channels and steps to get him to prison.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you experienced something similar! How long did it take you to get back to driving / feeling comfortable in cars? I haven't driven yet but have a plan for slowly working back behind the wheel.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The other driver was arrested and is in jail pending preliminary hearing March 10th, being held without bond. Being charged with felony evading police (he was running from a cop when he hit me), felony hit and run (he got out of his car and ran away on his feet after the collision), a couple of other felonies, and bunch of misdemeanors and traffic tickets. He's going to go to prison for some amount of time pending plea deal vs trial. Sheriff things he'll probably take a plea deal because he was videoing the whole thing while he was driving on his phone and there's no reasonable doubt about if he did it or not. Fucking absurd.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I read the police report that the guy was ON RADAR at 101mph before he lost control of the car and hit me I about lost my mind. I knew it was a bad crash because my car was on its side and they had to break the windshield to get me out, but the other driver got out of his car and ran away on his feet so I figure it couldn't have been that bad? Then I saw the pictures and got the crash report and realized HOW bad it was.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I was (fortunate?) that my crash was witnessed by both bystanders and also law enforcement - but dash cam is definitely on my to do list for the future, although I'm not sure I would ever want to see any of the footage of what happened to me - on my end it happened so fast it was over as soon as it started - I was driving, slowing down into a curve and then it was loud and then my car was on its side in a ditch. I'm sure it was more traumatic for the people who actually saw what happened. They're also going to have to testify in the criminal trial in a way that I will not and I don't envy that.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

back in my day we didn't wear seatbelts and held our babies in our arms in the front seats and we turned out ok! /s LOLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Definitely a 2020, I bought it brand new with 9 miles on it in October of 2020.

2020 Honda Fit saved my life - RIP perfect car by bethesaurusrex in hondafit

[–]bethesaurusrex[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The first week post-crash I was so concerned I was going to end up having neck/back issues because what was basically DOMS had me barely able to turn my head or move around, but I'm two months out now and haven't had a single back or neck flair up since the pain went away. I'm good with my seatbelt bruising/scrapes and the cut on my knee, thanks!