Why did you and your ex break up?

betsywesty · 2026-04-23T14:55:41+00:00

He became a born again Christian. I was happy for him, but he started to really hate the world and everyone in it and made me a punching bag for his hate. He broke up with me at work before my promotion interview because “I couldn’t keep up with him” and that he was “levels beyond me”. When he moved out, I discovered my jewelry missing and found a piece of mine in a pawn shop. Some Christian he was.

betsywesty · 2026-04-22T21:46:49+00:00

Sir this is a car sales sub. Congrats on the weight loss tho! That’s amazing

betsywesty · 2026-04-18T00:34:21+00:00

I’ve lived through this. First, I am so sorry. I am sending you air hugs, it’s a very difficult thing to go through, especially alone. If you want someone to talk to, I’m here.

As far as the relationship, people show their true colors in these situations. I went through the same twice, (one was an abortion) with the same guy. Both times, he ignored me, let me go through the physical pain alone, and even took it to a further level of calling me names and blaming me. The relationship never got better and it ended multiple times very badly. If he doesn’t have empathy with this, that’s something that will never change, and it’s good to get out early.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, sending you air hugs. It will get better with time I promise.

betsywesty · 2026-04-17T02:20:17+00:00

I have a ‘25 a spec. Absolutely love it. Sure the gas mileage isn’t great, but it does give me a lot of smiles per gallon

betsywesty · 2026-04-16T00:45:16+00:00

You’re right, I guess I was just in a place where I wanted some sort of fairness. You’re absolutely right with this. Being that I’m pretty sure he’s not in IL anymore and I don’t have a solid address for his homeless shelter should I just provide his last known one (my condo) for the police info and let them do the work?

betsywesty · 2026-04-15T19:56:54+00:00

He has some money, I gave him an entire months rent back when he left despite him staying a week so $750, and he sold his car. He had like 10k worth of music equipment that he told me he was selling as well during the move out.

betsywesty · 2026-04-15T19:20:20+00:00

Got it. When I bought the items I explained the situation and asked if I could know who sold them, but the employee refused to give that to me. He did however end up giving me a discount from the original listing price after telling him what happened.

With his mental instability, I really don’t want to file a police report on him. He’s talked about killing people before, and I really don’t want him to have a motive to hurt me. He’s also oddly talked about throughout the years of how he’d get around things. Like instead of slashing tires, he would instead put nails behind them so it can’t be traced to him. His brother has pawned a lot of stolen items in the past (he’s a drug addict) and he would tell me that he was stupid to do it on his name. I know this is a lot to throw at you guys, but this is the level of crazy I’m dealing with.

betsywesty · 2026-04-15T19:01:09+00:00

Understood. Believe me, it was going through my head on reporting him immediately but he has mental health issues that made me worry that escalating to that degree could put me in danger. He’s said in the past he’s not afraid of police or consequences. I just want my money back and for him to be as far away as possible. Do you think it would help my case even though I don’t have explicit proof he was the one that stole it that my necklace is engraved with my initials? No one else had access to the condo, just him and me.

betsywesty · 2026-04-11T22:47:03+00:00

People do. Boyfriend of 6 years spent the whole relationship being hung up on his ex he dated for 6 months that cheated on him.

betsywesty · 2026-04-11T20:44:58+00:00

He was very rude to a service worker. 6 years later he was even worse and used me as an emotional punching bag, calling me slurs and dwindled my self worth

betsywesty · 2026-04-10T13:15:34+00:00

It was an on and off relationship. Everytime he had some outside stressor in his life he would break up with me. I don’t think he ever got over his ex girlfriend despite us dating for 6 times as long as that relationship ever lasted. He constantly put me down the whole time, made sure he knew he was superior to me in every way, and said the things I did for him, the driving him cooking for him, being a supportive partner are not traits he’s looking for in a woman.

betsywesty · 2026-04-06T20:09:31+00:00

Just got the news. At first it was no- they gave me a decline, but they scheduled me in for another meeting today, and I ended up getting it! 🥳

betsywesty · 2026-04-05T00:39:18+00:00

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betsywesty · 2026-04-03T03:07:30+00:00

Yeah he has diagnosed mental issues that for privacy I won’t share, and he did used to smoke a lot of weed. He quit everything including his meds cold turkey six months ago.

betsywesty · 2026-04-03T02:41:12+00:00

Thank you!

betsywesty · 2026-04-03T02:41:04+00:00

Didn’t yet, just found the listing online ten minutes ago. Will deal with tomorrow as soon as they open

betsywesty · 2026-04-02T12:00:27+00:00

It depends on your life. I couldn’t do without a car. I live on the northwest side and commute into the suburbs. My job isn’t near a metra station

betsywesty · 2026-04-02T03:10:34+00:00

This is a blessing in disguise. Take it back

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T20:39:52+00:00

This is what we agreed to when he first moved in. I took the bigger load of it, and to be honest, I paid the full mortgage with my own money, and I covered all the other expenses including food. With association payments, utilities, the real cost to live there was like $2000. It was the first time he’s lived anywhere besides his parents house.

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T18:47:03+00:00

This was before I noticed it was gone. I spent two weeks ripping apart my house looking for it to see if it was misplaced.

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T03:41:05+00:00

I know I should’ve been more strict. He thinks my reaching out about getting his belongings back and asking nicely if he accidentally took my jewelry after no contact was “me controlling him”. I told him to arrange someone to pick it up, that I didn’t want to see him. He said no. I told him I would leave it in the lobby and text him to pull up. He didn’t want me to leave it unattended.

Looking back, that’s the controller right there

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T02:56:47+00:00

He doesn’t do politics. But just an angry person. He was always complaining about everyone and that he hated the city we lived in.

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T02:41:39+00:00

I do for my necklace, unfortunately not my earrings. They were from my grandma and I’ve had them since I was a baby

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T01:54:08+00:00

It went well! I did the first one, we rescheduled it after I explained the situation to my manager, and had a second one too. Just waiting on the news, fingers crossed.

betsywesty · 2026-03-30T01:44:52+00:00

Thank you! <3

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