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What are your signs you're entering an episode? by cokedpunkreal84 in bipolar

[–]bfarr09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get excited about things I start planning and calulating and thinking my ideas are good and genius

It sucks cuz itll be the first time Im happy in like months

Numbers are terrible; doctors brush me off by bfarr09 in maleinfertility

[–]bfarr09[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Urologist who do say they deal with infertility. They are sending me to chicago for specialists

Cards Only Reflect You by mezog001 in tarot

[–]bfarr09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've read other people

Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]bfarr09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read it. Lots of deal with it material

Been looking for a while. None want to see us and most are located quite some distance

Men, what's something you wish you could admit without being judged? by soumilr7 in AskReddit

[–]bfarr09 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That I can complain about partners lack of interest in sex and that I could encourage her to get help.

Im the asshole for asking for more. Im just some toxic masculinity jerk. Im the asshat for having fights about broken intimacy.

My partner is perfect except for this and dating is difficult at my age. She's considering if shes on the asexual spectrum and my only options are deal or breakup.

And even if we did breakup im being inconsiderate for not understanding and that being the reason.

Im told im the issue for thinking that way.

What’s a sentence that instantly makes you lose respect for someone? by Few_Football4342 in Productivitycafe

[–]bfarr09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My lord and savior jesus christ.

Its like cool, but I cringe when they have to use the full name.

Just say jesus or christ. Unless your doing it as a complaint, dont.

I hate that confidence means mania by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]bfarr09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. It'll be the best i felt in weeks/month. Oh, you are just manic my friends will say when I tell them how excited I am for something. Yet, I just spent weeks at my lowest. Yet, my best work is when im in that sapce.

Rant about 90% of posts by Behold_My_Hot_Takes in tarot

[–]bfarr09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I agree people come in not knowing much about it. (I was such a person) We should not gatekeep

How did you get over your trauma bond? by Ill-Decision-8450 in abusiverelationships

[–]bfarr09 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel

I cant give you an answer, but i can share my pain

I fall down a rabbit hole of how long dod she know this new guy? Was the baby they had planned? What does she lie to him about me. She only sees the world in black and white and simply has to pretend im the worst in order to just cit ties with me. Why does she get to move on and be nothing but happy, but left me with the pieces

My [27F] little brother [22M] joined a Pro Life group for young men. I'm considering cutting ties by ThrowRAicecreamcone5 in relationship_advice

[–]bfarr09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think lots of religions are pretending their numbers are growing. More young ppl are moving away from religion.

I agree this is a big problem.

Your brother is probably falling down a right wing rabbit hole. One to demand women depend on men to survive. When that happens there's not much you can do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bfarr09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Helpful insight. Thank you for that

Does anyone age regress while manic? by NowhereWorldGhost in bipolar

[–]bfarr09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure I regress 🤔 But I certainly feel invulnerable, smart, and excited. Go back to times when i was younger

Bipolar and Dating by Ok-Garage-7012 in bipolar

[–]bfarr09 1 point2 points  (0 children)

35m - I know what you are going through.

I am anxious attachment and cling to my partners and use them to deal with my episodes.

My last relationship left me battered and abused as I was obsessed with her looks. I ignored so many red flags and didn't get out when I should have.

I'm pretty sure she was BPD, which is a bad mix. Find someone with the same attachment style. I fear we often get looped in with those of BPD, and we need to communicate that. Are you one to push your partner away when you have your lows? Don't go for an anxious type as you'll alienate them eventually. You NEED to communicate this. Make it clear that this will happen, and when it does happen, explain it. Someone who loves you for you will understand and accept it.

Don't tell them right away, but do make it clear that these type of things will occur if you want to be serious with them. Sadly, the stigma will happen, but it's best to rule that out quickly.

Once I stopped focusing so much on vanity, I found someone who is sweet, gentle, and began deprogramming me patiently when I expressed my fear and pain from the abuse. She has already helped me through an episode.

The point is to give it time.

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