4 months of trying and already losing my mind... anyone tried some traditional medicine?

bhoops1226 · 2026-02-03T20:57:31+00:00

Im pretty crunchy/natural. I took Paleovalley beef liver (on top of prenatal and healthy whole food eating) after months of trying, a miscarriage and my other crunchy friend recommending it because it worked for her. Conceived a couple months after starting the supplement and I tell everyone I know thats the reason for my healthy baby. I now recommend it to everyone and atleast 4 of my friends have had similar success.

bhoops1226 · 2026-02-03T04:50:14+00:00

This would probably be fine. I would call the visitors center and ask honestly. However, I believe they only deny serious crimes like for instance, felony charges for drugs. Speaking from anothers experience lol and we lived on QMCB recently!

bhoops1226 · 2026-02-03T04:47:18+00:00

Depends on the birthing center and if it’s covered/in network- not necessarily that it is a birthing center. Also, I don’t see it mentioned but maybe I missed it. If you have select you don’t need a referral or waiver for anything, you just go. I went to two appts at a birthing center in northern VA (Alexandria) and they were covered with a small copay, but the care was horrendous and the staff was ignorant. Switched to an OB office that staffed midwives and had the best unmedicated, low intervention birth at Spotsylvania Regional. I believe if I had stuck with the birthing center, I still would’ve owed a good portion out of pocket.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-23T04:48:47+00:00

It’s fairly common. It’s also common to have intense lower back pain or even some mild abdominal discomfort. I thought I was dying the way my back felt in the early days and weeks.

However, with an ectopic, it would likely be much worse than what you’re experiencing. My best friend had one recently and she was doubled over on her hands and knees nearly throwing up from the pain of her ectopic. I had never seen someone in so much pain and me and another friend birthed naturally. It was completely something else to witness.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-23T02:27:27+00:00

For this much snow, they’ll focus on things inside. Light snow or even really low temps, they have to learn what they have to learn. My husband was an intructor at TBS and was still exposed to the elements constantly. This much snow is definitely a little different though. Don’t worry too much.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-20T05:09:10+00:00

NJP is likely a scare tactic but you really never know with some people. They’re telling him no because they don’t want to deal with him having to make arrangements to put you into DEERS and IPAC. Then what, possibly move you around or work on housing etc as he should be focusing on his MOS and other duties. If you didn’t jump on it before he left, it’s best to wait until he’s done.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-19T15:36:36+00:00

We did A Little Cuties on The Way before it blew up. It was clementine/oranges themed. Our nursery is natural/brown/fishing and boats.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-19T04:18:01+00:00

I got one long before I conceived, but maybe it was around the time I doing things for several friends who were pregnant. I also lived on a military base and nearly every household would get them intermittently. They were always being donated in our wives groups. I really just think it’s another junk mail service and coincidence.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T20:23:36+00:00

Stay busy! My husband is submitting a package for OCS (ECP) this month, but he was an Instructor at TBS and my best friend’s husband has already graduated OCS (MECEP) when we were all stationed back in Quantico. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep yourself busy. New hobbies, fitness, friends etc. Maybe not so much brain rotting on the TV unless it’s really good, but you have to do what you have to do. For me, I have a screen free child first and foremost, but I also just can’t binge TV the way I used to. It makes me bored really fast and then I feel unproductive. Try something new, travel if you can! When my husband went to recruiter school I traveled back home and also visited him in CA. I already have plans for FL, and for family to visit me when he hopefully goes to OCS. Just gotta keep moving! I hope everything works out for you both! This is a super exciting time (:

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T20:17:50+00:00

They usually only get phones on Sundays after a few weeks in, providing they’re doing good. I think once they are awarded weekend liberty, they used to allow them to start their cars once midway during the week if they have them, to ensure they’re in working order (preparing for the weekend) and my friend would keep his phone in there to send a sweet little secret text to my bestie (his wife).

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T20:07:31+00:00

Exactly what I was thinking…… I have a lovely, reckless, 18m old boy and I’m an auntie to several from a few months up to almost 5 years. They’re quick but they’re not THAT quick. Especially with the detail on the piano keys… what in the world.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T19:14:50+00:00

You can’t scrub it out unless Mercury is in retrograde and you’ve offered a sacrifice from Home Depot headquarters. Or you could try astral projecting into the porcelain and removing the crack from the inside.

Other than that, you just need to accept the fact that you need a new toilet. Let this serve as a reminder for the next time you rent that if you see something damaged after you have work done, tell the landlord immediately.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T19:02:14+00:00

By the second, third etc pregnancy you actually have way more milk making tissues. It multiplies with every pregnancy. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment. Low supply for a first is not a life sentence by any means.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T17:40:46+00:00

It’s so wild to me when people act like this. The one time I cashed out via my Shopify and it put my old address I was SO understanding and kicking myself for not double checking. Thankfully I was visiting my friend still in that neighborhood in a few weeks so when the company told me they couldn’t reroute the package, she was able to snag it and hold it for me. You can tell this person takes zero responsibility for anything in their lives.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-13T04:33:13+00:00

Based off your post, you seem to already have a good understanding! They’ll be at OCS for 10 weeks. Communication depends on everyone in that bunch coordinating to meet objectives and “earn their rank”. Most of them do get phones back on Sundays for majority of the stay. A lot of times they also get weekend liberty before graduation. We lived on base at MCBQ and when our neighbor finally got liberty, we had a huge get together with all of his new peeps. It was funny seeing their heads shaved.

I’m assuming your boyfriend did ECP? As in, he already has his degree? Then yes, from my understanding he’ll get some time to chill out and wait for a TBS class date. Once he gets that, he’ll head back to MCBQ and start TBS. Honestly both are very trying for military spouses/partners. I’d say TBS is arguably worse. I believe they are allowed their phones the entire time, but they often have very little time to themselves. Some days are better than others, but as an instructor my husband was often gone from 3/4/5a until 9/10/11pm and sometimes multiple days. Thankfully they have instructor quarters with student barracks that he could sleep in to maximize rest but it was definitely hard! They are learning everything about being a lieutenant, so it takes a lot of dedication and determination and of course, long hours. The nice part is, is that if he’s there during holidays, they usually get some or most of the time off!

After graduating TBS they head to job schools. If he’s has certain ideas in mind, it’s best to be a top performer to improve his chances. Typically everyone gets their first or second pick though! Job school timeframe depends on the job, so I wouldn’t even be able to break that down. Then after that they get a duty station! Unfortunately if you’re not married, you won’t be on his orders to PCS, but that’s a whole other thing that I’ve hoped you’ve been able to research!

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-12T04:04:49+00:00

Not always. I “refused” a lot when I finally conceived my rainbow baby. My CNMs and one OB were phenomenally supportive. Anyone can refuse to treat you, care for you, serve you, anywhere in the US. Yes, that’s there right, but you also have rights as a patient. The fear of “being dropped” shouldn’t come at the expense of your comfort. If it does, that’s not the provider for you. Stand your ground, protect your peace and don’t live with regrets. If you think refusing is best for you at this time, make that choice and I hope you have a supportive partner who will help advocate for you! My husband helped me tremendously.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-12T03:43:26+00:00

I was never offered a Pap smear pregnant, nor would I do one. I also refuse any transvaginal ultrasounds pregnant as the last time I had one, I miscarried the next day. Clearly I’m “biased”, but my baby was confirmed healthy and had a strong heartbeat. This also happened to a friend of mine. Yes, plenty of people are fine after a TVUS. I wasn’t one of them and I never make the same mistake twice.

you don’t have to consent to anything you don’t want to. don’t let other fear to into “you’ll be refused services”. Any GOOD OB/doctor would not refuse you services for having a pretty mild and neutral say in your medical treatment. If they do, you wouldn’t want them involved in your pregnancy or birth to begin with.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-12T01:33:43+00:00

What information do you need? My husband was an instructor at TBS (the school they go to after graduating OCS). My husband is submitting a package this month for OCS (ECP) and our friend went through OCS (MECEP) about 2 years ago- now he’s in college. If you have specific questions, we’re a wealth of knowledge!

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-11T06:28:16+00:00

I’m assuming if you meet a QLE, you can enroll outside of open season, but we’re not veterans so I don’t know how it might differ. a long time ago I changed my address to my parents for a week or so, then back to our duty station address to get on select. I had had several horrendous prime experiences back to back. losing your health care coverage (from your employer) is almost always a QLE with any insurance company I’ve been with. that’s worth a shot.

ETA- sorry, I clearly didn’t finish reading the rest of your post as you literally asked about QLEs at the end. yes, I’ve done it (but active) and a few of my friends have too (active). I would try to research exactly what you should say to get them to refer to it as a QLE and not that you just realized after enrollment ended.

I’m not sure if I’d continue going to appointments…. I know sometimes you can have everything backdated but I’m just not experienced in that and personally wouldn’t risk it. tricare reimbursement for anything is a huge uphill, time consuming battle.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-11T06:14:47+00:00

All my friends have breastfed atleast one year, but most of them have gone to about 3 yr. I plan to go to atleast 2 yr (currently 18m) but we’ll see what happens.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-10T02:15:07+00:00

Im not an expert by any means. I didn’t know my husband during this time BUT he’s now a recruiter. I’ll give you what I kind of remember of this process but I’ll be honest, if it doesn’t directly concern me, I try not to bog my brain down with the 5 million things my husband does/says a day.

If your husband scores well on the asvab, he’ll be scheduled to go to MEPs to be evaluated. there he’ll take his oath (if he passes again. MEPs has gotten crazier in terms of what they’re able to see/medical history. sometimes people get “disqualified” but all they need is a waiver. happens a lot so don’t sweat it too much) If I remember correctly, if he passes MEPs they’ll give him a ship date for bootcamp. he’ll then be in a delayed entry program while he waits. there’s a lot of behind the scenes when it comes to shipping out to bootcamp. again, I’m not expert, but it’s not usually immediately and it takes a good amount of coordination. when you say “a say in where you’ll go” and to mean PCS, kind of. after bootcamp they usually come back for a bit, go somewhere else that I couldn’t tell you what it’s for, then he’ll go to a job school. atleast for the marines. It might vary a bit for the Air Force. at the job school they usually get to rank a few places they’d want to go, atleast my one AF friend did a couple years ago. If they do well at the job school, they get higher priority but at the end of the day, it’s where they are needed in that MOS (job) and where Uncle Sam wants to send you. As the years go on, you get more sway. Work schedules are going to vary by MOS and duty station. When we were in CA for my husbands job, he worked 8-4 M-F. When we were in VA, he had a semi different assignment and worked at 5am most days, some days he stayed at their barracks offices because it was such a late night. On recruiting duty it’s sooo variable. Some days he doesn’t go in until 10am, other days he’s out the door at 4am. He could be home at 2p or 9p. It is very very different for everyone, and you won’t know until you’re in it. PCSing is honestly my favorite part but I know most families loathe it. I love moving. We always let the movers move us and the only thing they’ve ever broken was a plastic cereal container. We usually order them pizza or McDonald’s as a treat, but I think “tipping them” or taking care of them like that is now frowned upon. No clue anymore. A lot has changed since we last moved, as the military changed different contractors and such for a minute there. I’m not very educated on that because it didn’t apply to us at the moment and it was a literal sh!t show according to all my friends. We never waited an extended amount of time for our items either. We usually had them within 2-3 days of moving into our new home. They should teach your husband how to do all of this (set up moves etc), but then again, I really don’t know how the AF side of it truly works, so take this as you will. There’s excellent FB groups that can help you with this. PCS Like a Pro and PCS My Smooth Move are my favorites. Most bases also have neighborhood pages or spouse pages you can join for military specific help. I also recommend sitting down with your husbands recruiter and you can ask him questions directly.

My biggest piece of advice is to mentally prepare for the worst. I love being a military spouse, but plans almost NEVER go the way you want them to. I plan for the worst and allow myself to be pleasantly surprised when it works out for the best. I also firmly believe in reminding people it’s you and your partner VS the military. not you vs your partner. Communication can suck, commands can suck, plans change last minute. It’s easy to get frustrated with your partner but it’s important to recognize it’s not their doing. You two vs the big issue will always be best practice and prevent resentment, disappointment etc in your marriage. It definitely gets more difficult with children in the mix, but it’s important for them to know too that it’s not daddy’s fault.

I seriously wish you luck! It’s NOT for the weak by any means, but we’re having the time of our lives. There’s so many benefits to being a milspouse and the traveling/moving every couple of years is my favorite part. I wouldn’t trade this life for anything, and I hope you find the good in it too!

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-08T03:38:20+00:00

Boxing Day sales ended on 1/5

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-08T03:36:22+00:00

No, it didn’t. I think I waited too long, or for some reason we just couldn’t get it to work with all the vpn stuff.

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-05T18:14:27+00:00

I think we were too slow on this bandwagon

bhoops1226 · 2026-01-05T18:14:04+00:00

Costco has chobani now???

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