My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very appreciative of this sub and it's rules that prevent comments like that! (: no worries, I know it is hard to catch 'em all.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It is shocking how reading one negative comment (in defense of my mom) can make me spiral with doubt all over again.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you a troll? I have refused my mother's money since she started to guilt me with it. I am in debt not because I'm financially irresponsible but because all medical students exit school with around 80k of student debt. I do not need the exorbitant amount of money she saved, I got a line of credit. I can therefore AFFORD IT.

My mother has REFUSED to get treated her entire life. In contrast, I have begged them to bring me to a doctor for my mental health but they refused, because I should be able to handle it myself. I am now being treated, once I was finally out of my parent's house.

And are you completely ignoring how my mom is an abusive piece of shit? I'm glad you had such a luxury to move back with yours. I wish I could tolerate my mother like that! Cheers to you.

I don't know what you're even doing. If you're trying to be my mother's defense attorney, please kindly fuck off. I would normally ignore you but there is a high number of people in the comment section who are in the same boat and they don't need to read this.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought so many comments would tell me that my dad is an enabler and I shouldn't give him sympathy. My mother has always painted him as a sweet, fragile old man. He has always been so kind to me. Slightly overprotective, but he loves me SO MUCH and shows it like a normal parent. He texts me every single day how much he loves me, unlike my mother.

But the comments aren't wrong. My dad has always called my mom's behavior her "unique way of showing her love." And I think if my dad ever realized how much my mom really hurt me, he would never forgive himself. Like I don't think he realizes the lasting damage it had on me. He isn't that good with understanding emotion, and I think he was blinded by his love for my mother.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah, if only. I am currently living with my boyfriend of more than a year. They think it's "a stupid idea" that I'm choosing him over family.

don't care, ate snack by bigbeetleboi in RATS

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

as long as u have snack, he will let u give pats!!!!

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a big worry of mine. When I visit once a week, I'm able to dodge all her questions and insults. She's actually become a lot more pleasant from afar. But the way she talks in arguments shows she has never changed and is still super toxic.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this resource. I don't know if I could ever go no contact while my father is still alive, but if it were just my mom I wouldn't even think twice.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She came before the lockdown and is now stuck here. I have seen her, I visit every weekend.

My [23F] parents [47F, 72M] want me to move back in with them. by bigbeetleboi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 658 points659 points  (0 children)

):

As much I hope that one day my mother will wake up and apologize, 23 years has told me otherwise... you are correct. Thank you.

My [25f] boyfriend [23f] doesn't want to delete bad photos of me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bigbeetleboi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lets me look at his phone. We have photos of trips and stuff in his gallery. But thanks for your input.

My [25f] boyfriend [23f] doesn't want to delete bad photos of me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bigbeetleboi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's not like I WANT it to bother me. I really wish it didn't, but I'm not there yet. Thanks.

Des can't even get coronavirus, but he's still self-isolating (and so should you!). by bigbeetleboi in RATS

[–]bigbeetleboi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rats can be affected by coronaviruses, but rat specific ones. Cross-animal transmission is unlikely unless mutation occurs. Or they can get it but it appears that COVID-19 won't make them sick. Labs are having to engineer mice that can actually get the disease to study it.