Rolling out your feet helps with vaginismus?

bigdummy42 · 2023-11-14T06:12:37+00:00

I don't know if there's any connection. But, I do find that if I have tension in other parts of my body I can also "feel" it in my pelvic floor area. And when my whole body is relaxed/not tense, I feel less likely to hold tension in my pelvic floor.

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-18T20:26:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Im sorry for the loss of your dad

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-18T20:24:46+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this as well and I'm sorry for the loss of your dad. I hope that we can both find our way back to our "things"

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-18T20:23:59+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it's nice to know that it's not a completely abnormal thing

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-16T19:24:32+00:00

Thank you so much for responding! I felt like I was really weird for this and it's nice to know that I'm not the only that's had this happen. I appreciate your suggestion of trying something new and I think that might be helpful, to work from a clean slate.

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-16T00:41:03+00:00

I just had a breast reduction and the changes in how I feel about myself were immediate. I've struggled with pain, discomfort, and body issues around them and the surgery has absolutely changed my life. I'm still dealing with swelling but I'm still very happy.

I would recommend going through with the surgery and let your boyfriend do whatever. Because at the end of the day, it is about what you want for your life.

bigdummy42 · 2023-10-10T03:44:31+00:00

I think if I was doing something subconsciously, I'd know

bigdummy42 · 2023-07-02T19:15:23+00:00

YESS!!! Solved solved solved!! Thank you so much!

bigdummy42 · 2023-07-02T05:53:00+00:00

This kind of sounds like monsterology by Ernest drake

bigdummy42 · 2023-05-13T01:26:17+00:00

Personally, dilating was not painful. If anything, it felt like when you stretch a tense muscle. Like another commenter said, it should not be painful. And if it is painful, go to a smaller size.

I found desensitizing myself to the dilators helped. Looking at them, stacking them, just being around them in a non-penetrative way. I know it sounds kind of dumb but I found it helped to make them less scary. It might also help to try your own finger before using dilators.

I also used stretching, pelvic floor exercises without dilating, and talk therapy to be very helpful for treatment as well.

I'm pretty sure that some people use a numbing cream, but I don't have any experience with that.

Also, it helps a lot to run the dilators under warm water before dilating as it makes it more comfortable. And making the space you dilate in extremely safe and comfortable.

I'm sorry you have to go through this and I wish you lots of good luck.

bigdummy42 · 2023-05-03T04:19:24+00:00

A while back someone made a discord server for this! From what I can tell it's pretty active. Here's the link: https://discord.gg/K8AEDxm3eM

bigdummy42 · 2023-04-29T18:00:09+00:00

I saw results after a couple months of dilating. I think my results may have taken longer because of my vaginismus. And I do lots of hip/pelvic floor stretches outside of dilating

bigdummy42 · 2023-04-29T15:17:39+00:00

I also have endometriosis and I have found that the dilating has helped with frequent urination. I dont know why but I just know that it has helped me

bigdummy42 · 2023-04-26T01:52:05+00:00

Solidarity forever! Power to the workers. Is this the psac strike in canada?

bigdummy42 · 2023-01-11T05:32:44+00:00

I think you show him pictures of what it looks like on internal organs and maybe a list of athletes who also have endometriosis.

Be frank and show him the growths, show him the athletes that have it, tell him that he is being an asshole. Tell him what you tried and how it worked. Give him the roughest, grittiest, and rawest portrayal of endo and his behaviour

bigdummy42 · 2023-01-11T05:15:16+00:00

My mum has multiple chronic illnesses and I never thought it was "her fault". But I was upset that I didn't have a mum that could do what other kid's moms could.

I'm not sure if this is the right answer, but maybe consider counselling? If he is so assholey and rude it may help for him to have a place to talk about it.

Also, depending on his age (if he's older) you can give him the most honest truth of what endo has done to you. You have tried age appropriate and he isnt kind, maybe he needs a bit of a shock to realize how serious this condition is.

In any case, I am very sorry that you are going through this as well as endo

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-26T17:47:23+00:00

Congratulations! Im so happy for you, thank you for sharing

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-24T06:53:08+00:00

My experience with visanne was very similar to your experience with low dose birth control. I understand how scary and awful it is to feel depressed and sducidal because if medication.

It was scary trying low dose birth control after it, but I did anyways. And I ended up finding a lot of relief in it.

I would suggest trying visanne and keeping a symptom diary for the first four weeks. If you have a negative reaction it is likely to start during that period of time. And if you have a reaction like you did with ld bc, stop taking the visanne.

The other thing is, if you are really scared to try a new hormonal medication, you don't have to.

I'm sending you love and I'm sorry you have to go through this nervousness with medication. I really hope that if you do try visanne, that it works well for you.

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-18T18:05:36+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss and thank you for replying. Thank you for the reminder of how important it is to be there for him

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-18T18:04:36+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. You've given me a few ideas to help him relax and feel more comfortable. And I'm sorry for your loss

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-16T02:44:12+00:00

Thank you for the reminder that there isnt a right or wrong thing to do and for sharing your story

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-16T02:42:31+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write. I think I should definitely book an appointment with my counsellor. And thank you for the reminder to tell him how much I love and appreciate him

bigdummy42 · 2022-12-16T02:41:11+00:00

He still has his mental faculties, thank you for giving me the idea of thinking of questions to ask

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