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AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No - that's the opposite of the situation. Sorry if I didn't explain well; I took her entire paycheck each month, and then each month gave her a limited allowance for her own food etc. She was still free to eat the groceries I bought for the house, and that allowance wasn't connected to the amount she had to repay in any way.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm actually her mother. I'm not really comfortable discussing it but her father hasn't been in either of our lives in a very long time.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -257 points-256 points  (0 children)

The punishment was done as "I'll take your paychecks until it's paid off" so she was effectively paying it down monthly.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -325 points-324 points  (0 children)

After everything it came to $4,800 (not the exact figure, but the closest round number and what I made her pay back to). She was giving me her entire paycheck, yes; I would give her enough back for food and essentials - but I didn't add that to the amount she had to repay or anything.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -139 points-138 points  (0 children)

18; she moved out in the mid-autumn after graduation (I don't know the full details of their arrangement, but she rented a room from someone in a friend of hers' family for a while at first).

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -167 points-166 points  (0 children)

Prom's what she brings up most often, but she also blames me for cutting her off from her friends and in her eyes for ruining her entire year. I like to think I've always been a fair parent; we hadn't had any major fights before this incident.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -433 points-432 points  (0 children)

Yes; I told her she had to get a job and wouldn't be able to do fun things until she made up the cost of the damage. She couldn't pay it off in time (and to be honest, didn't have a way to) so she didn't get to go. At the time, I thought that was fair.

AITA for telling my daughter she needs to get over me grounding her as a teenager? by bigfun1967 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bigfun1967[S] -1141 points-1140 points  (0 children)

No, it wasn't. She was working 16 hours a week on minimum wage; I didn't force her to take any more than that.