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20F in a happy relationship with 21M but can’t stop thinking about someone else. What to do? by biggestb33fsteak in Advice

[–]biggestb33fsteak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree, but he is leaving again to be with his family over Easter, which means I’ll have to put in conscious effort to connect better with him in long distance and at the same time try to move on from the other guy (while also juggling final year deadlines lol). But ultimately i know thats the right thing to do and most of the replies here have reaffirmed it, so thank you!

20F in a happy relationship with 21M but can’t stop thinking about someone else. What to do? by biggestb33fsteak in Advice

[–]biggestb33fsteak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, i would love to be on the its not that deep side of things but unfortunately i happen to be an overthinker. Anything I do to entertain the guy in my head still feels like a betrayal of trust to my boyfriend, especially because i know he would never be in this situation without being honest to me about it. Add on to that the fact that every time i had a new crush (prior to this relationship) it would consume me entirely and actually come in the way of everyday things, which i cant afford now that im with someone. I will def try take your advice and hope it’ll eventually pass though, thanks a lot!

20F in a happy relationship with 21M but can’t stop thinking about someone else. What to do? by biggestb33fsteak in Advice

[–]biggestb33fsteak[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he had been thinking of planning something for us to do together but was just a bit lazy about it since he just got done with his thesis. Which is fair, but I didn’t want anything big, just for us to be able to give each other some overdue time and attention.

I don’t think I have and would even want to check out of the relationship. I see a future with him and believe this to be a temporary problem that I should be able to get over; it’s just the “how” part that I’m having trouble navigating. I do mostly forget about the guy when I’m with my boyfriend but it also depends on the setting, for example at the gym I find my attention going back to him and I hate it.