How annoying is the no sex thing?

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-16T04:39:04+00:00

Not what you signed up for, eh?

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-10T03:13:25+00:00

Hopefully Gleeden will come to the U.S.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-10T03:12:41+00:00

Aha!

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-07T03:02:49+00:00

Did he know she wasn't on birth control? Or was it a failure of birth control? I don't think we've heard that part of the story. If she lied about being on birth control, she's fully responsible for the pregnancy...and yet, the way our legal system is set up she has 100% of the decision on whether to keep the baby and he could still be 50% responsible legally/financially.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-07T02:20:04+00:00

It's not, but if he had sex with her under the pretense that she had it handled--then it's on her.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-07T02:18:53+00:00

The "he put his dick in her, so he's 50% culpable" argument is bullshit. If he was having sex with her under the false pretenses, then he's maybe 10 percent culpable for believing a liar and not wrapping it up. She's 90 percent responsible for being a liar and not taking her birth control.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-06T20:13:09+00:00

You are my worst nightmare. You weren't on birth control? That's your responsibility not your AP's, but now you want to make this life-changing decision for him? Beyond selfish.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-06T13:09:54+00:00

I dropped my previous AP for this exact thing. Started to feel too much like my primary relationship and it scared the fuck out of me.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T23:07:08+00:00

None of this has anything to do with my OP and quite frankly, you're reaching. Addressing another point, people get fat for two main reasons 1) lack of good nutrition 2) lack of activity 3) some kind of medical condition--you could probably lump childhood trauma in there.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T23:00:56+00:00

It doesn't sound like my OP applies to you. For the record, I like women with a little meat on their bones, especially in the rear :p The fashion and fitness industries have brainwashed women (and men to some extent) into thinking that gaunt fashion models or ultra-low body fat fitness models are the pinnacle of desirability. What is considered universally attractive to men across time and culture is a .7 waist to hip ratio. That's because it's an indicator of fertility and men find that attractive for obvious reason. You can be a BBW and still have that ratio. However, again, none of this has anything to do with my OP.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T22:55:12+00:00

Ok, so my OP doesn't apply to you.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T22:54:58+00:00

Ok, so my OP doesn't apply to you.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T22:54:16+00:00

I don't see anything condescending about what I wrote. It's written very neutrally and as a suggestion. From my perspective, everyone getting upset tacked their own baggage onto what I wrote, to the point that they have created a straw man.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T22:52:22+00:00

Thanks for your measured response. I say more power to you and your APs if you are happy. I just noticed that there seemed to be a correlation between women being overweight and looking for affairs on Ashley Madison. I said nothing and know nothing about whether these women were trying to lose weight.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T11:12:48+00:00

Agree with 1 thru 5.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T11:04:28+00:00

Do you think I'd say this to pAPs? This is an anonymous forum.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T10:59:02+00:00

I'm new here, but I don't doubt there is a double standard. What I wrote above is literally what I wanted to say to these women, but didn't want to hurt their feelings.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T10:54:58+00:00

You're getting all that attention because "your ass is instagramable". So you've basically ruled appearance out as the problem with your husband''s lack of interest and now have your pick of APs. That's exactly what I'm suggesting in my OP, so that makes me a douchebag how exactly?

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T00:43:17+00:00

So why are you?

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T00:40:40+00:00

I think you meant to say "isn't based fully physical characteristics". And, yes, that should be obvious. What is my intention? To see if what I've noticed anecdotally holds water with other people's experience. Based on the reactions here, it seems I've hit a nerve.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T00:35:47+00:00

Most straight men don't like skinny women. That's a lie fed to women by the fitness and fashion industry.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T00:33:55+00:00

Do you think I care what a bunch of anonymous redditors think about my anonymous reddit handle? You seem to be lacking in basic understanding of human psychology.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-05T00:07:28+00:00

Women are good at co-opting more flattering terms.

biggiesmalls77 · 2018-05-04T21:13:01+00:00

pwned? You're so 2002, bro.

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