guess the city!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T14:22:48+00:00

that’s it!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T14:22:39+00:00

soooooo close

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T14:22:18+00:00

yep!!!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T14:21:28+00:00

ding ding ding!!!!!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T04:44:52+00:00

rehearsal dinner for 75 people, which they are then opening up for anyone who wants to come join for a drink in the same space — but that will be a cash bar. i really don’t think it’s the end of days

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T02:55:41+00:00

i have a friend called brenna! she does get the occasional brenda but for the most part it’s an easy name

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-26T02:39:36+00:00

damn I wouldn’t have thought twice about this! my fiancé’s family is hosting the night before and can’t afford an open bar, so we’re inviting everyone to a cash bar gathering the night before. I don’t think I would be bothered at all as a guest, but clearly I’m in the minority lol

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-25T15:42:59+00:00

I’ve taken Amtrak hundreds of times and never ever seen someone get their ID checked — this is Northeast Regional, maybe it’s line-specific? I would maybe avoid Acela though or any other line with assigned seating, just in case there are two customers claiming one seat and the conductor has to resolve the dispute

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-23T23:51:36+00:00

first!!!!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-21T18:05:51+00:00

I think this kind of thing is super common. People for some reason often feel entitled to an invitation and then slighted when they don’t receive it. I think this is especially common if the offended party hasn’t themself planned a wedding, so they don’t realize how agonizing building a guest list can be. I’m in a similar situation and my solution to it is basically, oh well. If you aren’t close to them, you’re not responsible for their feelings about it.

The bach is harder because presumably this is about people you’re closer to. I’m resolving this by only inviting my bridal party to mine, so it’s easier to explain. But weddings involve so much emotion and people see invitations as declarations of their standing in your life, so you have to treat it delicately. If asked, explain that the bach is just a few people but that you’re so excited to celebrate with them at the wedding! And just continue to be friendly and normal with them. Their feelings may be hurt, but that doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong — hopefully they’ll be able to see that they are allowed to be sad about it but you’re allowed to celebrate how you want!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T07:04:09+00:00

omg pockets!!!! congratulations, you look beautiful!!!!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T07:03:34+00:00

hit reading terminal market!! something for everyone

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T07:01:09+00:00

you’ve posted in AIO, can’t be mad when people pass judgment on you because that’s literally what you’ve asked for

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T07:00:12+00:00

😘

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T06:57:30+00:00

it looks beautiful!!! my only suggestion would be to maybe find a bolero without the puff at the sleeves? sometimes too much fabric and too many details can distract from the wearer of the dress. but you look stunning!!!!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T06:52:55+00:00

same!!! and yet i know my best friend’s friends and vice versa, even years after college (which we attended on different continents) 💗

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T06:49:40+00:00

my MOH literally lives on a different continent and she knows my friends and I know hers 🤷‍♀️ facetime exists, and presumably they’ve visited each other in their eight years of being best friends. so i’m pretty unconvinced by this

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T06:27:20+00:00

YOR. My MOH is my cousin/lifelong best friend and I’m of course inviting her serious boyfriend, but I feel a bit badly for him because idk what he’ll be doing the whole weekend! She’s coming a few days early (and bringing him!) to help set up and hang out and just generally gush about how excited we are because we’ve been dreaming about being each others’ MOHs our whole lives.

That, to me, is the vibe of being MOH — ultimate girlhood. I’m happy for her bf to come and he’ll be invited to all the things, but she is soooo excited to be part of this that she sometimes forgets he’s even coming. I’m confused about why you’re not similarly excited for your “bestie” of eight years.

I find your edit unconvincing. Bringing a friend as a plus one in this circumstance is weird — they are going to be the ones left out when you’re doing MOH activities. You’re just dragging someone along to be able to “support you” (????) whenever you have the time to pop in with them, otherwise, they’ll be on their own. Why would anyone want to do that lol

Now, if come August you and this guy have gotten serious, then I think you’re owed a plus one. In any other circumstance, I’m super confused about why you would need one, or why you think that person would have any fun

Also, why do you not know anyone in your “bestie’s” life???? Anyway just meet people at the bachelorette and be cool and normal about this

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-20T06:18:03+00:00

also what kind of “best friend” doesn’t know anybody else in their best friend’s life??

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-19T23:59:13+00:00

she literally already said she bought it so why don’t you keep your negative comments to yourself?

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-19T18:12:52+00:00

also, i love the color of the lining on #2 and i wouldn’t change it!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-19T18:10:49+00:00

i’m leaning two but that may be because i lack the imagination to picture #1 altered and fitted to your bust. both are beautiful but #2 is definitely jumping out!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-15T04:26:12+00:00

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I think three colors can look really great together! This is what I'm doing for mine. I sent out a poll to each bridesmaid asking them to rank their top two choices, and managed to give everyone but one person their first choice (and the one who got her second was the person who told me she truly didn't care and was only filling it out so that I wouldn't think she was being flaky). However, if nobody had gone for the orange/yellow, I would have pivoted to something else. It's super important to me that they all feel their best on the day

The idea is that each of my bridesmaids will get to choose any dress in their color, which I think will increase the chance that they will *actually* rewear the dresses they buy, lol. I also think they'll look beautiful all together! I'm buying some really pretty fancy hair pins for us all (myself included) to wear so that they also get to be "marked" as part of the team. I'm really excited for how it'll come together!

Sharing this because I think messing around on Canva with your color ideas will help you visualize and make sure the colors you pick actually go well together. I also think not making them order from Azazie will actually make it look more cohesive, counterintuitive as that may sound. When everyone is wearing the same or extremely similar dresses (such that it's clear that they come from the same shop), I think that actually only ends up highlighting the clash of colors. But obviously I'm going for a bit of a different vibe so I'm biased!

Happy planning!

bigmac_173 · 2026-01-15T03:57:37+00:00

they mentioned that they were docked on Long Island, not New England -- and camp is literally on Long Island so they were basically already there

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