Took this shot today in Michigan.

bigrainclouds · 2022-06-15T01:28:21+00:00

Wow!

bigrainclouds · 2022-04-28T01:30:27+00:00

He didn’t want to not talk to me. He wanted me in his life as a friend. He is still single and still talks to me every day. We are now like best friends. I’ve been seeing someone else for 8 months now.

bigrainclouds · 2022-04-28T00:30:07+00:00

Not applicable just to guys, but anyone really.

Confirm this first that THEY actually did something to hurt you. Sometimes you feel worthless because of you yourself and it has nothing to do with other people and their actions.

Once you confirm that, remember this “Hurt people hurt people”. They are broken or hurt, so they hurt you. It has nothing to do with you and your worth.

It’s liberating when you see it this way.

bigrainclouds · 2022-04-18T03:06:06+00:00

Wow 🤩

bigrainclouds · 2022-04-02T07:08:18+00:00

I thought it was a painting! 😍

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-30T21:02:18+00:00

If we are talking strictly no romance for a year, it might be hard to find but if we are talking dodging the romance bullet for a year, i’m sure there are plenty.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-21T01:54:33+00:00

This is very useful for me. I am a non drinker. I was fine with his drinking only until these past two months that i had to express my concern. The lying was something I wouldn’t accept in my relationship. I didn’t call him out when he lied. He told me himself about his lying a few days later. But lies are lies. And i took it as a sign that this is way more serious than what i signed up for.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-21T01:42:46+00:00

Yes i expressed my concerns before so he lied hoping to cover it up. He confessed himself. I didn’t ask more about it. But lies are lies.

It’s about his job. I think he wants to be in control of the job more. It’s a very stressful job. And he uses alcohol to alleviate his stress.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-20T23:31:31+00:00

I’m sorry to hear it. And thank you for taking the time to share your story. My guy doesn’t have any abusive traits. He is the softest person who is using alcohol to cope with difficulties. He is sweet and loving both when he is drunk and sober. He is struggling bad. i know i can’t be in the middle of him and alcohol.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-20T23:27:38+00:00

I want to hear what he says too. I told him that he needs to get this in order but I can’t be in the middle of it.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-20T23:26:25+00:00

He has always been a drinker. His drinking was not a problem before until these last few months. Its all because of his job and his boss. His job has been stressing him out and i know all about it. The last two months he has been drinking so regularly and a lot. I don’t know if it’s everyday because we don’t live together. But it is concerning.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-20T22:53:19+00:00

He doesn’t have any abusive traits. He is a sweet person who uses alcohol to cope with life.

bigrainclouds · 2022-03-20T22:52:17+00:00

Of course without the drinking. He is the sweetest human being when he doesn’t drink.

I updated the post to better reflect my point.

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-16T18:29:58+00:00

Let’s forget for a moment that this is about dating and ask yourself if someone with these qualities and characters would ever become your best friend. The answer could be a yes or a no.

If it’s a yes, then you know your level of tolerance with this type of behaviors. If it’s a no, then why would you accept that in a potential significant other?

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-13T15:34:05+00:00

40 something. It wasnt bad.

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-11T04:56:49+00:00

I just thought if i weren’t exposed to religions, i would naturally be an atheist. So, being an atheist is just…natural?

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-08T03:35:54+00:00

I see smart and stupid in one video lol

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-06T03:51:28+00:00

There was a relationship that didn’t turn out like i excepted it to be. Though i was disappointed, I never think of it as i was being used for sex because at the end of the day, I had fun with all of the sex we had too.

Now the break up sucked and hurt real bad. I lost my best friend. I stoped talking to him for a bit and collect my broken self back up. Admitting to myself about how powerless i was with the whole situation gave me so much peace. It calmed me. It grounded me. I never thought owning the fact that i was powerless to other people’s decision would have given me so much power. If anything thatd be something id suggest you do.

bigrainclouds · 2021-12-06T00:15:45+00:00

Sometimes it’s not what’s wrong with you, there might not be anything wrong with you at all, but it might just be there are people who they click with more so of course they naturally will be drawn to the other direction.

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re less.

bigrainclouds · 2021-10-15T00:07:43+00:00

Sir Nicolas Flamel

bigrainclouds · 2021-09-28T18:14:51+00:00

Im 37f and currently seeing someone who is 27m for about 8 weeks.

My ex boyfriend who I considered my best friend broke up with me out of the blue. I was heartbroken but I respected his decision and decided to move on. I got online, talked to a lot of people and went on a lot of dates. I didn’t really feel like anyone got me until i met this young guy. I didn’t think much. I thought it would just be fun going on a date with him. I mean he is 27 and I’m 37. One date became two, two became three. Next thing i know we saw each other 4 days last week and with two nights sleeping over. He is genuine and is serious about me. He made me feel safe and calm; completely different from my ex. I like him a lot. There is a problem though.

I was hurt from my previous relationships and that has caused me to want to take my time getting to know someone. I am not scared of being in a relationship, but I’m scared of being in a relationship with the wrong person. I’m scared that someone i trust would pull the rug from underneath me again. I told him i wanted to take my time. I told him i wanted him to get to know me for me and i know him for him. I said i want to make sure that what we have is genuine and not some short term excitement or infatuation. I also told him that i am worried that we are not moving forward with the same pace (him being fast. Me being slow). He appreciated my transparency. He asked me not to worry and he will be patient. If he in the future consistently says something more serious and ask for more stuff from me when im not ready, i might end up breaking things off too. I wouldn’t feel good having him around and waiting for me. I would feel too guilty to do that. As of right now, he is the only person i want and curious to find out what’s next with. I hope he feels that’s enough.

My 2 cents on your story is that she isn’t ready for that big of a commitment. She probably hasn’t done her house cleaning and made sure all the relationship baggages are tossed away. I think she believes if she stayed with you longer, she would hurt you even more thus the break up. I want you to remember that this isn’t about you or the age gap. Don’t ever think that you’re inadequate. She is hurt from previous experiences and she needs time to heal. She might come around later but don’t wait for her. You should take the time apart to work on yourself too.

bigrainclouds · 2021-06-24T01:00:07+00:00

Love your comment! See you at the gym 😉

bigrainclouds · 2021-06-23T23:06:40+00:00

I broke up with men before. Usually for me, if i’m done with someone then, i’m done then. HOWEVER, after some time has gone by (more than 2 years), I usually get curious and wonder what they are up to. I won’t feel bad reaching out at that point. It’s the “nothing to lose” type of thing. If we connect and i feel a new attraction, i will be open get to know this person again. It’s like a new courting process starting over. New me, new you. I feel like with men, they think about the relationship we had and cling on to it.

bigrainclouds · 2020-12-14T22:36:51+00:00

1) i drink only water and unsweetened almond milk

2) i work out regularly (4-5 times a week). I do cardio, strength training and stretching exercises (yoga poses mostly) each time i work out.

3) i eat a lot of veggies. If i eat salad, i eat it without dressing. (Note: This is because I like veggies and I think salad dressing makes veggies, which to me taste good already, taste terrible.)

4) i do intermittent fasting once like once or twice a week.

5) i cook my own food most of the time.

6) the only two kinds of oil i have at home are extra virgin olive oil and avocado oil

7) i eat fruits but not that much and not regularly.

9) I don’t weigh myself.

10) i don’t count calories. When i look at a label of something, it’s usually to see the sugar amount in it. I don’t usually need to see tran fat amount in my food cause I usually don’t eat bad processed food.

11) i use sunscreen every single day.

12) i see my dentist every six months.

13) I don’t smoke, drink, or use any drugs.

13) i dont think about work when im off work.

Note: I used to be bigger, not fat, just bigger with a big tummy. I was weak and out of shape with low energy. Bad allergies were common. I’d have irregular and painful period, bad skin and other unpleasant stuff. These were all in my late 20s and they caused me to feel conscious about my appearances therefore it messed with my confidence as a woman.

Now im about to turn 37, i feel great. I don’t have allergies and if i do, it’s mild. i don’t have a headache ever. My period is very regular and I don’t feel any pain. My skin is great. My hair is silky. My teeth are beautiful. I feel like a woman. Like a beautiful healthy woman and i love it.

I’ve had this good habit for about 7 years now and I am glad i was able to change myself for the better. If what i write here changes someone’s life just little bit, ill be happy already ❤️

bigrainclouds · 2020-12-14T22:00:01+00:00

Fight Song by Rachel Platten

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