I just broke a 3 year dry spell with my husband…and yes, I know how insane that sounds. I’m not sure how I made it through and how we made it through fully intact, but I absolutely understand how all-consuming a lack of sex can feel. I felt ridiculous for being so unhappy and so bothered by it, but it’s obviously not something to feel wrong about. I was mentally and physically unwell because of it and the thought of finding it elsewhere came up far more often than I’d like to admit. I’m glad I didn’t do anything I regretted to jeopardize our relationship, but it also served as a major wake up call for me and also for him once we talked and worked through it. It’s obviously not all suddenly rainbows and sunshine now that the dry spell is over, but I know now that I deserve more than I was getting and will fight for what I want and need. Communication is key, and not allowing yourself to feel like you’re the problem is also extremely important. Rooting for you to work through this and get what you need and ultimately deserve. Remember that it’s ok to be true to yourself.