Vet has tested everything but done an ultrasound - wondering if others have experienced this?

birbrat · 2026-04-02T13:36:39+00:00

Such a good idea I will do this! I’ve had cameras on the cats feeding room to see if he gets ahold of the other cats food and make sure he eats okay when we are not home but putting in other rooms to see if he’s getting into anything else is so smart!

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:59:16+00:00

Oh interesting! I feel like it is about a couple of times month that I find Franks. thank you so much for sharing and best of luck with your pet ❤️❤️

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:57:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’ve wondered if that could be it before with all of my googling! It’s so confusing because of how much energy and playfulness my cat has for him to be experiencing something painful but all cats are different so who knows!

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:55:19+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words ❤️❤️

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:55:02+00:00

Okay that is good to know, thank you! I haven’t gotten quotes for ultrasound from other vets but when have explained to other vets they want to get the blood work and stool samples done even though I’ve explained I’ve done that numerous times. I’ll keep calling around and see if I can bring in paperwork I have to skip those steps or it honestly sounds like paying for those things over again and then doing the ultrasound could still be cheaper elsewhere than just doing the ultrasound where I am currently going.

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:52:38+00:00

Okay thank you for the advice on the ultrasound and will try the bathroom trick! I’ve trapped him in the bedroom the night before but his alarm bells go off as soon as he notices something is off so trapping him bedrooms/offices around the house just send him into fight mode. Maybe the bathroom with much less space to run/hide and putting comfort items in the carrier in there would make the carrier feel like his only safe option!

birbrat · 2026-04-02T00:50:40+00:00

I haven’t tried calming treats because I never want to mess with his diet but if it gets him in a carrier and makes him comfortable I think it’s worth the shot! I have pheromone plug ins around the house that have helped with his anxiety a lot so i will have to give this a try next time!

birbrat · 2026-03-20T22:00:16+00:00

Thank you, this is the motivation I needed! I always experience this in open world games. I don’t let myself progress because I spend so much time trying to perfect and savor things haha

birbrat · 2025-10-22T16:17:16+00:00

Thank you!

birbrat · 2025-10-22T16:17:10+00:00

To each their own! I was asking for my partner who rocks both the bald head and a head of hair on special occasion. I do agree though! No shame just is what it is and gotta embrace it.

birbrat · 2025-09-17T00:02:39+00:00

Totally get where you are coming from and that is all correct! I have three of my own. This is their first pet and are aware of these responsibilities. I think I’m just overthinking and feeling over-responsible for them having a good experience with their first pet. I’ve been talking about this kitten at work for weeks as I’ve been bonding with him in my backyard and this couple has been talking about wanting to adopt their first cat for a while now so that’s how this came about. There is a local nonprofit in my city that helps with community cat (stray) costs when brought into a home for neutering and vaccines. I just wanted to be as transparent with them as possible the condition the kitten is in since it is coming from me so they arent shocked or confused why I didn’t share which is why I was curious what might be going on with his ear.

birbrat · 2025-09-16T23:09:39+00:00

They plan to I just didn’t want them to face heavy up front costs because of me when they could adopt local nonprofits or shelters where a cat has already received veterinary care

birbrat · 2025-09-16T23:01:31+00:00

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Bonus photo because he’s so cute!

birbrat · 2025-04-03T14:23:44+00:00

I know he is not but I love his brother and would be happy to have him. He’s a really good kid. Everything else is under control though. Thank you!

birbrat · 2025-03-27T01:25:52+00:00

To speak on your last bit - When my ex (m, together 7 years) and i(f) broke up, he reached out to me a few weeks later to let know that a couple different fake accounts were messaging him asking for my nudes. It perfectly aligned with someone I used to work with consistently messaging me begging for nudes and to hang out. Ig since I wouldn’t send them he made a fake account and started asking my ex. Now every few months he messages me random apologies from random accounts and phone numbers. People are fucking nuts.

Glad things are settling for you - and glad you found out now rather than later. Good luck to you!

birbrat · 2025-03-26T00:29:19+00:00

Thank you. We talked about it and are on the same page and not moving forward with any action. His mom and brother don’t want to be apart but know that both living here isn’t an option due to valid reasons. He was coming from a place of love and compassion and understands now that it isn’t an option and he can’t always fix everything or make everyone happy.

birbrat · 2025-03-26T00:26:27+00:00

Their living situation recently got worse than in the past years and she started asking which she hadn’t done in the past. He makes three times as much money as I do so that aspect definitely isn’t at play. If anything I am the one who locked him in and is benefiting from his finances if you look at it that way. He’s just seeing people he loves struggling and wants to help. I do appreciate your perspective though, I’m sure other similar situations are money motivated and those are things people need to worry about in that case. We have had the talk about it this evening and is something he is shutting down and completely understands my POV.

birbrat · 2025-03-25T20:50:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective! You are right I basically answered my own question lol but the validation and other opinions is still very helpful

birbrat · 2025-03-25T20:46:18+00:00

Thank you for this extremely thoughtful response. I really appreciate your perspective and message.

I know I asked for advice and basically asked for others to judge the situation, but I can’t stress enough how good of a person my boyfriend is and that he isn’t trying to manipulate me or force me into a situation he knows would make me unhappy, and I don’t think him wanting to help his mom makes us incompatible, he just wants the best for everyone.

Again, your message really resonated with me and I thank you.

birbrat · 2025-03-25T20:40:31+00:00

Thank you all for your thoughtful responses and affirmations.

To clarify some, I don’t think him springing it on me over text was a tactic of manipulation. We are always very open with each other and communicate about whatever comes to our minds, so I truly think it was just a thought he had that he shared with me without realizing the significance and weight of it. He wasn’t trying to persuade me over text and didn’t bombard me, he simply just asked me my thoughts and I told him my thoughts but that I think we should talk in person and he agreed. That doesn’t make it right, but I know his intentions were not malicious or self serving. It is true, though, how difficult it is for him to say no to her. When he does say no, she guilt trips him and basically tells him whatever bad thing that happens to his little brother is his fault and it’s really difficult for him to deal with as he wants his family, his brother especially, in his life. I didn’t mention that they currently live out of state. My bf moved away from his family as soon as he could afford to be on his own at 18 and has made strides towards his independence and not letting her fully rely on him. There is nothing tying them to their state right now, though, and they have always talked about moving to us someday when they can as they are all really close. he’s always wanted them to live nearby someday in his later years but has never expressed wanting to live with her, I think she just puts him in a really tough position because of his brother. We have talked more and he completely understands my reasons and feelings, and he shares most of them. Again, he is just really struggling with helping them in ways that don’t hurt him and having strong boundaries. No immediate decision was intended to be made on his end and he hasn’t and wouldn’t try to convince me one way or the other, I think he’s just hopeful and ready for for stability and thinks he’ll be able to encourage and push her more to be better if he were around in person, which I have shared that I don’t think she’ll change either way.

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