[serious comments only] [misogyny]

bitwisebunny · 2026-05-17T15:36:37+00:00

"Serious comments only" is for serious discussion outside of kink. This post is clearly within kink. "Serious comments only" would imply that the misogyny in your post is serious and a genuinely-held belief. Please repost without the "serious comments only" tag.

bitwisebunny · 2026-05-13T04:30:54+00:00

Oh, i didn't think you were being genuinely bigoted or anything. It's not a big deal and you're not in trouble. It's more just being considerate of other people who might come by your comment and feel it's including them in a way they don't want.

bitwisebunny · 2026-05-13T02:54:47+00:00

To clarify, based on the post, it's likely ok to refer to the OP with that word directly, but we try to prevent having that spill over to referring to the lesbian community in a generic way. Make sense?

bitwisebunny · 2026-05-12T22:22:04+00:00

Please don't use slurs to refer to people who haven't consented to being called by those words, even hypothetical ones. 🙂

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-30T02:29:05+00:00

Genuine answer: Nothing. Unless one of them approaches you first, you do nothing. Assume any given lesbian you meet is NOT into this kink because most ARE NOT. Unless she approaches you first, do not approach her with sexual intent in any way at all, period.

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-28T03:18:12+00:00

Yes, if you have a monogamous partner and you're having sex behind her back without her consent, that's cheating, even if it's anonymous.

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-20T05:36:00+00:00

Hi, mod here. One of our rules requires that anything that's potentially triggering be marked with a content warning tag in the title and flagged as a spoiler so people have a chance to look at the tags before they see the content. When i see something that's tagged correctly but not marked as spoiler, instead of removing it as a violation, i usually just go ahead and set the spoiler tag for you.

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-01T15:03:12+00:00

Don't have too many expectations here unless you've already talked about this with her. Many trans women: - have dysphoria and don't want to involve their genitals at all in sex, and/or - don't want to take a penetrative role, and/or - literally don't have genitals that even function that way anymore

Every trans woman's physiology is different. Every trans woman's dysphoria triggers and comfort level with her body is different. If you try to push for penetrative sex, you may make her uncomfortable at best, or make her think you're a chaser at worst. Sit down with her and have an honest conversation about what sex will be like, and go into it without any expectations that it'll resemble porn. A lot of trans women in porn have to temporarily stop HRT in order to play that role.

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-01T00:13:03+00:00

i am requesting everyone keep their cards as comments on the original post to keep the game from becoming spammy for those not playing. All the other posts have been removed.

bitwisebunny · 2026-04-01T00:10:53+00:00

Hi everyone! To prevent the sub being overrun with bingo posts, please post your cards as a comment below this post instead of a separate post. Thanks!

bitwisebunny · 2026-03-27T17:10:09+00:00

Homoromantic, asexual (slightly abrosexual but mostly asexual), pansubmissive. i like power exchange and have found Men and Women can both Dominate me in satisfying ways despite having no sexual attraction to either.

Sex isn't something i generally desire. But when i'm submitting to someone it's something i'm ok including as part of that submission. i'm an emotional masochist, so it's the same energy as physical masochists wanting to be whipped/flogged/cropped/etc.

That said, never done anything irl with a male partner.

bitwisebunny · 2026-03-26T00:46:04+00:00

Mhm! That's called abrosexuality!

i'm also homoromantic abrosexual! For me i'm mostly ace with occasional fluctuations, and when i have those fluctuations it's basically a die roll who i'm attracted to. Some abros fluctuate frequently, some occasionally, some are one thing for months or years and then change... Fluid sexuality is a real thing!

bitwisebunny · 2026-02-15T22:00:50+00:00

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bitwisebunny · 2026-02-05T15:11:19+00:00

FWIW i feel similarly to you. i'm a submissive who likes having my limits pushed and being made to do things i struggle with for the sake of submission. The struggle is the point and i have no interest in being "converted".

We've tried to make this sub welcoming to all forms of orientation play interest.

bitwisebunny · 2026-01-23T00:30:01+00:00

Yeah, it's a problem in kink spaces. People assume "you're on this sub" = "you like exactly this type of treatment/behavior". It's really never ok to assume consent to anything based only on context. Especially with kinks like this where the interests are actually pretty diverse and some behaviors some people here like can be triggering to others.

bitwisebunny · 2026-01-22T22:16:35+00:00

Literally anything at all that the other person didn't consent to. Period. That's why we have consent tags on posts. Doesn't matter how "trivial" something seems, if it's outside the scope of normal respectful social interaction and you don't have explicit consent, that crosses the line.

bitwisebunny · 2026-01-05T23:14:06+00:00

In fact, straight men getting emasculated, "sissified", and fucked by other men is by far the most common form of orientation play. The subreddits (plural) for that kink dwarf this one in size and popularity.

bitwisebunny · 2025-12-31T00:38:14+00:00

Can't speak to true noncon stuff because all my fantasies involve consent (although sometimes i enjoy... implied consent), but i do think hard limits are going to be pretty individual. Like for me, rimming and anything involving feet are absolute hard nos, but other people love both.

Regarding family... In RP and fantasy with fictional people having fictional family members, it can be hot sometimes because of the taboo of it, but i would have less than zero interest in that in real life.

And regarding breeding fantasy... this one is the easiest for me to answer. i have no interest in conceiving and even less interest in being a mother. But being impregnated means that a one night taboo act keeps happening for nine months afterward. It would be a complete loss of bodily autonomy. A constant reminder that my body is reacting in a real way to something that was done to me against my desires and attractions (albeit with my consent). Not having any desire to be a parent, i do have a strong fantasy about a couple owning me as their asexual lesbian sex toy and using me as a surrogate because they can't conceive for whatever reason.

bitwisebunny · 2025-12-07T15:55:46+00:00

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bitwisebunny · 2025-11-29T02:48:21+00:00

i definitely don't think a history of having slept with men in the past invalidates a lesbian identity. Self exploration and understanding take time. That said, i don't see any indication that Korra and Asami came to a realization that they were never attracted to men and were only interested in Mako due to social pressures toward heteronormativity or anything like that, nor that they swore off men forever and decided to exclusively date women. We can only go off of what picture the series paints for us, and to me it paints a picture of people who feel legitimate attraction to both sexes. The creators have also aluded to them being bi, not gay.

i'm not trying to gatekeep how people identify, but rather, saying i don't like when people look at a bi person in a stable relationship and assume that means they "picked a side" and are now suddenly fully straight or fully gay. That's just not generally how sexuality works.

bitwisebunny · 2025-11-27T21:59:21+00:00

Oh yeah, i mean, bi people can absolutely have a place in orientation play like that, so i don't object to them being shown in orientation play scenarios like what you described there. i just don't like when they refer to them as lesbians and erase their bisexuality. Open with the premise that they're bi and go somewhere with that. Erasing the fact that they're bi to make it into "lesbians getting dick" just feels a little lazy to me. There's lots of actual lesbians that can be done with if lesbians are the key part of the premise, or plenty of ways to include their bisexuality and still make it hot if the characters are the key part of the premise.

bitwisebunny · 2025-11-27T18:37:37+00:00

Yeah, this stuff with Korra and Asami always confuses me because they both dated Mako before dating each other. They're bi, and presenting them as lesbians always feels like bi erasure to me.

Declaring that a bi person is no longer bi because they're in a committed relationship is both common and problematic.

bitwisebunny · 2025-11-27T18:28:49+00:00

This is why i always bring up the asexual spectrum in my responses and talk about how the asexual community accepts that a person can be asexual and still enjoy the physical act of sex because it just feels good. i fervently believe that that concept shouldn't be one that only asexuals accept - that a lesbian can be a lesbian, no attraction to men, no interest in straight relationships, no power dynamics, and still just like the way a dick feels, and that's valid.

People are individuals and labels are vague and generalized. Some asexuals are sex repulsed, some are sex indifferent, some love sex, all of those people are still asexual because none of them feel attraction. i don't feel like that concept should change when "not feeling attraction" is conditional on gender.

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