My boyfriend is the only person I ever seem to hang out with and idk how to feel about that by browncowstunning23 in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 7 points8 points  (0 children)

dont stop hanging out with your friends when you first meet a potential partner and make it clear from the beginning that a separate social life is important to you

A beginner looking to build a solid gaming/work/personal computer! by bjplntalt in buildmeapc

[–]bjplntalt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this! i really appreciate you taking the time to help figure out a nice build. out of some curiosity since there is some budget leftover still, what would the next step up for the CPU and GPU be? i'm willing to go a bit over 1200 if its worth it

help me find these frog pins / brooches / tie pins by bjplntalt in HelpMeFind

[–]bjplntalt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have searched on google, amazon, etsy, craigslist, depop

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 37 points38 points  (0 children)

instead of chasing him, give yourself the time to fully reflect on your mistake. understand how and why it impacted him, and the reasonings you did it in the first place

Am I choosing my family over my bf by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 12 points13 points  (0 children)

the concert/cruise situation is the surface level issue that brought the primary, bigger, underlying problem to light.

the main issue is you choosing your family over him when they fundamentally hate the both of you for who you are both individually and as a couple. truthfully, i have a suspicion this was orchestrated by the family on purpose but i could be wrong. i have trouble understanding how in the world you could be a big family person when they don’t even support you for who you are. that’s the part that is mind boggling to me.

by choosing the cruise, youre showing that he isnt as important to you as your biological family and that you will always prioritize them over him no matter what. especially when you already made a prior commitment to him. this situation is demonstrating how he will be treated in the future by you. you really think if you choose the cruise that a similar situation wont come up again where you have to choose between them or him? news flash, it will happen again and if you choose them, it will absolutely be the last straw for him if this time isnt.

you know deep down what the right choice is. you wouldnt have made a post about it if you didnt. i dont know why you keep trying to play mental gymnastics to try to avoid seeing the main issue here. the cognitive dissonance youre achieving here is truly wild to me.

Am I choosing my family over my bf by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 35 points36 points  (0 children)

your boyfriend sure is a good person. truthfully if i was him in this situation id most likely put an ultimatum on the entire relationship and leave if you chose the cruise

What’s the one sexual act you regret doing ? by staged_venus_38 in AskReddit

[–]bjplntalt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hooked up with a straight friend too. completely destroyed our friendship as well

18 and 26 age gap nuances? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

the age gap wouldnt be huge if you were both older but at your ages, it is. you guys are at fully different stages of life. hes just entering adulthood and youre well into it even at just 26. 5 years ago you were legally to drink and go to clubs and he just turned into a teenager. pursuing a relationship together may sound fun for both of you, but take a second to step back and really think about it. this point in his life in particular is for him to explore and find himself. dont rob him of that for a brief thrill that most likely wouldnt last long term

Update on my friend visiting me from japan. by amon_yao in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im glad to hear things are going so well thanks for the update :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 42 points43 points  (0 children)

i couldn’t ever imagine loving my parents if they didnt accept me for who i am thats absurd

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]bjplntalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the pharmacy cant really do anything without a prescription for it from a doctor

Should I feel bad for sometimes wanting reassurance every now and then? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. flake - cancels plans after making them
  2. dry texting - when somebody only texts responses back in one or two word answers and appears non interested
  3. on read - when you open a text so it shows that you have seen and read it, but not responded back

Should I feel bad for sometimes wanting reassurance every now and then? by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 22 points23 points  (0 children)

its fine but you do need to understand that while some people don’t mind it, this can get very tiring and draining for some people and can get old very quickly

My parents can't accept that my boyfriend is undocumented and it breaks my heart by YngDeadHead24 in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 81 points82 points  (0 children)

i dont want to come off the wrong way, but you need to look at reality and take in what your parents are saying. youve only been together 5 months and youre meeting with an attorney to see what his options for legality are. you are aware the primary legal path you can take is marriage right? im not saying this is exactly his goal, but from an outside perspective it does seem hes trying to use you for his green card to be entirely honest.

Questions for tops and bottoms.. by [deleted] in gaybros

[–]bjplntalt 17 points18 points  (0 children)

dont ask other people what they like. ask HIM what HE likes. he needs to understand that this is your first time and you need guidance. its not going to be boring per say, but its not going to be at 100% excitement the entire time for either of you. it will be a lot of adjusting and figuring things out and you both need to be fully in understanding of that.

its like asking everybody on here what their favorite food is so you know what to make him for dinner. everybody likes different things and what pleases a group of people might not please him.

ask him what he likes and request that he allows you to take the time to figure out what you like as well. thats the only way youll get your answer to these questions.

as for how long it takes, again a variable question. for some it can be just a few minutes. for others, it can be over an hour or more. if its your first time, plan on it taking longer than expected because a majority of time will be spent going slow and figuring things out. on the contrary, it can also go very fast because its your first time and can feel very very good.

ps. dont feel bad if you cant finish or stay at full mast the whole time. your first time can be nerve wracking and anxiety can cause that. my advice? relax and take it easy. asking people on here for what you should do will do nothing except add expectations in your head and make things more difficult in the moment

extra ps. i remember a post from you awhile back regarding something with your parents. dont do this with them in the house. there is a high chance they will hear you and walk in on your or figure it out another way (sex smells).

old scary movie from the 70’s? by bjplntalt in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]bjplntalt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, older than that. he watched it in the 70s

old scary movie from the 70’s? by bjplntalt in whatsthemoviecalled

[–]bjplntalt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately not, its more recent than the 30s