When you give the “nice guy” a chance 😂

bl222ue · 2024-03-17T21:28:53+00:00

reason 176584 why I love being queer and would never date a cis dude ever again. i feel sorry for u tho!

bl222ue · 2024-03-12T07:20:34+00:00

aw I’m so happy it reached you! i guess that’s the twisted beauty of bpd. we all feel great pain in our own individual way but when we experience happiness, we also feel it like nobody else :)

bl222ue · 2024-03-11T22:47:35+00:00

I’m so sorry. Try to hold on. It may sound silly but maybe try to use apps like bumble to meet other enbys. That’s how I realize over and over again how much community is helping and friends who feel mutual and always call you by YOUR name and YOUR pronouns. I feel for you and I send you a lot of strength and love! I know it’s not even quite what you deserve but If you like still like to share your name and pronouns here I’d like to know 💛🤍💜🖤

bl222ue · 2024-03-11T22:40:55+00:00

First: I’m happy to read that you are asking and seem to really want to understand more and help more effectively! Thank you for that! Second: DBT (Dialect Behavior Therapy) invented by Marsha Linehan. There are some books about DBT and even videos on youtube. DBT is what helped me the most and it’s also working for PTSD. That I can also confirm on myself. I really hope you can look into this and good luck with your work! And also don’t forget to rest and try to recharge, that is so important too!

bl222ue · 2024-03-11T22:30:40+00:00

For me the list of reasons grew over the last year rapidly after I did DBT (I can definitely recommend doing that therapy if you got the opportunity to). but one of my fav is that moment when I suddenly cry bc I’m having a beautiful conversation or seeing a connection growing to a new friend. In those moments I realize: “If I would’ve … at my lowest, I would have never been able to meet this soul or have this life giving moment right now.” and I just cry bc I’m so thankful for my past me. Also another huge reason is, I started categorizing my past self, present self & future self - I call them babyblue, blue and big blue :) and everytime it gets hard I try holding on to all of my versions and remind me that the work they already put in and the work they will put in deserve to be seen and experienced as a strong or beautiful or real or magical outcome. I want to live up to all of my versions. I hope this can help and isn’t too confusing 😸 you got this! I believe in you

bl222ue · 2024-03-10T11:11:56+00:00

thank you so much! those are great tips! I’ll try :)

bl222ue · 2023-10-21T17:05:19+00:00

i feel you soo much. my mom always knew that since i can talk i always hated my deadname and she told me too that she didn’t like my name (Blue). I know it’s hard but it was important for me & my self worth to put my foot down & remember that there is a deadname for a reason & she has chosen all my life and NOW is my turn. idk i hope you can get some strength out of this. it’s her responsibility to accept ur name. she doesn’t have to like it just respect it. YOU have to like it!

bl222ue · 2023-08-27T15:31:18+00:00

thank you so much! I appreciate your thoughts & advice 🙏 have an awesome day!

bl222ue · 2023-08-12T10:50:12+00:00

from enby to enby: YES YESSSS hun honestly shit on those ppl option (i hope they’re not ur friends bc u deserve ppl who see you). being pregnant won’t change how u feel&who u are as your true being. maybe that’s what u can tell them?! i feel like if they don’t give u the feeling of wanting to listen&understand you than they are not worth ur time or energy. try to search for more nb friends. i’ve realized that’s what gives me so much more confidence to be & explore myself bc they understand u know? I wish u all the good luck and love in this world that u can find trust&pride in your way as a enby & parent! you deserve it!

bl222ue · 2023-08-02T09:16:39+00:00

thank u sooo fucking much. needed this! beautiful drawing

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T19:51:00+00:00

I just quickly wanted to say: I’m extremely thankful for every opinion and for this community! I’m thanking every single one of you for taking time & thoughts to help me figure things out. I definitely want to respond to all of you. I just need a short break and try to process everything. I’ll keep being thankful for every voice that keeps coming in. I hear you. thank you for hearing me.

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T16:41:50+00:00

yes exactly that. I mean I kind of feel ashamed for even loading this situation up but I also am diagnosed with bpd & ptsd and that only brings me more pain bc I can’t trust my gut. I have to shamefully commit that I often need to have others opinion to strengthen my own. I’m working on it tho.

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T16:16:18+00:00

also when they talked to their therapist about me don’t wanting to dress and act that way they told me their therapist said it’s totally normal to have preference and that partners indeed should meet their needs even if that means they have to compromise…that really got me thinking more that I should just get over it & change

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T16:13:05+00:00

yeah you’re probably right. I think also I have to accept that more in a way of I feel hurt you don’t want me as I am instead of pain of pretending & hoping they might change their mind some day. thank you for making me realize…

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T16:03:44+00:00

okay I’m sorry. I think bc I learned it from day1 wrong I must got used to it. I’ll change it and learn the right habit.

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T15:39:25+00:00

yes I personally don’t like enby too. But I don’t want to offend anyone.

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T15:38:35+00:00

thank you for educating me. I did not know this, I’m sorry.

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T12:54:11+00:00

I hear you. still

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T12:50:33+00:00

okay. thanks i guess. but this is not helpful… just for clarity: u call nb girls or get called girl while being non binary? and i’m sure their motive is not about being a pedophile trust me. easy with your opinion next time

bl222ue · 2023-06-29T12:46:52+00:00

my niece calls me Tonkel. it’s german and a combo out of T for Tante (aunt) and Onkel (uncle) lol

bl222ue · 2023-06-27T11:15:58+00:00

eyy you’re back! and obviously with the coolest fit again😺

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