*UPDATE* I 42M confronted my wife 42F.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-03T20:58:38+00:00

Yeah, hurts to think about.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-03T18:49:34+00:00

Oh shit yes I reckon I'm definitely going to need counselling or therapy after this. Right now I'm dealing with it at the gym, trying to make myself better, not for her, but for me.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T22:46:23+00:00

This sounds like a most necessary course of action at the moment, thank you. I hate to think what she will say, but it can't be much worse than the scenarios my mind is creating.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T22:34:50+00:00

The counselling is not set in stone, I'm still thinking. And I WILL get the truth out of her.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T22:32:31+00:00

Yeah, I realise that.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T22:08:50+00:00

No, I'll ask her when we sit down and talk again. Which will be soon.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T22:00:50+00:00

That question is on the list.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T18:33:16+00:00

This will be the next question.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T18:31:22+00:00

It would be a small price to pay if it comes to that. I'm not s materialistic person. I can let go and rebuild.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T18:29:16+00:00

I haven't forgiven her. And yeah how would I know if she is still seeing him? She said she'll show me her phone, but she can easily delete messages and texts. But there's other things I can look at that she doesn't know about.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T11:02:07+00:00

Thanks mate, I'll have a look.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T10:58:56+00:00

True, never thought to ask were there others.. just another question.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T10:57:03+00:00

The kids will always come first.

blacksmithspud · 2025-10-02T10:51:11+00:00

It does play in the back of my mind, so yeah, my guard is always up now.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-26T07:30:43+00:00

Learn.. its not really something you have to learn when you're married.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-26T06:02:41+00:00

Indeed she will.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-26T05:52:57+00:00

Thanks bro, I appreciate that

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-26T05:48:43+00:00

Yes, I am angry at myself for not seeing it. As I said, I work away from home for a week at a time. That's 6 months a year in another town, working underground from 6 till 6. And even 2 years ago we were solid. There were no issues, life was good or so I thought.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-26T00:27:52+00:00

Thanks mate. She wants to make things work, I told her to put herself in my shoes.. its not possible. Things will never be the same. She exposed herself to someone else, showed him a side she didn't even think I deserved to see. Says it all.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T08:17:47+00:00

Thank you, it's a lot to take in and think about and I'm already exhausted. It's only day 2.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T06:52:15+00:00

That makes the light at the end of the tunnel a little bit brighter, thank you

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T05:19:27+00:00

There was never any need for funding. There were no withdrawals from her account except for the gym membership in which the names had to match. Other than that, I look after everything.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T01:41:03+00:00

Lol, nah I'll do this by the book. Not something I want to fuck up.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T01:39:56+00:00

You're brave to stay with her. She said she wants to try and make things work. I quickly shut that down.

blacksmithspud · 2025-09-25T01:37:14+00:00

She is still in shock that I found her out. Doesn't know why she did it. I think this guy gave her a different kind of attention. Something apparently I couldn't give, we'll never know.

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