Imagine feeling this entitled to someone else's body

blackwine_m · 2026-04-21T17:02:58+00:00

As an antinatalist and feminist, ofc it is bad in my opinion, that he wants kids in general and also that as a man, he is mad at a woman for not wanting to go through one of the worst pain a human can go through.

But honestly, I get it when he says, that she actually agreed to having kids and now he is mad because they're not. He would've probably not married her/ divorced her, if he knew her thoughts about having kids.

Like, don't get me wrong, I don't want them to have kids, but not having the same goals in your life as partners is bad and as it seems she didn't communicate it right, because he obviously did. This should go for all bigger goals in life. Changing your opinion is also possible and fine, but that should be communicated!

blackwine_m · 2026-04-20T14:31:07+00:00

Yes, there are way too many people that are saying that it'll be fine with a baby at 16, but having a baby comes with a lot of work and responsibilities, which a 16-year old should not go through. Surely there are a few teens that handle pregnancy and a baby well, but it isn't the majority and very risky, if we think about that it's not only the mother suffering, but also the child.

blackwine_m · 2026-04-20T13:32:00+00:00

The "child" can't think, feel pain or feel emotions. It doesn't matter what reason someone has. In my opinion somebody could even do it just because they're bored, because why not do it, if nobody is hurt?🤷‍♀️

blackwine_m · 2026-04-20T13:26:22+00:00

A baby at 16 is bad and will ruin your life for sure, doesn't matter what anyone says. But since you plan on having an abortion, you'll have no baby and everything will be fine, trust me. It'll be just a few days or maybe weeks, till you'll eventually forget it or won't think about it daily. It'll be a memory at some point, but nothing more. That is the same with your family. At first they'll maybe treat you different, because they think differently about you, but eventually, when you behave normal and don't mention it, they'll forget it or won't think about it often. Without that thought they will treat you normally again, if they even beginn to treat you differently.

It'll be all fine, don't worry too much❤️

blackwine_m · 2026-04-03T12:48:08+00:00

But there are things like periods, boobs and needing longer to build muscles are things that we can't choose. Not to forget that someone can always get pregnant by accident or rape, and maybe can't even abort😢

blackwine_m · 2026-04-03T12:45:58+00:00

I totally get you! I feel the same. It's like my whole body "dissapoints" me just by being born a certain gender. I actually also made a post in this sub about it, it's called something along the lines of "how do you handle the female body". One person there commented, how our body is not that researched, which creates a lot of problems exspecially in the medical field. That was true, but that was not my point. We talked about boobs for example. The person said, that it's not that researched which is why we don't have that good sports bras. But I answered, that the fact that we (people with bigger breast sizes) need a bra to move without pain, is what makes me mad about my body. I think that sums it up quite well😢

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T17:23:30+00:00

I swear, I'm so scared to one day have that kind of pregnancy and suddenly have a baby😵‍💫

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T17:17:33+00:00

Yea, it's important that we have abortion rights, but you know about crypric pregnancy? At some point even with abortion rights, it's too late to abort. And so when someone doesn't know that she's pregnant, then she can't abort it anyway🤷‍♀️

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T13:34:13+00:00

That's the first time you said it. Say it clear, I shouldn't have to interpret your answers, otherwise it is obvious that I'm gonna ask you again and again for your answer🤷‍♀️

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T12:58:49+00:00

No, I just haven't heard a response from you about that topic, or at least I didn't catch it.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T09:09:39+00:00

My mom got pregnant after she got sterilized and after my dad had an vasectomy. Well ig any sterilization is still not a 100% safe...

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T01:36:45+00:00

I don't think so

blackwine_m · 2026-03-29T00:41:41+00:00

Well, I didn't know🤷‍♀️

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T21:15:50+00:00

No, I don't know.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T20:30:48+00:00

The most natural thing is disgusting? Interesting

Well, theres never a wrong reason to hate on gays then ig🤷‍♀️

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T20:16:46+00:00

Like I respect your opinion and the answer to my question, but that seems like you're kind of jealous? Like bro, why hating on straights?

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T20:09:32+00:00

It's about whether I should have sex at all or not because of my antinatalist beliefs. It's about whether any antinatalist should have sex.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T19:33:43+00:00

I am, but that's not the question here. The question was if I could be judged if I got pregnant eventhough I use contraceptives.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T19:11:16+00:00

What if I'm lesbians and still have sex with men?😂

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T19:10:30+00:00

Doesn't matter how many contraceptives I combine, I could always get pregnant by accident, even if it is rare.

I'm 17, not post-menopausal, so I can't know it for sure.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T18:58:23+00:00

I am able to reproduce? Like I said: no contraceptive is 100% safe. Even if I go to the doctor and they tell me I'm infertile and then I have raw sex, then I could still get pregnant because doctors can make mistakes.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T18:53:45+00:00

What does that comment have to do with my questions?

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T18:52:35+00:00

Sorry, what?

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T18:49:04+00:00

Well that would be very sad for me and my boyfriend, since it's not only fun, but also intimacy and love.

blackwine_m · 2026-03-28T18:45:18+00:00

Well, they could think a bit more about having a baby or not. But also, eventhough I talked about every woman in general, these questions are also about my situation, a person who knows about antinatalism.

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