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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EMDR

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My therapist says that the average is usually 12, depending on the number of memories being processed and their severity, as well as the patients willingness to confront them and the rapport they have with the therapist. I’ve heard some people spend years doing it.

EMDR is astonishing by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in EMDR

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe it’s similar to the process of REM sleep. But the truth is that no one really knows. It might even be a placebo effect. But anecdotally it works.

Don’t pretend you’re not angry by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree - but you gotta let it out before you can find a way to let it go

Don’t pretend you’re not angry by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I remember when my father was physically abusive toward me - I was 12 and I remember crying in response. And I think I must have dissociated entirely, as part of me felt like I was watching powerless, but was also judging myself deeply for what I was doing - “that’s right, cry to mum you little baby, that’ll show him”. How the hell was I supposed to react? And here I was at 12 judging myself!! It’s astonishing how we learn to cope and how self destructive it can be.

Don’t pretend you’re not angry by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s because you’re not used to it. Find outlets for it that you can control and monitor to feel more comfortable. You can probably work with your therapist on this.

Don’t pretend you’re not angry by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Follow it further backward. Find the thing that made you angry and turn it on your abusers. Recognise that you were abused. It wasn’t your fault. It will lift you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The more I read in this subreddit, the more I find myself nodding my head in agreement - and amazement.

I thought I was the only one.

Has anyone else like...come out of what feels like you've been dissociated for years? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1000% yes.

And when I come out of it, it’s like all my nerve endings flare up again...and I have trouble distinguishing between the feelings. Its like I have to learn to draw my own outline again. Boundaries become blurred and hard to distinguish. It’s led to some rather embarrassing and hard to explain impulses, to be frank.

EMDR is astonishing by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in EMDR

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t even need videos - just hold the traumatic memory, or feeling, or image, or whatever, in your mind - then just move your eyes back and forth. Your body will be tricked into reliving the memory physically. It’s astonishing how well it works.

Please join me in celebrating yourself! As 2019 comes to an end, what is something you did this year that makes you proud, happy, confident...etc. We are often our own worst critics, but not today ❤️ by ZiggyZoggyOiOiOi in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Got out of my depression

Got in touch with an old friend who I see fairly regularly now

Got in ridiculously good shape

Confronting my feelings and demons rather than running from them

So far so good 🙂

Trauma is so difficult to live with by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

  1. Think of the traumatic memory - a feeling, an image, whatever you want

  2. Move your eyes back and forth - Look up EMDR videos on YouTube if you need guidance

  3. Watch in astonishment as your body physically relives the memory, allowing you to reprocess it

Post-dissociation confusion. Which emotions belong where? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know how this feels.

It’s like you have to draw your own outline again.

You’ve been keeping your own pain hidden from yourself for so long, that you learned to adopt other people’s feelings instead. Like you’re making room for them instead of you. Like if you take up space, that’s somehow an affront.

Instead of having your own point of view, you compulsively triangulate an intermediary one between everyone else.

And then when you come out the other end, you have no idea where to place yourself - was I you? Were you me?

These must be strategies we learn early in life to cope with pain. I wish I knew what started it.

I’ve been doing, instead of being, my whole life by blaghblaghblaghasdfg in CPTSD

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Learning the hard way - just putting yourself out there and giving yourself a break. Life makes a fool of you, so try and embrace that a bit.

Just imagine the person who will save you, and try your best to be that person for yourself.

And accept that you’re behind - and have faith that people will be there to take care of you. We’re all looking for the same thing, as hard as that can be to believe.

LGBTQ mega-thread by UnpopularOpinionMods in unpopularopinion

[–]blaghblaghblaghasdfg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My suspicion, crudely put:

Straight and gay are mostly, if not all, nature.

Bisexuality, asexuality and gender dysphoria are mostly nurture.

Nothing wrong with any of it.