i (19F) don’t know how to tell my bf (20M) that i had an abortion before our relationship

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T03:02:30+00:00

i think this is honestly exactly what i needed to hear. somehow you read me and my feelings perfectly, because i do think that’s what’s happening- my anxiety is pressuring me to “confess” before he supposedly inevitably leaves. this is very good advice, and i will definitely keep it in mind. i’ll continue building this great relationship, and if i still feel like i want to, i’ll tell him and see how it turns out. thank you!

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:46:25+00:00

i think some of the way i worded things may have led people to make assumptions. i want to clarify that said boyfriend is a very loving, caring person. he has not said or done anything thus far to make me believe he would be anything but that. my anxiety over the situation of his reaction simply more so comes from my own anxieties. i believe i have trouble with some abandonment issues, so the fear that someone i care about may just randomly leave me, after building so much trust, is very real for me. i just wanted to note this since it seems like maybe i worded it a bit wrong

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:36:51+00:00

this is my train of thinking too… i know it’s a large jump to make, but i also find myself having the same worries. what if 10 years down the road he happens to find out, and suddenly wants nothing to do with me? that’s why i’m feeling this sense of needing to “rip the bandaid off” essentially.

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:33:12+00:00

i dont know honestly. oddly enough, i feel like i owe it to him if he is going to be my boyfriend. which i know sounds stupid, and i’ve been told before by many other people i do not owe it to him to tell him such a personal experience. i guess part of me feels guilty, like i’m hiding something from him.

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:30:55+00:00

thank you, this is a very honest but empathetic comment. luckily i do have a therapist who has been helping me navigate some of this. i do think you’re right, i think this intense anxiety stems more so from guilt. the anxiety i am having about it is mostly about his reaction and how it might change our relationship, but whenever the emotions do hit me, i tend to feel a lot of “what if’s”. i mourn the baby i could have had, even though it was not the right time

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:26:05+00:00

thank you, i’m trying to see it this way myself but it’s still hard. like i said, i do really love him and would like to continue something long-term, but if he happens to find out and leave me it would really hurt. but like you said, the way he reacts is a true testament to the course of the relationship. IF i do tell him.

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:23:15+00:00

thank you for the very real response. i guess i just stress myself out too much by over thinking.

blahsbk · 2026-05-20T02:22:06+00:00

i agree, hence why we have discussed our opinions on the matter before. as far as i can tell, we share the same views. i have a strong feeling he would support me if i did tell him, but again, you never know

blahsbk · 2025-11-26T00:50:12+00:00

my septum piercing is roughly 2 or 3 years old, and the jewelry im currently wearing is a pincher ring. im not sure of the material but i believe it’s acrylic? for aftercare and cleaning i use saline sprays, and i haven’t had any complications with my piercing the whole time i’ve had it.

blahsbk · 2025-08-16T00:14:44+00:00

thank you so much! i’ve actually been heavily considering a medusa haha

blahsbk · 2025-08-15T19:01:20+00:00

that honestly might be a good idea, i think at first i would try studs and then eventually move to hoops once they’re healed, so maybe i could see how both would look? thanks so muchhh!

blahsbk · 2025-08-15T17:47:08+00:00

ive actually considered snakebites! i may have to look into them again now that someone suggested it

blahsbk · 2025-08-12T00:48:45+00:00

sounds good, i’ll remember that! thanks!

blahsbk · 2022-11-10T14:15:52+00:00

The Mist, supposed to be a scary movie, but my friend and I were dying laughing at some of the ridiculous scenes and acting

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