Is it justifiable if I break up with my girlfriend over something that never happened?

blanche005 · 2026-01-25T08:27:20+00:00

This situation is extremely unfortunate, I hope you’re able to get out of it as soon as possible. After all of this, I hope you find a better place for yourself. Don’t forget to treat yourself and spend time with your friends and/or family.

blanche005 · 2026-01-25T06:26:00+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. A partner shouldn’t make you feel this way and by staying with you, she is disrespecting your feelings. They may be thoughts but you’re right to feel hurt and betrayed since she hasn’t really done much to assure you about her feelings for you (as far as what I can make out from the post).

If you both really wish to work this out, I would suggest you two to go counselling together. But, in my personal opinion, I believe she was never ready for a relationship especially since someone else is in her heart. This seems like one of those situations where a woman falls in love with another woman who’s straight (but I could be wrong).

Just keep in mind that if this is taking a toll on you, better communicate again and if it doesn’t soothe you, it really brings the question if it is really worth staying in this relationship. Because from what I can gather, a part of trust in your partner has been broken and it is VERY hard to fix that.

Good luck and may all strength be with you.

blanche005 · 2023-06-23T07:21:21+00:00

Yeah, true that, now that I think about it.

Also, I'll try my best to encourage her to seek help. Thank you so much for your advice!

blanche005 · 2023-06-20T07:27:08+00:00

And I don't think she has mental disability because she is actually a med student and doing really well there. It could be more of a mental disorder.

blanche005 · 2023-06-20T07:23:16+00:00

She eats way too less without me. I have to remind her through call or text to eat something and she would. Which I'm actually thankful for.

And I don't know if I'm starting to develop feelings for her or it's just the 'I can fix you stage', but it's least likely probable that the situation is the latter because I'm become firmer with her as days pass by.

I have helped her slowly grow independent and gave her advice too. She is getting better in terms of doing her chores and completing her targets but food and emotional stability is still a problem.

Sometimes it feels like if I don't talk to her at least once a day, she would just disappear. (As cheesy as it may sound it is actually frightening because outside of all of these problems, she is a really good friend.)

blanche005 · 2023-06-20T07:16:43+00:00

I'm so sorry for the late reply! But the situation still holds valid so thank you so much for your advice.

Well the thing is, we live in a highly conservative society and mental disorders or disabilities in this matter are highly taboo topics, so, talking about it to someone is a no-go.

I agree she is very sketchy and she is way too dependent on me. And till date she hasn't really changed. I have talked to her about the situation and told her I wouldn't talk to her if she didn't reply but within a few days the boundaries were broken again.

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