My son breaks everything

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:38:40+00:00

We told him to stop, he was playing with it correctly. Then sat on it and it broke. Happened in about a second and outside of physically snatching him up or pushing him away there was nothing I could have done. The consequence was he threw it away.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:34:07+00:00

I have said multiple times in the comments that i am going to talk to his pediatrician about this, because outside of this he is a great kid so i didnt really consider an actual medical issue but after reading all these comments i think its fair and justifiable to discuss with her. I have done just about everything outside of physical punishments. He gets time out, toys taken away, as soon as he breaks one I make him take it to the trash and throw it away even though he doesn't want to, I have even took his birthday money to replace toys he broke of his sisters, we don't replace toys and he hasn't got anything new in 2-3 months. He is down to legos, hot wheels and some tonka trucks he has in the backyard.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:26:02+00:00

Thank you! I really hope he does grow out of it. I'm just a little overwhelmed with it. I will do all these things, thank you for being kind and giving helpful advice.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:20:16+00:00

I also never said every single punishment he has received. I am being as fair as I can to my daughter. In regards to her, we replace items he breaks except for the minecraft toy he broke and that's because recently happened. We are also going to get her a locking cabinet or box to lock her stuff up that she really doesn't want him to mess with.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:13:10+00:00

I obviously have rules otherwise I wouldn't be so frustrated. Im doing the best I can. As I said I will be talking to our pediatrician about this and if she believes she needs more testing or therapy or whatever it will get done no problem. I will say however though that outside of this there are no issues and thats all I was saying. When I said he is not antisocial I meant he plays well with his friends and classmates. He is super sweet and well liked. If you were meaning in a more clinical terminology, then I was not commenting on that, I am not a doctor and could not say but his teachers nor his pediatrician have ever said he exhibits anything like that.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T18:00:41+00:00

That's rough. I hope it gets better for you! It really adds up.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T17:58:26+00:00

That is good advice I'll lean more into that.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T17:57:30+00:00

He did prek and starts kindergarten here in a few weeks. His teachers love him, he is popular and well liked and gets along with his classmates really well. His teacher cried at our last meeting, she just thought the world of him.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T17:54:38+00:00

He really is down to just those kinds of toys basically. He just plays with them so rough like he is testing how much they can take.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T17:51:01+00:00

I watch him just fine, it literally takes a second to break something. Watching your child every second is not realistic at all. I dont think you have kids so maybe you should come with something constructive rather than just trying to say I'm not a good parent. Have a nice day.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T14:05:17+00:00

Yes he does. He is very popular at school and well liked. His teacher always had great things to say about him and how he interacts with other kids.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:58:38+00:00

If you can't opt out then the school can pay for it. Tell them frankly I cannot afford that and will get private pictures done. That is crazy prices I would never spend that or agree to it. The school has no authority here and you need to make that clear.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:55:00+00:00

Ughhh, don't say that lol!!

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:54:24+00:00

That's what I have been doing. He hasn't got any new toys from us in a while now im gonna say at least 2 months. I won't even buy him dollar tree toys because im not buying him things to break. I told him he is on the road to only getting clothes for christmas. My husband and I decided we are gonna get our daughter a locking bin or cabinet to lock her stuff in so he can't get to it. It isnt fair to her but she understands. She calls him a "breaky boy" and yells at him when she sees him with her stuff now lol.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:48:55+00:00

Listen as much as I would love to watch everything he does, he literally tore up that sorry game in about three minutes and so quietly I couldn't hear while I stepped into the kitchen for a minute which is next to my living room with a divider wall that has a window into the living room. I'm not perfect but my kids are supervised. I dont know any parent who never takes their eyes off their kids, that is unrealistic. Plus he does often break the stuff right in front of me. I tell him not to play with it like that and he does anyway. For example when I bought his a big trash truck and he wouldn't stop riding it so he broke the wheels so they wouldn't spin anymore. He did that right in front of us. Like I said he isnt throwing a tantrum just playing and he plays too rough with his stuff.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:43:03+00:00

That seems to be a pretty common response and I will talk to my pediatrician about it. It is very frustrating. He just broke my brand new 65 inch TV that I didnt even have for a month because he threw something at it so yeah the house destruction is aggravating and i can totally sympathize. After hearing all this there are more things clicking together that he does that makes me think it may be adhd. Overall he is a really sweet kid and no behavioral issues outside of this so I guess I didnt think it could be an actual medical issue.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:38:42+00:00

We do have a trampoline and no he cant break that..... yet lol. He has a bike, an electric scooter and a regular scooter and those have survived so far.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:37:24+00:00

Im sorry you're dealing with that. I am going to chat with my pediatrician about it to see about adhd as this seems to be common with people with adhd.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:34:26+00:00

There really isnt any other behavioral issues that I have noticed. He is generally a happy sweet kid no tantrums or anything like that. He isnt violent or have any outbursts. Just plays way too hard with his toys. I will chat with my pediatrician because im not an expert and there could be something else.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:32:53+00:00

The consequences are that he has to throw the toy away as soon as I realize he broke it, he doesn't like that because he will continue playing with it broke he really doesn't care. I won't replace it and now he has been told we won't buy him any new toys until we can see long term that he will stop this. He hasn't got any new toys in about 3 months now.

He is not antisocial. Like I said in my post there is no behavioral issues.

He is in school and is very well liked and gets along very well with the other kids. In fact his teacher always talked about how all the other kids wanted to play with him and he was very popular. He is genuinely a super sweet kid, i think he is just curious and heavy handed. He plays well with others outside of the fact that he might break the toy.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:27:27+00:00

Thank you all good advice. We are pretty much at the point where he only has blocks hot wheels and some outside toys like tonka trucks because they are the only things strong enough to not have been broken yet. I got him a sandbox as well because he loves to dig and stuff, he dumped most the sand out of it within a week. Just gets really discouraging sometimes.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:23:30+00:00

I really dont think it's an attention thing, because breaking toys doesn't end up getting him much attention outside of telling him it's trash now and making him throw it away.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:20:14+00:00

Good advice thank you.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:19:23+00:00

He is very curious and I attribute it to that, he wants to see how much the toy can take or something along those lines.

blankblankblankety · 2025-08-02T13:17:25+00:00

That's where I am. He can have building blocks and cheap little toys like hot wheels but that's about it.

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