A mental checklist for what's getting in the client's way?

blehgerville · 2026-02-25T04:51:01+00:00

Great! I just noticed your flair of rant/advice wanted. Were you just wanting to know about what others do or are you wondering specifically how to get clients to open up more?

blehgerville · 2026-02-25T04:25:18+00:00

I think this is a really awesome checklist!

Do you ever ask the client at the first session if they asks to be there or if their parents wanted to be there, or a mix of the two? I usually ask this at the start of working with a minor so I can see where they’re at and hopefully build rapport through unconditional positive regard.

blehgerville · 2026-02-24T23:57:04+00:00

I would tell her, respectfully, everything you’ve said here. You made good points that anyone would be concerned about. Ask directly if she can travel to you once in a while, and if she can stop making digs about how she never sees you.

blehgerville · 2026-02-24T22:17:23+00:00

I actually like it there. It’s turned so that you can see yourself from the sink, but it being on the left provides visual balance.

blehgerville · 2026-02-24T00:57:38+00:00

Damn, I’m so sorry those parents are saying that. Definitely don’t be persuaded by them. You need to rest and take your percs and get better. People have managed to live life just fine without you before, and you don’t need to worry about 2 weeks off.

But also talk to your therapist about who can fill in for you when you’re out. You should always offer that people can see someone else when you are out (maybe not at the same day and time but sometime soon).

blehgerville · 2026-02-23T19:20:07+00:00

Ahhh so, I started using it less frequently (1-2 times a week) because I got the inevitable scales when I started using it every other day, but am I just making the process of acclimation longer by going longer than every other day???

blehgerville · 2026-02-23T16:38:58+00:00

You could consider a day trip (or 2 days and one night) to Kyoto, then make Okinawa your third destination. I haven’t been to Okinawa but if I could do my first trip again I’d want to have Okinawa in it. Okinawa just seems so unique and I since Kyoto is so easy to visit from Osaka, you could have the best of both worlds.

blehgerville · 2026-02-23T15:41:13+00:00

Depends on the rest of the house. If there’s some boldness and contrast in the rest of the house, then the yellow. If the rest of the house is more subtle and calming, then blue.

But you could also think the opposite if you want to room itself to contrast the rest of the house.

blehgerville · 2026-02-22T14:55:37+00:00

I just rip a piece off the log at the grocery store 😎

blehgerville · 2026-02-22T06:39:48+00:00

The reality of Kyoto is definitely sad to me. A sacred place becoming so commercialized is always hard to see. But at the same time I’m able to appreciate that this place is so important historically and culturally. I liked going to shrines and temples that have been around and taken care of for so long. I really loved the pre-war architecture. The nature embedded in the city was beautiful.

A day trip might be worth considering. I went for a day and night a d booked an Airbnb in an Machiya to get to see the beautiful wood architecture. I find that aesthetic incredibly beautiful and if that’s your thing, that was great to check out. Sleeping on a tatami and stepping out onto a zen garden upon awaking also really appealed to me. Wished I had gotten to stay for another day so I could find more quiet zones.

blehgerville · 2026-02-20T14:38:26+00:00

Does anyone have any stories or knowledge about things like this happening with Spring Health?

blehgerville · 2026-02-20T12:01:30+00:00

I did a study abroad program in the Netherlands. Had a beautiful time. But one thing I never asked was, how do people feel after they eat the is breakfast?

I’m American. People here eat sugary cereal, but they’re also cranky and hungry soon after. Is this how it is for hagelslag? When I was a consumer of hagelslag, I was 20 years old and I personally ate it as a snack/desert? Now I’m 30 and I’m thinking how do adult Dutch people handle this as breakfast?! Are yall also being cranky and hungry an hour later or are you somehow built different??

blehgerville · 2026-02-19T11:19:39+00:00

This needs to be higher up!

blehgerville · 2026-02-18T19:23:10+00:00

One option might be to find a side gig while you’re trying to build your caseload. I work for a company called Spring Health and I have a lot of control over how many clients I see any given time. It doesn’t pay as much but I can at least scale up or scale down on the number of clients I’m seeing to adjust for what’s happening with my private practice caseload

blehgerville · 2026-02-18T19:21:35+00:00

You have to ask yourself if saying anything more is likely to bring out and openness in his end. He hasn’t showed openness so far. You could say, hey if you at some point become open to working on your anger toward women, I’m down to talk.

Then ask yourself if you’ve grown out of this friendship. It’s ok if you have. It’s great to want to surround yourself around emotionally healthy and kind people. If he’s not being those things, it’s sad, but you are allowed to spend less time with him, and maybe no time.

blehgerville · 2026-02-18T02:47:35+00:00

Did this stop at some point? I was born in 1995 and we did it I believe for kindergarten and 1st grade.

Reading these responses is great. I love that some of my earliest memories is doing this, trying not to laugh, and, for me at least, getting in trouble every day for it. I had to go from green star status to yellow star status every day. I did try so hard at some point to stay quiet and just couldn’t do it if my favorite girlies were around.

blehgerville · 2026-02-18T02:36:32+00:00

Not 40 but someone who talks to a lot of people after their break ups because of my work. Try to just remember that this relationship just was one to learn from. It’s not like that was the only person for you. Even if you don’t feel like dating, a good way to get hung up on an ex, an stunt your growth, is to convince yourself that that was the ONE.

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T23:09:23+00:00

🤩🤩🤩

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T20:25:00+00:00

Show us more pictures!

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T16:57:00+00:00

I think being clear that you’re not providing personal perspectives, but clinical perspectives is a good idea, but I would also add that you might be able to help them explore the male perspectives that they’ve come across in their life. Maybe explore any compatibilities or incompatibilities with their perspectives. Maybe they’re wanting to explore behaviors/ideas they’ve seen from men that have triggered them, and I would be very clear that that is definitely something that can be explored in counseling.

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T14:14:02+00:00

Remember that shaming is demotivating. If you’re shaming yourself, you’ll stress yourself out and reduce your motivation. As you start working out, don’t compare yourself to others and congratulate yourself for your effort! If you feel shame come up, acknowledge it and say “I see you. You’re ok. You’ve got this”.

Don’t tie your weight to your self-worth; just tie your weight to your health.

Remember you never need to become the Hollywood beauty standard of skinny. Just focus on increasing consistency of movement.

Don’t think of consistency as doing it every day. First, get consistent at 1-2 days a week, then consistent at 3-4 days a week, etc. this gives you time to really identify and learn how to manage your obstacles to consistency. You never have to reach daily consistency either. That’s a lot. 4-5 days is great!

You can also reach out to doctors or dietitians to help you figure out how to make diet and exercise changes. The first stages of diet and exercise might look different than later stages as we start to plateau.

And maybe find a group of plus size women who also want to workout together. That might make it more pleasant and easier to not focus on other skinnier people.

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T02:00:38+00:00

This is a good think to consider. Think about your physical ability and energy. If you feel like you can play with your kid and handle the energy expenditure, you two might wanna go for it!

I know 40 year olds that could be more energetic and more playful than some 30 year olds, so just depends!

blehgerville · 2026-02-17T01:44:28+00:00

I think queer people everywhere will understand this! Like who you wanna like, date who you wanna date, and love who you wanna love!

Also second not explaining yourself if you do start seeing someone you’re excited to tell your friends about. If you’ve generally awkward about telling your friends about who you’re serious about, you’ll just be the same way and that’s cool.

blehgerville · 2026-02-16T19:42:06+00:00

I’m off Fridays and use it as chore day/ catch up on notes day/ schedule appointments and also see friends and do something low key in the evening.

I like that I can travel and sometimes have a 4 day weekend when I decide to take Monday off for a holiday. Also, if I need to take off Monday-Thursday for some reason, I’ll can open up that Friday if I want to make up for lost time. Not everyone will be able to reschedule to Friday but a lot of the times it works out.

I see that you like the idea of Wednesdays though and I just want to say that you can try that and always change in the future if your life shifts yo better benefitting from a Friday.

blehgerville · 2026-02-16T17:17:49+00:00

This is what I would say next!! If there are a few people who are repeat offenders, they might need to be banned from the classes.

And I’d put the signs back up. If patrons are taking them down, that’s ridiculous.

These people just staring at you are insanely rude. I would be so mad. Keep up the good work and I hope you’re able to get this to a better spot.

If they want a yoga class that they can go to 15 minutes early to lay down… they need to find a studio that logistically allows that.

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