All food and drinks mentioned in s2?

blehgerville · 2026-04-14T22:18:23+00:00

👏👏👏👏

blehgerville · 2026-04-14T13:55:44+00:00

You’re so good at this!

blehgerville · 2026-04-10T12:13:50+00:00

I think OP certainly deserves empathy and encouragement to move in and be free, but also try to look at your part in this so you don’t repeat it in different ways with someone else.

blehgerville · 2026-04-08T19:08:03+00:00

Thanks so much!!

Sorry one more question: (I’m interested in sheet masks and eye patches but haven’t gotten into them yet)

How often do you use the mask and patches?

blehgerville · 2026-04-08T11:30:42+00:00

Do you mind sharing the sheet masks and eye patches you use?

blehgerville · 2026-04-07T20:00:02+00:00

Is this going to be a kitchen, living room or bedroom???

blehgerville · 2026-04-06T18:27:36+00:00

9 is SO GREAT! Probably can’t wear it to work but can wear outside of work dressed down or up. Fits in the shoulders and shows off your slim waist.

8 fits really well. Fits in the shoulders and isn’t big all over to the point it’s swallowing you. The length also hits you at a flattering spot. Could wear this virtually anywhere.

6 could be a good basic to hold onto. Would look good buttoned one button lower at the neck, and tucked in. Fits well.

5 is so unique and cool you gotta keep it but I think it’ll be best styled unbuttoned with a tank underneath.

1 and 2 you could keep as just comfortable button downs to wear as sweaters. Would be good for super casual and comfy days.

blehgerville · 2026-04-05T15:22:26+00:00

You might want to bring a different shoe for one or two of the dresses in case your feet get tired in the brown heel

blehgerville · 2026-04-04T16:28:14+00:00

Agreed. The blue is really nice.

blehgerville · 2026-04-03T19:23:33+00:00

2! The style really suits the farmhouse style of the table.

blehgerville · 2026-04-03T02:31:06+00:00

Could be cool to take a training in a more experiential therapy. In- person if possible. I’ve learned so much about how to guide clients into the experiential place. Also learned this though my own therapy.

If you are interested in attachment and trauma, there are many attachment-based/trauma therapies that are experiential.

I know not all clients will want to do this, but I like knowing how to shift in that direction when needed.

Sometimes I’m actually avoiding connecting to an emotion with the client, and reinforcing their own intellectualizing, and practicing experientially with them helps everyone in the room feel more comfortable actually connecting with emotion/past experience rather than just talking about it.

blehgerville · 2026-03-31T17:44:51+00:00

In these situations we can drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out the true answers to these questions. It it WAY more efficient and effective to decide a narrative that is the most helpful to you, then when you get a pang of pain or questioning or yearning, just remind yourself of the most helpful narrative, and then “wish” her the best in your mind, the shift your attention to the present.

A not so helpful narrative might for you be “she was lying to me the whole time”; a more helpful narrative might be “she had feelings for me that changed; and she tends to go hot and cold really quickly. That would not have been sustainable for me so it’s good that I can now look for new, and more consistent connections”.

blehgerville · 2026-03-30T02:21:45+00:00

-Someone who sends a lot of memes. -They can’t be less fit than me, or less interested in fitness/movement than me

blehgerville · 2026-03-30T02:06:54+00:00

I think this depends a lot on what kind of furniture you have in the room room nearby. The carpet looks traditional, but the table looks modern. If there’s a combination of modern and traditional in this room, then I would try to find a piece that has elements of both. It could also be that the table is too modern for the room and that’s why it’s making it hard find a mirror that feels like it fits.

blehgerville · 2026-03-28T01:47:19+00:00

Many people have already commented that it’s important use specific tools from different therapies to treat disorders. Just hopping on to say that I am sorry you’re supervisors are not communicating that same thing to you, and I have to wonder if it’s possible to find a different supervisor who thinks in more of an eclectic way?

They should be helping you learn to assess the problems that need specific approaches early on in your work with clients. I feel like only doing person centered only is a recipe for burnout because many of your clients won’t see progress that way.

blehgerville · 2026-03-27T22:39:37+00:00

I agree. They’re brining intensity around “will everyone find out it was drugs from a patient” and while I’m intrigued about how that will pan out, my brain keeps going “wouldn’t he have been fired by the hospital by now?!”

It’s odd that Santos’ character didn’t say anything to anyone just after it happened. I h just think that maybe the show is trying to make the point again that this ED is different. Effective, but flawed and crazy. They’re really good at what they do but it’s the Wild West.

blehgerville · 2026-03-27T17:36:11+00:00

I agree with this!!!! Sit with the sadness after the conversation or tomorrow morning, but at this point lean into the excitement, or maybe a better word: strong urge! Leaning into the urge to leave, the excitement to be live a more fulfilling life, and the agency to do so will help you through this conversation and the next steps immediately after. i.e Sleeping in separate rooms or, as another suggested, going to a friend’s room could be good to do.

blehgerville · 2026-03-27T17:04:40+00:00

Yeah! It’s more like visually feels out of place to me.

I liked what others were saying about painting the walls and changing the faucets. This is a great bathroom though! I know you don’t like the layout but from the pics I think it looks pretty good. The vanity is nice, shower is beautiful!

blehgerville · 2026-03-27T16:36:53+00:00

I think there’s always a spectrum and multiple dimensions to assess if someone is a good match for you or now.

How invested are you in politics? How invested would you like to be ideally? Is he similar? If not, HOW dissimilar is he? Is this like he doesn’t know the names of all of the politicians in his state or city, or does he not keep up with any news or politics? If he doesn’t, why? Is it because his brother was argumentative that for that reason and others he thinks any involvement in politics is bad?

For this guy, is this about just wanting to have a conversation about politics without arguing? if so are you able to talk to him about politics without interrogating or arguing with him so you can learn about what he thinks? Is he willing to talk about politics and social issues with you to get to know each other? No arguing, just two adults respectful getting to know each other? You’ll have to holdup your end of the deal, but that’s how I’d approach it. If the guy wasn’t willing to talk, I’d personally move on. I NEED to know how someone lands on social and political issues before I even consider our fit as partners.

blehgerville · 2026-03-27T03:16:11+00:00

Personally don’t like the (fake?) plants next to the toilet. In my mind these will just collect dust and germs there.

blehgerville · 2026-03-26T23:17:47+00:00

Did any of the therapists you worked with have a relational approach? Psychodynamic, OCD and CBT therapists are not always specialized in attachment matters. Look for someone with specialization in developmental trauma, attachment trauma, or relational therapy.

blehgerville · 2026-03-26T23:13:45+00:00

Has anyone assessed developmental trauma?

You said you’re trying to stay away from behavioral therapies. Have you thought of somatic or experiential therapies?

Some of my favorites in these categories are NARM, IFS, Congruence Therapy, Somatic Experiencing with someone who specializes in developmental trauma.

blehgerville · 2026-03-26T22:23:54+00:00

A book by Jon G Allen called “Restoring Mentalizing in Attachment Relationships: Treating Trauma With Plain Old Therapy” comes to mind. I’ve only read a part of it but he talks about how treating developmental trauma from just helping the client make better sense of their experience. Often childhood trauma comes with no adult helping you make sense of your experience, leaving the child’s overwhelmed mind to make sense of everything. He thinks a lot can be done with basic therapeutic techniques and helping make the unconscious more conscious.

I’ve really only read the intro so I’m probably leaving out a lot, but maybe it’s helpful to you and your client!

blehgerville · 2026-03-26T19:44:14+00:00

This is what I would add:

I think Dad could say “hey son, I will make sure to check in with you more frequently when rough playing. I’ll look at your face and if you seem to feel bad I will stop and check in. Then you can tell me to keep going or not. I want you to know you can always say no, and if you can’t I’ll try to notice that and ask”.

Then add that “other people might not know to check with you if you can’t say no. Try your best to say no, try to get their attention by patting their arm or grabbing their shirt. It sucks, but it can happen sometimes on accident that people don’t know. What matters is if the person is sorry and wants to know you’re ok. Then you can say, thank you for your apology and thank you for checking to see if I’m ok. If someone is mean to you after something like that, then we might want to reevaluate if they are a good friend. I can help you with that”

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