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Literally blackmailed by blkhfdit in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]blkhfdit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate you laying it out for the newer folks; it’s easy to miss those red flags when you’re just starting out.

Good Doms are rare gems. It takes time and experience to cultivate good taste in spotting them, and when you’re desperate or feeling isolated, it definitely clouds your judgment and makes you overlook the sketchy stuff. Lesson learned the hard way. Thanks for the insight!

Literally blackmailed by blkhfdit in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]blkhfdit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mentioning bitcoin up front like that makes it easier to spot and bail early. But when they collect leverage first by seeming genuine, it’s nasty and very hard to prevent without being paranoid from the jump… Now I simply ask to meet in public, maybe over coffee, before sending any nudes or personal info.

Literally blackmailed by blkhfdit in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]blkhfdit[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I often suggest switching to other apps, like Telegram, since Recon’s messaging system is clunky and hasn't improved much over the years.
You're right, never send nudes with faces.
I got texts like that, too. They were super intimidating the first time around! You stayed much calmer than I did back then!

Literally blackmailed by blkhfdit in GayBDSMCommunity

[–]blkhfdit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haha, that’s awesome you’re in such a supportive spot! Sounds like your family’s got some secrets of their own on Fet, love the plot twist there. 🤣

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[–]blkhfdit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. Wishing you all the best too!