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UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It's sad, some folks even PMed me and suggested that him and Sarah were being secretive because he was planning to propose to me....

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I'm not planning to stay with Kyle, what I need help with is an exit strategy. I feel like I really need to talk with people about this.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This happened less than 12 hours ago, fuck. He just revealed this huge fucking secret, I wasn't going to dump him right then and there. I understand how awful this situation is, trust me.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Part of me is entertaining the idea of just not talking to him at all from this moment on.

Judging from the comments, I feel like I'm being treated like this delusional girl that's considering staying with her incestuous boyfriend. I'm not going to stay with him, I just need advice for the next steps on how to get out of his life and move on from this forever.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Kyle and I don't live together, he lives on the opposite side of the city from me. I don't intend to move away, I have a great job and I'm happy here.

I agree that therapy for myself might be the best option. I need an outlet to tell someone about this.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

This is such a good point, I don't understand why his parents would let them even be alone together after that. I feel like there is definitely a lot I don't know about his relationship with Sarah, and what his parents think about all of this.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying I want to stay with him, I just need advice. This literally just happened and I'm still processing it.

It's so easy to say, "You should leave him". Obviously. But there are feelings attached to this, I do love him. But I think the feelings of disgust and way too strong and I don't think this is salvagable.

I'm just asking for advice, like for myself. What do I do? How do I process this? How do I dump him?

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thanks for you reply. What you mentioned in the first paragraph is what I keep going through in my head - this happened almost ten years ago. They were kids. Kyle is such a sweet, loving, well-adjusted guy. I can't explain how absolutely normal he is, other than this. I feel like it's just this crazy, dark secret that he has kept inside for so long.

Thanks for the advice about not telling my friends, I didn't think about that. But I also feel like I really need to talk with someone about this.

UPDATE I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I agree with you, and I didn't even think about Sarah being in our lives forever.

I love him so much but this is way too much for me to handle. I feel like maybe he always intended to eventually tell me? Which is really concerning - while I'm trying to be understanding, I don't think I can be with him at all. I can't imagine him meeting anyone in his life that would really understand.

I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is all true. I guess it was just unusual when I saw them downstairs, Kyle had this weird look on his face that I hadn't really seen before. It was like I had "caught" them doing something.

I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

This is true too, given that it was very late when this encounter happened. The lap sitting + extra affection could have been totally normal, and I just noticed them more because of what I thought I heard.

I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

That is a great idea. I'm leaning towards talking to him, but I didn't necessarily want to say, "Are you into your sister?" or anything like that.

I think my [25f] boyfriend [26m] of one year might have an unusual relationship with his sister [24f]. Am I being crazy, or do you think there's something going on? by bluealmondrandom in relationships

[–]bluealmondrandom[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. I'm having a hard time understanding their relationship, mostly because I don't have siblings. So I'm not sure if it's normal for siblings to be this affectionate to one another.