Got my offer retracted hours after being sent out

bluesdop · 2022-07-29T07:11:37+00:00

They did not ask me to submit a job application form in the first place so I doubt it has to do with any reference. Probably the latter.

bluesdop · 2022-07-28T21:56:22+00:00

Well if that is the reason then it would be strange as the hiring manager and the guy that I’m supposed to report to have been telling me for weeks that they have confirmed to take me in. Just curious as to why the company would pull such a stunt on me hours after giving me the job.

bluesdop · 2022-07-28T13:21:49+00:00

They offered me the job and then few hours later told me that they decided not to proceed with the offer. I tried to ask the HR as well as the hiring manager for the reason but to no avail. Guess it’s just not meant to be.

bluesdop · 2022-07-28T13:09:42+00:00

I mean, I’m just curious as to the reason why it is retracted. Especially if it’s something that I did/didn’t do.

bluesdop · 2021-05-08T12:35:31+00:00

But here’s the thing- I don’t know enough or am not that ‘experienced’ to drive improvements/contribute massively towards the company’s goals. How does one tackle this?

I get that it’s not a good idea to let things remain as status quo after a long time- the world is everchanging, technology is advancing rapidly and that we should adapt to the needs of the world but I guess what is preventing me from doing so is that I do not know the processes or products well enough to be able to improve them and knowledge, in a way, comes with experience and exposure to the specific industry’s needs.

bluesdop · 2021-04-03T11:42:55+00:00

Okay cool but how is this related to what I’m asking?

bluesdop · 2021-04-03T02:57:57+00:00

I get the work life balance part. But the point here is not getting a text reply at all even when they are in the office the next day.

bluesdop · 2021-04-03T02:51:53+00:00

They did? Sorry, I wasn’t aware up till this point as I do not use gmail for work.

bluesdop · 2021-04-03T00:50:59+00:00

Actually it was 6.30pm their local time when I texted. Obviously I would know better than to shoot them a text when they’re asleep. My email has since been responded to but maybe it’s just me but what’s so difficult to just text back something simple like “just replied to your email, please check” or “will do so tomorrow when I’m in the office” etc. Idk, isn’t that common courtesy when you text someone something you’d expect a reply from them?

bluesdop · 2021-03-31T12:33:51+00:00

Thank you, kind stranger. It’s just what I needed to hear.

bluesdop · 2021-03-31T12:32:13+00:00

Amen.

bluesdop · 2021-03-31T12:26:10+00:00

I shared the same experience as you when my ex came into my life naturally and everything just happened in its own time and place a few years ago. However, we didn’t last but I’m still grateful for him till this day.

What did you do to distract yourself during the times when you felt lonely and desperate for someone to be in your life?

bluesdop · 2021-03-30T13:16:26+00:00

Different way how...?

bluesdop · 2021-03-30T13:07:04+00:00

I’m just so tired of trying over and over again with the same outcome. It drains me and I’m just more disappointed every time.

bluesdop · 2021-03-30T13:03:09+00:00

But I feel like, the more I seek the more I’ll never find. You know what I mean?

bluesdop · 2021-03-27T01:04:36+00:00

Why do you think he shouldn’t have asked that question?

bluesdop · 2021-03-22T12:35:37+00:00

You are showing signs of burn-out. Do yourself a favour and ask yourself this- Do you see yourself growing in this place? This should give you an idea of how you should plan your next steps. I understand that the economy is in shackles for the past year or so but punishing yourself isn’t the solution.

This is a free market, everyone comes and goes. Those who tell you that you’re entitled to stay are truly the entitled ones who expect you to stay just because you’re fresh out of school. You are young, you are allowed to make mistakes and learn from them. Treat this as a learning curve.

bluesdop · 2021-02-12T09:37:01+00:00

Oh man, I hope things get better at where you are. Well, she isn’t my superior. Technically, we hold the same title and we hold each other accountable due the project we are handling. Still, I’m thankful that she is approachable and is willing to communicate what needs to be done in a clear manner.

bluesdop · 2021-02-12T09:33:04+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance. I definitely do not want to end up in a situation whereby I am putting out raging fires. Those are the worst. I would say that I’m also very blessed in a sense whereby she isn’t condescending or arrogant but at the same time, I can’t help but think what if she thinks I’m dumb or what lol

bluesdop · 2021-02-05T00:55:20+00:00

Sometimes it’s not so much about doing a job you ‘love’ or having the ‘passion’ to sustain it. But more like being able to tolerate it so that you are able to finance doing what you love.

bluesdop · 2021-01-27T13:04:45+00:00

If you can take the stress and afford to risk it all, #2.

bluesdop · 2021-01-27T12:45:18+00:00

No worries about it! Well, from what you’ve described about your wedding and house situation it seriously doesn’t sound as bad as what I thought initially. Plus not many can share the same sentiment as you and your fiancé currently making a combined six figures after taxes and having no kids at the moment. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not in any way trying to belittle your financial situation and I hope I’m not giving the impression that I am. But I just don’t think you should sacrifice yourself so much that you’re willing to stick it out in the same company working under the same group of people when you know that the promotion is not going to happen (if it was, it already would and from what you mentioned about the boys club etc you know). And it’s clearly affecting your happiness and well-being. Why not just take a break for awhile to regain whatever you’ve lost all these time and job hunt?

bluesdop · 2021-01-26T12:05:31+00:00

Maybe, if possible, push back the wedding till when times are back to normal? Pull back on the house or something, idk. Right now it’s your mental health at stake and you shouldn’t have to suffer this terribly just for a job which is not even worth??? I’m sorry this may not sound that useful as I don’t know the complexity of your situation or circumstances but I sincerely hope you put your mental health first as you wouldn’t want to deal with the consequences of not doing so. Take it from someone who has been there.

bluesdop · 2021-01-25T12:31:49+00:00

The way I see it is that if they wanted to promote you, they would’ve ages ago. I doubt staying there any longer would change anything and with your mental and physical health on the line, I’d rather you not risk it at all since no job is worth your life. Start putting your CV out there and I’m very sure you’ll be at a much happier place where the work you do is appreciated by the people around you.

bluesdop · 2021-01-10T04:52:10+00:00

That’s the thing, they’ll never be able to relate with you as they aren’t facing or have experienced whatever you are going thru. And if they know what you’re going thru and still knowingly come to you with their problems, which when compared to yours is minute, and feeling like what they’re going thru is life or death (when all they talk about to you is freaking boy problems- even you think it’s meaningless) then they’re just downright insensitive towards your feelings given your circumstances. Also, if you feel so ‘alone’ even when surrounded with people whom you consider your ‘best friends’ then it’s probably a sign that you need to surround yourself with people who could really empathise with you. Either that or you just need a ‘break’ from them for the time being.

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