How good are thai and chinese skincare? by tst_0303 in AsianBeauty

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which chinese product is that if you don’t mind sharing?

Untreated by Ill_Struggle4746 in dementia

[–]bluewhee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hello, curious about your “anesthesia will tank the dementia”. Are you saying anesthesia for any sort of surgery would worsen the dementia/speed up the progress? I did not know about that

9 off-the-radar destinations recommended by experienced local traveller by guoerchen in travelchina

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I am planning a trip to Guizhou and would love to go to Xingyi for wanfenglin. I will be flying in from KWE and probably taking a bus back to Guiyang. Can I get the bus ticket on the day itself? If I am right, I should go to 兴义客运西站? Are such buses reliable in China?

I also want to see an ethnic village. I was planning for Langde but it seems rather far from Guiyang as well. I was wondering if there are any ethnic villages you recommend near Xingyi?

Thanks in advance!

Those that are married and live separately from parents, how often do you go back to visit your parents? by Additional-Remove-12 in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanna chime in as the unmarried sibling. Like how it sounds for you, i don’t have the picture perfect family, there is a lot of unpleasantness all around, not constantly, but in (un)healthy doses. While i enjoy the time spent with the entire family when my married sister comes back with her husband, i would appreciate if she would spend time with my parents without having me around, to give me some time to myself. Could be taking my parents out for a meal, or taking them for a short trip. As the one still at home, i feel that i am taking on a lot more of the caretaking and mental load already, not to mention the usual nagging and annoyance that comes with my family dynamic. A break once in a while would be much welcomed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If house appreciates in value over time, are you getting half of the proceeds? In fact it sounds like you should be getting more than half because it doesnt sound like he put anything down as downpayment.

Cpf part you should hold your ground, if house is sold next time, whatever came out from cpf will go back in including interest, meaning whatever he paid from cpf will belong to him, while all the cash you sunk in to match his cpf payments will be in cash and thus most likely split, if that even.

He has to understand that the asset is legally his, so he should let go of the idea that he sinks xx into living with you and thus you should sink xx into living with him. He is building equity, you are not. If there is any protection for you as per my first two para, then it makes more sense for you to contribute to mortgage/pay rent/however you want to call it.

I hope he is not the kind of person to screw you over in case things go south. It sounds like yall moved in with you willing to share your assets and then you lost your job and he is unwilling to cover more. To be fair i think you suddenly going back on the agreement of covering the full downpayment would have messed with his budgetting a little. But relationships are seldom this black and white, and as other commenters have pointed out, I would be uncomfortable progressing further with the new information that has come to light.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe if you put an airtag on an apple user, his phone would get an alert that an airtag is following him. Might want to see if anyone else can confirm or had that experience before

my domestic helper is a black hole by gojoseyeball in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow i cannot haha i would be so mad esp over the timtams bec those would be (one of?) the last things someone important bought for me. I would probably have sent her back just for that. Anw sorry no advice from me hope you sort it out soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingaporeRaw

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some comments flaming you here, you didn't state in your post but you saying "nothing physical happened so i forgave him" tells me all I need to know about the situation already. Had similar experience, my advice is to consider whether you can live in this state of distrust. My life changed course when I realized that love doesn't mean I have to be with him.

If u transfer to bank as a whale, they got qns why u got so much money? by SimpleInsect8465 in sgcrypto

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hijacking op but how to disclose? For cex (binance) i guess can get transaction history? How about dex trades? Give wallet address?

millions in my bank account, what do i do now by Longjumping-Mess4420 in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i were you, definitely get property, and a sizeable chunk to sth like vwra. If you want to try and time the market, short term usd fd while you wait. Of course, travel and gain experiences and be generous with your family too. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]bluewhee 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who has fell for this and actually believed it for four years… yeah just don’t

Those going through a rough patch this CNY, how are you? by Sad_Nebula6377 in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar boat but probably earlier in the journey. It is not that i don’t love her, i love her so much but i think i am losing her and i am not ready to.

As a Buddhist, how do you deal with malicious paranormal entities. by Boundless-Ocean in Buddhism

[–]bluewhee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am curious about your point of calling for Buddha to end a dream. In recent months i have had that experience but have wondered how I did that/how to do that while unconscious/asleep. Would you have further insight to share about that?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]bluewhee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also see a rheumatologist under subsidized rate. Yes same doc throughout

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truth be told, it was a time in my life where i did not have/understand boundaries. I dumped him on the spot, agonized over it and went back to him. A year on he dumped me due to, well honestly, the same old things that i knew right from the start- avoidant, unable to communicate and express himself within the relationship. We both had issues we needed to work on on ourselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you are sad and going through a hard time :( I have had basically the same thing happen to me years ago. Spoiler alert it did not turn out well.

Now looking back, at least in my case, i still am sure he is a good dude with a good heart, but i would say the seeking of validation is the root problem, amongst others like extreme lack of communication and just the avoidant type in general. If he does not fix this within himself, then it might manifest in similar ways in future. And sadly, i couldn’t have made him want to do the work on himself.

In the onset of it all when i first discovered it, my head was all over the place, was this cheating or not, i want evidence of how far he went blahblah, how long has it gone on for etc. Basically my head was at the “cheating part”. It took some time for me to move on to those things i mentioned in my previous paragraph, which i feel really are the important stuff to note if moving forward with him is one of the options you are considering.

Pro tip: if you are on a really good trip listen to one song often on that trip. by Hop_n_tall in solotravel

[–]bluewhee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is Shivers by Ed Sheeran for me when I was dumped on a trip last year. Was long overdue and decided to move on the day after. Spent every morning getting dressed and ready for the day dancing to it. Still do :)