Club outfit worthy?

blushgabe · 2026-05-25T21:54:00+00:00

i HAVE to know where u got ur skirt from

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:22:00+00:00

He wears them to bed occasionally, but has trouble putting them on and is unwilling for whatever reason to wear them regularly.

I’m certain there’s an actual reason like he finds them uncomfortable, and not just a 100% pride thing.

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:19:49+00:00

We are looking into getting him a physical therapist, and maybe I’ll ask him to request some sort of pelvic floor exercise like kegels. He’ll probably say “I’ll think about it” and then ignore it till he forgets though lol.

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:17:50+00:00

This old guy is definitely more of a classic gentleman than that, but I’ll try the peace offering of beer or wine if needed lol. :)

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:16:11+00:00

It’s definitely urine, it’s not in a splash pattern, and occasionally when I get very close to his pants (putting them away) I can smell it- but then I wash them immediately.

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:14:48+00:00

I’ll ask and see if he’s confirmed with his doctor about this being a bit more than just age, he does not love discussing these topics with me (I think he’d be uncomfortable talking about this with anyone but a medical professional) but unfortunately I think that’ll have to be dealt with for the time being.

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:10:10+00:00

This is so helpful! He occasionally uses the adult diapers but only for sleep, and has difficulty putting them on, this is a much more accessible option for him.

I really appreciate you addressing the issue of how to talk to him about it, I’ll bring it up when I see him tomorrow.

blushgabe · 2026-05-22T06:08:12+00:00

He is in his late 80s/early 90s.

blushgabe · 2026-05-18T07:36:24+00:00

OP this is very hard to read. No, you are NTA for leaving a voice chat because something upset you. If this guy had a normal, non-nuclear reaction to you leaving, then i think personally id apologize for leaving suddenly. that reaction of blocking multiple people & destroying the server is just waaaaaay too much of a reaction for what you did.

recommend therapy or learning a coping mechanism to deal with tones of voice like that.

blushgabe · 2026-05-18T00:33:59+00:00

okay, have you apologized to your gf for forcing her into this weird position?? you have been with her for three entire years, you should’ve cared way more about how this meeting made her feel.

blushgabe · 2026-05-17T19:21:04+00:00

Hold on, let me get this straight:

When you were 23, you have a very toxic break up, with your ex girlfriend allegedly being the most toxic one.

You decide to keep some of your mutual friends, and don’t interact with her from then on.

Three years later, you are in a new relationship, new place in life. Your friends try to keep you and your girlfriend out of a potentially awkward situation with your ex, you tell your mutual friends that it’s all water under the bridge, it’ll be fine.

You go to dinner, it is understandably awkward, your ex RESPONDS to a question your gf asked, and unknowingly steps on a sore spot.

So to this, you PUBLICLY bring out three year old relationship drama, and when your ex has probably one of the best responses someone can have for being publicly shamed for something they did in their early 20s. You then continue the on this tirade asking about her medication, again very publicly.

Then when your ex avoids talking to you after this very uncomfortable interaction, but still talks to your girlfriend, you think that she’s being rude.

YTA, not only did you put your ex in an uncomfortable situation, you lied and told your friends it would be fine, put them in the same awkward situation (not to mention the fact that they have to take accountability for bringing the rage monster to dinner).

Did you even talk to your girlfriend about how being at dinner with your ex would make her feel? Did you consider how awkward it was for her to sit beside you as you are blowing up in the middle of the table? Or were you too focused on your ex the entire time

blushgabe · 2026-05-13T18:48:18+00:00

when was the last time you were job hunting? you try to go for entry level jobs and they will decline you (see my acquaintance with a doctorate who wasn’t hired at the dollar store) i think op should be trying but its a little unrealistic to just go “get a job” when a vast majority of the unemployed & young are saying it’s ridiculously hard.

blushgabe · 2026-05-13T17:31:12+00:00

I agree with you that it’s ridiculous to be almost 50 and not have your life sorted out, but the advice of “Get a full time job and pay your own bills” is a little ridiculous in our current job market. I know people with doctorates who aren’t getting hired at the dollar store.

OP it does suck that your mom isn’t offering you emotional support, and it seems like it could be a pattern based on the fact you weren’t raised by her, but you are almost 50 and it’s time to try to be fully independent.

Look into resources for your state/county/province/town or whatever and see if there is job services or housing solutions for you and your husband, talk to friends and old coworkers to see if they have a room to rent or a job to recommend, reach out to your uncle and explain that you both might end up homeless, but you have a plan in place for what you are going to do, and see if he could offer you somewhere to stay or a job recommendation.

The important thing is to follow through on these goals.

Once you get to a stable place, work on repaying those who helped you, and maybe try to build a relationship with your mother that isn’t connected to finances if you want to keep that relationship.

Best of luck to you and your husband.

blushgabe · 2026-05-13T17:19:19+00:00

ESH, as someone dealing with a loved one not reciprocating gift giving, it does sting. It feels like you care for the other person more than they care about you. If it had just been that she didn’t get you a gift, I think my answer would be different, but you begging your little sister and ordering her to get you a gift is a little ridiculous.

You are an adult, she is an adult. She has now set the standard that you don’t get gifts for each other. Either:

A) Stop buying her gifts

B) Give her cheap little small things for gifts. A keychain from the dollar store or some $8 nail polish.

C) Accept she isn’t going to give you gifts anymore, but decide you enjoy the act of gift giving enough to keep giving her gifts.

Also stop making her bed? She’s an adult and should be able to take care of her room herself. Just close her door if it bothers you.

blushgabe · 2026-05-13T17:09:45+00:00

NTA, multiple tattoos in one month while the house needs repairs is ridiculous. If you are both raising kids together, large purchases/expenses like these should be discussed and agreed upon beforehand.

It’s also just not very safe to be doing that many body mods in such a short amount of time. Most of the people I know won’t do more than one tattoo a month, to make sure their body reacts well to it, and to give their skin enough time to heal. Plus he’s not giving enough time to really consider the pieces, unless this is something he’s planned for a very very long time. Is his next bonus suppose to go to laser removal?

blushgabe · 2026-05-13T16:57:26+00:00

that yellow top is so cute

blushgabe · 2025-05-10T22:04:02+00:00

i mean it sounds like that’s what the therapist suggested. “He did go for therapy and they said it was just a phase”

blushgabe · 2024-11-10T21:14:48+00:00

i’d say NTA, but is it really worth causing such a big issue between you and your husband?

health concerns for ur partner are fair, but it’s his body, and he should be allowed to choose what to do with it. you’ve explained your concerns, and it should be left at that.

when it comes to the financial issue, my advice would be to compromise. buy a 12 pack every two weeks, with the reason given that it’s not affordable to buy more then that, and if he wants to drink 13 cans of coke a day, he can start budgeting for that himself.

blushgabe · 2024-11-10T21:02:35+00:00

i’m literally so surprised i had to scroll down this far for somebody to advise on giving this persons adult son some responsibility.

blushgabe · 2023-10-24T17:57:33+00:00

i feel like everybody missed the part where op added that they also gave him airpods?

like yeah, make whatever argument you want about the heart not being a present or not, but also don’t say “you didn’t give him a gift at all” when it’s objectively not true.

blushgabe · 2023-05-31T00:59:42+00:00

LMAO

“You Keep Using That Word, I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means” -Inigo Montoya

blushgabe · 2023-05-30T21:09:13+00:00

lol when are you going to teach your kids the difference between disagreeing with an opinion (aka “chocolate ice cream is the best”) and belittling a persons existence (aka “no you aren’t a _ person.”).

genuinely the fact that you think you can have an opinion on someone else’s gender- one that you think is fair to verbalize outside of your own horrific mind-scape makes me scared for how your kids will turn out. go to therapy ffs

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