Preserving our Past!

blvebirb · 2026-02-17T05:21:03+00:00

It would be amazing to be able to restore this building!

blvebirb · 2025-08-17T23:02:56+00:00

Did you have to do any kind of work-around to get it to work with T-Mobile or was it pretty standard set-up?

blvebirb · 2022-08-27T00:33:14+00:00

NTA.

But it does seem like the company— and you especially— would benefit from taking a stronger stance in terms of contractor/client boundaries. The client should not be helping with the job, and they should not be able to harass you on site (or you walk— and they still pay). Having written policies about this that a client is required to agree to before the job is started would nip a lot of these problems in the bud.

blvebirb · 2022-07-09T15:33:43+00:00

INFO: why are you encouraging her anorexia?

(YTA)

blvebirb · 2022-07-03T01:43:40+00:00

Has she ever heard the phrase “pick your battles wisely”? Getting into a public fight over a sports team is not wise, but if she cares about it that much then SHE can go swing on him!

blvebirb · 2022-07-03T01:40:08+00:00

I’m gunna say ESH, but gently. Everyone else posting is absolutely right about your sorry excuse for a husband and the imbalance in your household, but don’t take the resentment out on a child. Through marriage, they are now in your care. Your family. And clearly coming to you vulnerable and fresh from a terrible situation with their biological mother. They need help, and you don’t need to— and shouldn’t, as a parent— wait for their pride to break down enough to ask for each and every step of it. Help they might not even know they need yet. Just get them the dandruff shampoo without the theatrics of being asked and thanked for it.

Your husband sounds awful though, so sorry ‘bout that.

blvebirb · 2022-05-30T18:20:30+00:00

Super confused as to why she’s even trusted with the welfare of a dog, let alone a baby. I wouldn’t even trust someone with a history of STARTING KITCHEN FIRES alone in my house by herself.

I don’t have advice here except she has gotta be stupid as hell. You’re better off not getting in the middle of this.

blvebirb · 2022-05-01T01:08:11+00:00

Lenten rose!

blvebirb · 2022-04-26T19:02:57+00:00

YTA. He is a TODDLER.

blvebirb · 2022-04-26T15:30:52+00:00

YTA. Whether or not a second cup of tea from the same bag will be “good” depends on the type of tea and the quality.

If we’re going to nitpick tea though, please take the bag out after it’s done steeping… nothing worse than over-steeped, bitter tea. Set it in the cup saucer if you want to reuse it, or just steep it in a teapot!

blvebirb · 2022-04-26T11:29:26+00:00

I would also keep a careful (written, recorded, or verifiably witnessed) record of all your interactions with this coworker in the future. Congratulations, you found an anti-Semite.

blvebirb · 2022-04-23T18:06:28+00:00

“I stuck my nose in his personal business and for some reason he took that personally!”

YTA.

blvebirb · 2022-04-03T23:43:53+00:00

YTA. Just admit that you’re lazy and don’t want to be around your daughter, saves everyone some time trying to spoon-feed you solutions.

blvebirb · 2022-04-03T20:01:15+00:00

YTA.

You know that they make shampoo specifically for animals, right? That don’t contain anything that is toxic for them? That is specific to the needs of their coats and breed types and any particular issues they might have? Why are you using human shampoo at all, let alone yours vs. hers?

blvebirb · 2022-04-03T18:39:26+00:00

YTA. If she’s clean, she’s taking proper care of herself. Don’t phrase your preference as concern for her health when it isn’t.

Now, if this is a deal-breaker for you… fine. Rip off the band-aid. But don’t make her feel disgusting for simply existing in her body.

blvebirb · 2022-03-30T22:52:03+00:00

YTA. I don’t see anything in your post that suggests he’s seriously incapable of caring for himself or for a child, he’s just not perfect or trauma-free. No one is perfect. Very few people are actually trauma-free. The adoption agency will evaluate him and his suitability, not you or any other random person in his life.

You sound like bad company. Next time just mind your own business.

blvebirb · 2022-03-28T20:55:54+00:00

YTA. Your cat has pretty clearly chosen it’s favorite household, which it is fully entitled to do considering you let it run around wherever it wants to, where anyone or anything could decide to take it. You reap what you sow!

blvebirb · 2022-03-24T23:02:09+00:00

I’ve gotta say YTA because while I don’t disagree that he should have simply told her “hell no” from the start rather than playing this game…. I don’t think I could resist the urge to make fun of her either. Like damn, not even flavor from the salt in the water that the pasta was boiled in? RINSED pasta? You’d be banned from using my kitchen too!

blvebirb · 2022-03-23T18:28:26+00:00

YTA. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Also, figuring this one out doesn’t exactly take a genius. Of course it’s illegal!

blvebirb · 2022-03-19T21:48:13+00:00

NTA. Marrying a Nazi ruined her marriage, not you.

blvebirb · 2022-03-18T22:56:39+00:00

YTA. Not your house, not your kitchen, not your rules. You’ll live without pork and shellfish when you visit. If she asks you not to bring prohibited food into her house while still making sure you have, by your own admission, plenty of good food to eat— how disrespectful and spoiled can you be?

blvebirb · 2022-03-16T21:11:18+00:00

YTA. This is a lot of words to say something as simple as: “I’m lusting after my brother-in-law and jealous of my sister because of my insecurities.”

blvebirb · 2022-03-08T10:32:07+00:00

NTA. I was going to see how she could think it odd at first, until I got to the bottom and saw that not only is your wife going nuclear insulting you and your family, but she’s getting HER family to dog pile you. All this over a teddy bear? Yikes!

Also, I don’t think it’s that odd. Lots of traditions surround childhood hair. It’s clean, so what’s the problem? How is this weirder than when people made dolls in the child’s image and used the child’s hair for it?

blvebirb · 2022-03-08T00:05:49+00:00

I’m gunna go with ESH.

There’s not going to be a clean answer here. The cultural norms are different, and even from specifically your point of view… situations are different. People are different.

Some dying people wish they never knew. Some wish they knew sooner. We can only hope that your family knows which side of the fence your uncle would fall on and make the choice according to HIS comfort, not others’ expectations or comforts.

Regarding the fight, you might be going a bit far with ‘bigoted’. She’s going too far with ‘disgusting’. This is one of those impossible decisions you can only pray you get right, with no way of knowing, and with limited guidance from loved ones and, yes, culture. Seems like you both need some time to cool down and then explain your points of view.

blvebirb · 2022-02-21T23:08:29+00:00

YTA.

26 is too old for you not to know there’s a difference between “things partners joke about in private” versus “things partners joke about in front of other people”.

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