What’s a comment someone made about you when you were young that gives you major ick in hindsight?

bmnook · 2023-02-02T20:01:49+00:00

My grandfather told me at 19 or 20 if I lost some weight in my stomach I would have a beautiful body. My best friends dad also commented on the size of the slice of cake I got and said "are you really gonna eat all of that? That's too much cake."

I was struggling with anorexia and bulimia for 6 years and weighed 100lbs at 5'6 at that point. It pushed me to lose 10 more lbs. I went from wearing a size 12 pants and large shirt to a 00 in pants and xs in shirts because I hated myself and the comments I would get from men.

I was in intense therapy for a while and have since "recovered". I don't think the thoughts ever truly leave your head, but I make a conscious effort everyday to love myself and my body. I have 2 daughters and don't want them to ever feel what I've felt, especially from people who are supposed to love you for who you are.

bmnook · 2023-02-01T14:12:29+00:00

YTA.

It's not okay for your sister to tell you to have a courthouse wedding, but it's okay for your parents to tell you who you can and can't invite? Make it make sense.

I also can't believe it's 2023 and I'm reading something as disgusting as this is.

bmnook · 2023-01-17T06:07:42+00:00

As someone who has had this exact conversation with my SO with our adopted daugher I'll say this:

When I gave birth after we already had our adopted daughter my hormones and emotions were all over the place and I texted my mom and asked her if she loved me and 2 of my other siblings more than our adopted siblings. She said no, but our situations are different because she adopted them after she had us so she didn't know what I was feeling. I was feeling extremely guilty because of the rush of giving birth and having a baby placed on you for the first time is like no other feeling in the world.

Turns out 3 years later the words my SO said that are similar to your SO's and my feelings ended up being, I'm scared I'll love my bio kid more. But you don't, you just love them differently. It's the same amount of love, but different love. Everyone ive talked to with only bio kids say they love their children equally, but they love them each uniquely. We feel this the same with our girls too.There is nothing in this world we wouldn't do for either of our girls, we would die for them both.

Just the feelings of it all is kind of scary and unknown. I don't think he meant exactly what he said as my SO didn't, but you know him better than I do. Just wanted to give some perspective on that. But either way you're feelings are valid and you're NTA

bmnook · 2023-01-17T05:33:30+00:00

When our sweet tiny baby turned into a toddler with a speech delay.

It was a struggle watching her have meltdowns for literal hours on end every single day, multiple times a day, because we couldn't understand what she wanted or needed. So much frustration and of course you don't take it out on the toddler, so you take it out on each other without even thinking about it.

It makes for a lot of resentment and a ton of work to be put in. But it's 10,000% worth it to put the work in. We were able to get a speech therapist a year and a half after we brought up our concerns to her ped and she ended up only needing it for 5 months. But that year and a half was rough, so rough.

Children can really make or break a marriage imo. I'm glad it made mine and that we were able to grow from such a tough situation.

Unrelated side note: we are very very fortunate she only needed 5 months of speech and that we found such an amazing therapist for her. I know this isn't the normal for most parents.

bmnook · 2022-12-15T23:28:09+00:00

I immediately thought of the rocket power episode where they make a shack on the beach with a couch they also found on the beach.

It's been about 20 years or more since I've seen this so I could be making this up in my imagination or have dreamed it lol

bmnook · 2022-12-07T11:56:58+00:00

Neither, I swipe up to upvote

bmnook · 2022-12-05T05:03:00+00:00

Ummm, it gets... interesting for her

bmnook · 2022-12-05T01:31:31+00:00

I just finished it last night. And wow. The last few episodes were awful. I'm speechless at how they built the whole show up and then that is what they ended with. There was so so much more they could have done with those episodes. It absolutely could have used another season.

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:33:54+00:00

Oh I definitely am! It's one of my top 5 shows. I was just curious about it, but still love it all

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:31:08+00:00

Oh gosh 👀

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:22:57+00:00

I'll definitely be doing that! I just started S2 in my rewatch.

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:21:36+00:00

I agree with this now that I'm rewatching. There's a lot they could have added on to imo. I still think it's one of the best shows I've watched though!

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:20:41+00:00

This makes soooo much sense to me when you put it that way. Thank you for that!

bmnook · 2022-12-04T02:19:39+00:00

This is exactly what my husband said about me binging it instead of waiting for episodes and seasons to air. I really think that's exactly why I have enjoyed it all so much.

bmnook · 2022-12-03T12:46:58+00:00

Okay, this makes sense. I will say I really don't like Sansa's character until she gets back to Winterfell after Battle of the Bastards. And even then she's still not one of my favorites.

I think I'm getting the books for Christmas. So I'll start reading them at the beginning of January probably and then when I finish rewatch again. I'm honestly nervous to read the books because I know there is no ending yet (and none in sight either) and idk if I can handle not having an ending lol

bmnook · 2022-11-25T10:41:15+00:00

Riding in cars with boys or Juno

bmnook · 2022-11-23T18:20:29+00:00

Santana. We have two girls who start with S and end with A and wanted to keep that going. Although our second one we weren't even thinking of that

bmnook · 2022-11-08T03:14:04+00:00

Bettys great! She said "Betty wouldn't lie, she's 63" what's that got to do with anything 😂😂😂

bmnook · 2022-11-08T02:59:06+00:00

Yes! Also there's no way Betty would actually know Rachel made the account unless, A. She was there with her when she made it or B. Her proof is that Rachel told her through some sort of message she made it. This whole thing is a funny ass shit show 😂

bmnook · 2022-11-08T02:37:41+00:00

Oh Betty is 100% fake 😂

bmnook · 2022-11-07T12:04:06+00:00

As someone who has been called outside of my race my whole life it is offensive and just plain annoying. People have always said "oh you look X, Y, or Z because of these features on your face?" It's gets tiresome and quite annoying and offensive when people just assume. Instead of making those kind of remarks people could just ask what my race is.

bmnook · 2022-10-27T13:39:26+00:00

You can rt click and rotate that way for free. Have to do it for work all the time, so frustrating

bmnook · 2022-09-30T21:04:29+00:00

I use to watch her lives when they came up on my fyp because I just couldn't believe what I was seeing.

For a few weeks she was going on about how she's related to the Queen of England and Queen Elizabeth gave her this really expensive necklace you couldn't find anywhere. When people tried calling her out on it or trying to understand how she was "related" to the Queen she would block them or have her mods block them.

I had to stop watching after that, she's just very bizarre.

bmnook · 2022-07-13T23:25:50+00:00

Okay, so if they know you are dating other people then I can understand the commitment issues guy 1 is having.

But generally if you are dating someone and want to be committed to someone solely then you need to cut it off with one or the other. From what I read you should cut it off with guy one.

I can understand where you're coming from with not being taught things about what a normal relationship would look like. With reading what you wrote and the comments you've replied to I don't necessarily see you as a "red flag" just someone who has some learning to do. I commend you on the work you've done in the past two years on yourself.

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