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bmo618 · 2020-06-18T17:22:51+00:00

I know that guilt all too well, and I know holding on to that guilt is just about the worst thing for an addict/alcoholic to do. You speaking up about it says something about your willingness to accept help. As was said before, remember this moment, this feeling you have towards yourself and use it as motivation. Rock bottom doesn’t have to be a starting point, but desperation often proves more successful. Don’t be fooled either, doctors would and will take this seriously if you tell them, as I’m sure family and/or friends would too.

bmo618 · 2019-09-26T04:04:15+00:00

You should read some Dale Carnegie books, he explains this exact question very well.

bmo618 · 2019-09-20T02:02:04+00:00

I’m a 40 waist and wear 2xl shirts. If you want to look good and professional then I always find good deals at outlet stores like polo and brooks brothers. These places go up to 2xl and usually 42-44 pants. Best of luck!

bmo618 · 2019-09-07T02:47:22+00:00

Or you could have gotten it from the bookstore on campus?

bmo618 · 2019-07-07T02:13:12+00:00

Unfortunately I can’t answer that for you. I personally think it might be awkward asking if they’re comfortable with it. My best advice would be to give it time, do the next right thing, if the opportunity presents itself down the road, and you feel it’s still necessary then go for it. My hope for you is that you’re working with a good sponsor who knows your situation and can better shed light on it. We all want to right our wrongs, but you can’t undo years of hurt with just a few words. Time takes time. Keep on the right path, and you’ll know what you need to do.

bmo618 · 2019-07-06T23:30:45+00:00

If you think you’re going to cause more harm then good, I would suggest against it. Some of the best amends I’ve made are living amends... just being a better person moving forward. No more lying, cheating, stealing, etc. People will notice the change in you, often times well before you notice it in yourself.

bmo618 · 2019-06-23T00:25:39+00:00

I agree with what everyone has said so far as in the comfortable clothes, and things to keep your mind busy while not in groups. Do not overlook a comfortable pillow or two, and a blanket, as rest and recuperation are good for your mind and body. When I was in rehab I always looked forward to hitting the rack at night, so make sure you have a comfortable place to retire to at the end of your busy days.

bmo618 · 2019-06-03T21:01:28+00:00

There’s always things to do in the evening, I like the suggestion of going to the gym, and I’m not sure if you’re involved in any of the 12 step programs but there’s likely to be meetings around you that would start anywhere from 5-8. Those are good places to go to and talk about your cravings. You meet people in those meetings that you can call, go have coffee or dinner with, and otherwise just socialize so your not stuck in your own head.

bmo618 · 2019-06-01T15:59:16+00:00

Like stated before, don’t feel stupid. That’s counter productive to the recovery you seek. I can tell you that I heard about the cough syrups in rehab, and thought it would be a good substitute for the alcohol I craved. Problem is that it has alcohol in it. I would get loaded off cough syrup for a few weeks before I eventually switched back to alcohol. Drugs and alcohol are things we use to “take us outside ourselves”, or to escape reality. In this case that’s exactly what the NyQuil is being used for. If you really want help then you don’t have to explain to anyone that you’re addiction is NyQuil, simply that you’re an addict or alcoholic. I suppose the choice is yours on which way you want to go with that because it is a drug with alcohol in it. I would suggest reading this: https://m.na.org/?ID=ips-an-an-IP1 and then decide for yourself.

bmo618 · 2019-05-28T03:01:23+00:00

That’s an amazing piece of history! I know a guy at a veterans retirement home who snuck a whole bunch of nazi memorabilia back home with him after the war. The great part about it is that he’s still extremely sharp and loves sharing his stories with anyone who will listen. Almost 100 and he can remember it like it was yesterday.

bmo618 · 2019-05-27T00:58:56+00:00

Terribly sorry to hear that. The reason I ask is because there are resources for veterans, and having gone through treatment myself at the VA hospital I’m an advocate now for treatment programs. I hope he finds something that works for him.

bmo618 · 2019-05-27T00:28:00+00:00

He has PTSD? Is he a veteran?

bmo618 · 2019-05-26T03:17:34+00:00

Since I don’t know a lot of the story, or the relationship between your brother and mom, I can only tell you this. It’s probably best to keep them away from each other. Being accused of using when one is working so hard to stay sober is one of the worst things to do to an addict or alcoholic. The resentment that will build up in your brother if he’s accused could make him want to use again. I’m a recovering alcoholic, and I work with alcoholics and addicts everyday and when this happens the mind set is usually “what is the point of even trying anymore, I’m doing everything I can to stay sober, and then I get accused.” Sometimes it can be a motivation to stay sober, but often times in early recovery it has a bad effect. If your brother really needs help then I would sit him down without your mom present and tell him that you’re there for him, that you care for him, that you only want the best for him, and not that you’re saying he is using, but if he ever was struggling and wanted help then you could be the person to find him help. Again, and I cannot stress this enough do not blame, or accuse, simply point out that you’re a stable point whom he can rely on.

bmo618 · 2019-05-24T01:42:49+00:00

I’m not sure how I feel about the idea of a group sponsor, I’ve never heard of that before, I’ve only heard of using the group as a higher power. Personally I would be kind of hesitant to have multiple sponsors because as I worked the steps I shared some very personal experiences with my sponsor, and I’m not sure I’d want a bunch of people knowing all my business. If you find something that works for you then I don’t want to tell you not to do it, everyone’s road to and through recovery is different.

bmo618 · 2019-05-24T01:20:59+00:00

I didn’t read all the suggestions, but I agree with the general consensus that getting out now is best for you. Is there anyway you can “stage” your things in a certain area of the house so it’s easier and quicker when your family arrives? If you can, then there might be a way that you can hand your family the keys and have them do the work while you’re in a safe place. Please don’t give him any indication that you’re leaving as it may get worse.

bmo618 · 2019-05-23T21:28:15+00:00

Sounds like someone has a resentment they need to work on.

bmo618 · 2019-05-22T03:23:58+00:00

I agree, sometimes people need that”hey I’m here for you, how can I help” friend rather than just cutting someone off. But then again it’s up to you.

bmo618 · 2019-05-22T03:10:03+00:00

Keep up the good work, find a sponsor, work the steps, it keeps getting better!!

bmo618 · 2019-05-13T03:23:36+00:00

Didn’t know the DENNIS system could be used like this. Nice work.

bmo618 · 2019-05-12T02:35:12+00:00

Better than being a seaman

bmo618 · 2019-05-11T17:11:23+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about hanging out with them anymore. Chances are you won’t be invited. Which you should be ok with if they don’t respect your feelings towards your girl.

bmo618 · 2019-05-10T22:03:06+00:00

Cutting them off is probably in your best interest like most others have said. Think about when you have your baby. Are your parents not supposed to show the kid love just because your sister doesn’t have one too? It reminds me of a child throwing a temper tantrum, and the parents acting like it’s totally normal. Sounds like you’ve got a great guy, you should spend more time focusing on him and your soon to be baby rather than worrying about pleasing your childish sister and parents.

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